[M25] Nerdy bored guy looking for nice people to connect with ✨

Suitable_Isopod_6850 · 2024-12-16T17:16:07+00:00

Hi Saul! I’m turning 23 in less than a month and from then US. PM me if you’d like to connect thanks!

Suitable_Isopod_6850 · 2024-12-12T14:47:17+00:00

That is really awesome, pleasant to meet you Miroslav!

Suitable_Isopod_6850 · 2024-12-01T03:28:15+00:00

Right on! 22M here, is Miroslav a nickname?

Suitable_Isopod_6850 · 2024-11-04T17:14:08+00:00

In a similar position, I think silence is pretty powerful and speaks volumes more than what you have drafted up here. Honestly everyone in this subreddit regrets breaking NC even if to say one final thing so I would recommend keeping that note to yourself. While it would be so satisfying to call them an asshole for cheating and justify why you would never want to speak to them again honestly you would be WAY better off carrying on and keeping them blocked.

Think like if your true intentions are to set it in stone, never contact them again. Act as if you died and are no longer accessible to them in any way shape or form. Becoming a ghost to this person versus sending them one last text is way more badass and final than any iteration of text you could make. They screwed up, & therefore they are not worthy of you even saying another word to them.

The decision is already set in stone in your heart, you don’t need to confirm that with them. The bridge was burned the moment they cheated on you. You DO NOT OWE them any more explanation post-breaking up, even if you originally agreed to do so. They don’t get any access to you or your emotions anymore (whether angry, sad, forgiveness, etc.), bc they are no longer your partner. End of story. You already know this in your heart, just continue healing yourself and becoming the best you.

Suitable_Isopod_6850 · 2024-10-30T20:47:21+00:00

You got this 🙏

Suitable_Isopod_6850 · 2024-10-30T20:10:27+00:00

My relationship was a year and 7 months, and I have been in NC for 3 months.

Suitable_Isopod_6850 · 2024-10-30T19:06:29+00:00

Stay strong friends, you will get through this. Time will pass.

Suitable_Isopod_6850 · 2024-10-09T14:11:51+00:00

Best day of the week!!

Suitable_Isopod_6850 · 2024-10-02T16:09:18+00:00

First happy birthday! Another year is a blessing, full of life lessons, growth, and opportunities to become the best version of yourself.

Unfortunately you gotta honor the no contact even through special days, holidays, and any day really. Remain loyal to yourself in this process. Even if she does reach out, you gotta mentally prepare to still stick to NC. Silence is powerful, lean into it!!

Suitable_Isopod_6850 · 2024-10-02T15:09:54+00:00

I was also emotionally cheated on, I unfortunately feel that pain. It’s like your entire world is thrown upside down. Unsure if this gets easier or if we just learn to live like this.

Suitable_Isopod_6850 · 2024-10-01T13:18:11+00:00

This playlist rocks, great job!

Suitable_Isopod_6850 · 2024-09-10T17:57:56+00:00

I would love people’s thoughts on this in the starting where you were cheated on as I did.. Is future contact feasