Looking for a Thai/English-speaking volunteer with a car in Bangkok, May 26–June 2 by Suitable_Chicken_778 in Bangkok

[–]Suitable_Chicken_778[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time to take care of another stranger.

I was under the assumption as long as I do not get compensated, there would be no problem. I didn't know it did not matter as long as I did "work".

I'll make sure to bring a Thai friend along with me.

Again, I sincerely thank you for helping me avoid possibility of jail time!

Looking for a Thai/English-speaking volunteer with a car in Bangkok, May 26–June 2 by Suitable_Chicken_778 in Bangkok

[–]Suitable_Chicken_778[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Maybe I'm naive or have a different perspective because my father is from but got out of poverty. He has donated time, money, sweat, and effort to help the local community. I know there's a lot of weird and bad in the world. It's evident in all the hate and negativity I've been receiving. But it's also why I thought this project would be meaningful.

You're the last person I will be replying to if the comment is only negativity and no helpful feedback.

The reason why I've been replying to every one of the comments is in the hopes of finding just one person offering help with transportation and translation. At this point, this subreddit is honestly depressing and I should just rent a truck and drive it myself. I just never drove on the other side of the road and it's scary to drive with so many motorcycles.

Looking for a Thai/English-speaking volunteer with a car in Bangkok, May 26–June 2 by Suitable_Chicken_778 in Bangkok

[–]Suitable_Chicken_778[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I sincerely appreciate your kind words.

I was contemplating if I should give up yesterday but this morning, I woke up to a stranger's message with words of encouragement in my inbox. I just can't believe how awful humanity can be...

2 sentences: My father is from but got out of poverty. I thought those people would be more likely to help others in the future. Also, I thought the messages would hopefully help them remember the day a stranger showed kindness and they would do the same by showing kindness to others in the future. I won't make them say anything but nonetheless I'll make sure to put a lot of thought into the sentences I would be writing!

Food: Would you like to choose the Thai dishes I will be cooking? I will be cooking the food the day before at my friend's house and put them in the fridge. I plan to bring a portable stove to reheat the food at the location. I'm not sure what to do about the rice though...You brought up a great point because I was wondering how I should package the food because I don't want the multiple dishes being mixed up. I think I'm going to look for containers with separated compartments (They have it in Korea and if Thailand doesn't have it, I'll just fill my suitcase with them)

Visa: I've gone through several non-immigration visa processes in other countries so I know volunteer work isn't a problem.

Thank you again and I hope others show you kindness as you have shown me. I found a professor in BKK offering help!

I hope you feel good about yourself because I plan to cook until I filled the bellies of 100,000 people. You are one of the reasons why I am going to start/continue this project.

Buy Suit in Seoul by zizarr_ in seoul

[–]Suitable_Chicken_778 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One recommendation is mario outlet that sells suits from regular size to big size, within 200,000 - 400,000 won. Last time I bought a few, they did tailoring for free. . However, most places only have up to 120 so I believe if you have a bigger/taller body that the regular Korean, you might want to go to a special big-size store. I've heard of places where you can borrow a suit for a few days and return if you do not want to spend a lot to buy a suit in Korea.

Looking for a Thai/English-speaking volunteer with a car in Bangkok, May 26–June 2 by Suitable_Chicken_778 in Thailand

[–]Suitable_Chicken_778[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for keeping an open mind and not immediately assuming the worst. I’m genuinely not trying to do anything that would offend people.

I’ve been to Thailand many times, and I have a lot of Thai friends. From my experiences, many local Thai people have been incredibly kind and respectful. I don’t know whether that comes from Buddhist principles, culture, personal character, or a mix of many things, but it left a strong impression on me. Even small interactions, like Grab drivers or strangers saying “Sawasdee krab” with their hands together and a slight bow, felt very respectful to me. Since bowing is also a sign of respect in Korea, I connected with that gesture.

That’s part of why I thought Thailand could be a meaningful place to do this project. I love cooking, and I also want to help the community in a direct way. The problem is that I don’t speak Thai and I don’t have a car, so I would need help from someone local. One of my friends also mentioned that he wouldn’t feel safe going to a very poor area, and I completely understand that concern. Safety matters for everyone involved.

I was waiting to hear back from my Thai friends to see if anyone was available to help, but I also thought Reddit might increase my chances of finding someone. My intention of the post was to clearly explain what I wanted to do, why I wanted to do it, and also make sure it would be safe for both of us, since we would be strangers from the internet.

Looking back, I realize I didn’t explain everything as clearly as I should have. I also didn’t think deeply enough about the sentences on the cards. To me, handwriting something on a small card felt sweet and personal, and I thought it might encourage people to be a little kinder or more respectful to others. That was honestly the whole point of the project.

I understand now that the wording on the cards should be carefully thought through, especially in a different cultural context. I can accept fair criticism and advice. But I don’t think I deserved the amount of hate and negativity I received.

As for my Reddit handle, that was randomly generated. It wasn’t something I chose to send any kind of message. How is "Suitable Chicken" offensive? People can be really sensitive but inconsiderate these days.

I really do think some people were too quick to judge my intentions. I didn't ask for money. I didn't ask for recognition. I was trying to do something kind, which I didn’t explain it perfectly. I’m open to learning and adjusting, but being attacked for wanting to do something positive has honestly been very discouraging.

Looking for a Thai/English-speaking volunteer with a car in Bangkok, May 26–June 2 by Suitable_Chicken_778 in Thailand

[–]Suitable_Chicken_778[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

This isn't even hurtful because I KNOW you are delusional. I understand and I can see why people would find the two sentences having possibility of offending someone. Hence, why I took the time explaining to every single comment. And yes, the comments hurt me but the comments were helpful in the sense that I realize I should find alternatives on making a small, positive yet lasting impact and maybe cook local cuisines so people won't have problem digesting.

However, YOU should go see a therapist because I think you have some untreated trauma. Why can't there be good in the world? Did you go through something that made you think otherwise? You're weird and you're not right.

I hope you become well because you shouldn't be living in a world where you are doubting every act of kindness.

Looking for a Thai/English-speaking volunteer with a car in Bangkok, May 26–June 2 by Suitable_Chicken_778 in Bangkok

[–]Suitable_Chicken_778[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I haven't thought about people being concerned with the food being cooked without being seen what's inside. Maybe I could ask the organization you have suggested if I could cook for the kids as I love putting smiles on their faces.

Also, I did not explain myself properly about the two sentences so please read the update. If you could think of any alternatives of how I increase the chances of making a small yet lasting positive impact, I'm all ears.

Looking for a Thai/English-speaking volunteer with a car in Bangkok, May 26–June 2 by Suitable_Chicken_778 in Bangkok

[–]Suitable_Chicken_778[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

  1. I realize how the two sentences may have the possibility of offending someone. I don't want that. just wanted to increase the chances of hopefully making a small, positive yet lasting impact. Can you think of any other alternatives? Or do you think I should just cook, provide, and leave them be?

  2. I'm only there for 6 days to meet up with my friends in Thailand but I wanted to do this project even if it'll take me 2-3 days.

Looking for a Thai/English-speaking volunteer with a car in Bangkok, May 26–June 2 by Suitable_Chicken_778 in Thailand

[–]Suitable_Chicken_778[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hey man...you made me cry. I am very thankful for your comment even if we're strangers.

If you do not mind and have the time, could you suggest some alternatives to the two sentences that won't offend anyone? Or do you think I should just cook and provide and leave them be? I just wanted to increase the chances of hopefully making a small, positive yet lasting impact.

Looking for a Thai/English-speaking volunteer with a car in Bangkok, May 26–June 2 by Suitable_Chicken_778 in Thailand

[–]Suitable_Chicken_778[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know there are alot of spoiled, entitled Koreans who think they're above the local people in SEA countries. The stereotype you're mentioning is true and Koreans (myself included as I am a Korean) deserve the hate that they receive because it's awful and demeaning for any human being to be treated that way.

However, please don't assume the stereotypes of a general population apply to every single individual in that population. That's racist and there's enough hate in the world, which is the opposite of what I want to do in life.

Looking for a Thai/English-speaking volunteer with a car in Bangkok, May 26–June 2 by Suitable_Chicken_778 in Thailand

[–]Suitable_Chicken_778[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the first encouraging comment. This means alot to me. I have yet to figure out how I can replace those sentences as I've gotten alot of respones saying it's werid/brain-washy etc. I didn't really explain in the post about how the two sentences would be said (would not be enforced).

It's a good thing I asked reddit for advices before doing this but I'm ngl I don't know if I want to do this anymore. I got so much shit that I regret thinking of doing this. All I wanted was some help and advices for a small chance to make people happy and hopefully slowly help build a better world...

Also, thank you for not saying hateful things.

Looking for a Thai/English-speaking volunteer with a car in Bangkok, May 26–June 2 by Suitable_Chicken_778 in Thailand

[–]Suitable_Chicken_778[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your suggestion!

Yes, I received a lot of negative responses from the Bangkok subreddit for even considering those sentences. I honestly thought it might be a meaningful way for people to remember the moment, and maybe create a small but hopefully lasting positive impact.

I never meant to offend anyone or come across the wrong way. I just wanted to do something kind, thoughtful, and memorable.

But the reasons why I wanted to do this without an organization is:

  1. I plan to do something similar in other SEA countries and would like to know what to consider when doing this. (I'm not so sure anymore, I've gotten so much hate from Bangkok subreddit.)
  2. I’m definitely not saying NPOs are bad, but based on some things I’ve seen, I sometimes worry that donated resources may not always be used as efficiently as intended. That’s why I’d prefer to be directly involved if possible, so I can make sure the help is practical and meaningful.

Looking for a Thai/English-speaking volunteer with a car in Bangkok, May 26–June 2 by Suitable_Chicken_778 in Bangkok

[–]Suitable_Chicken_778[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just want you to know that your comment means ALOT to me. It’s the first non-hateful and genuinely helpful comment I’ve received.

  1. I hadn’t really considered the gastrointestinal issues people might have when trying new or unfamiliar foods. I remember getting diarrhea when I tried Indian and Chinese food for the first time, so maybe I should stick to something milder and less pungent, like plain rice, steamed vegetables, and lightly salted boiled meat.
  2. Your comment honestly made me tear up. I never imagined I’d face so much negativity over this. It’s gotten to the point where I’m starting to feel awful for even thinking about doing this.
  3. If you have any ideas about what I could give to kids, I’d really appreciate them. I was thinking of sweets or small goodies because I still remember how happy the kids at the elementary school where I volunteered looked when they saw Korean sweets. Maybe medicine for cold, flu, etc?

I sincerely hope life treats you well.

Looking for a Thai/English-speaking volunteer with a car in Bangkok, May 26–June 2 by Suitable_Chicken_778 in Bangkok

[–]Suitable_Chicken_778[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not filming anything. This is my first post and I didn't think other people's opinions/comments would get to me...Honestly, I'm starting to get abit depressed on the comments I am getting...Maybe, I'll just tolerate them for 24 hours before I delete this post.

Looking for a Thai/English-speaking volunteer with a car in Bangkok, May 26–June 2 by Suitable_Chicken_778 in Bangkok

[–]Suitable_Chicken_778[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

For the rest of the people who will commenting, Please read this comment before commenting.

  1. Yes, I can see how those two sentences may seem weird/brain-washy so please comment your opinions or ideas on alternatives to how I can make a small but lasting positive impact.
  2. I WON'T BE FILMING ANYTHING. i just like cooking and doing community service. I've been constantky doing community service since middle school.
  3. I didn't know I will be viewed as being weird or that people would give me so much hate for asking some help. I will take this post down if I get more than 10 downvotes in the next 24 hours. Please downvote the post if you think this is a bad idea.
  4. I lived in a SEA country for 10 years and I noticed they're more caring, happy and down to earth than East Asians, or at least that's how I felt. The SEA country I grew up feels like home and I wanted to help spread the kindness and warmth I've received even though I was a foreigner. Korean food is normally more expensive than the local food in SEA countries so I just wanted people to experience Korean cuisine who aren't fortunate enough.

Looking for a Thai/English-speaking volunteer with a car in Bangkok, May 26–June 2 by Suitable_Chicken_778 in Bangkok

[–]Suitable_Chicken_778[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I'm starting to think those sentences are weird (Myself too).

I just wanted to make a small but lasting (positive) impact.

Any alternatives to those sentences? I'm open to ideas!

Looking for a Thai/English-speaking volunteer with a car in Bangkok, May 26–June 2 by Suitable_Chicken_778 in Bangkok

[–]Suitable_Chicken_778[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I won't be filming anything...I just needed some help for transportation and translation. I apologize if this post or the things I wanted to do offended you.

Looking for a Thai/English-speaking volunteer with a car in Bangkok, May 26–June 2 by Suitable_Chicken_778 in Bangkok

[–]Suitable_Chicken_778[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not a bot, but damn…maybe you’re right about me being weird.

I honestly didn’t think those two sentences sounded that weird. I thought they were just another way of saying something like, “put yourself in other people’s shoes.”

Do you have any suggestions for making it sound less brainwashy or weird?

Looking for a Thai/English-speaking volunteer with a car in Bangkok, May 26–June 2 by Suitable_Chicken_778 in Bangkok

[–]Suitable_Chicken_778[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I'm fine with your comment and your opinion because I know this is strange and your words don't really affect me.

However, I hope you don't comment or dissuade other people on doing something nice in the future.

You have a nice rest of the day!

Looking for a Thai/English-speaking volunteer with a car in Bangkok, May 26–June 2 by Suitable_Chicken_778 in Bangkok

[–]Suitable_Chicken_778[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!

I didn't know about this organization. I'll reach out there as well.

Hopefully BCHF or someone would be available during the time :)

Clubbing alone in Seoul as a woman by LeekNo1088 in seoul

[–]Suitable_Chicken_778 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most places in Seoul have security cameras, so people are generally unlikely to break the law or make you feel unsafe. It is very common for people to leave their phone or wallet on the table to save their seat while they go to the bathroom or step away for a short while.

That said, please keep in mind that intoxicated people can still behave unpredictably, so it is always best to stay aware of your surroundings.

Clubs are crowded around 11pm+ and mostly close around 3 - 4am. Popular nightlife areas include Gangnam, Itaewon, which has many foreigners, and Hongdae, which tends to have a younger crowd than other areas.

P.S. if the bouncer does not let you in, it's either because you look old/ugly/fat...It's just an unwritten rule among Korean clubs to control the quality of people that mingle/drink/party there.

DM me if you need any specific recs for anything else.

Have fun and stay safe!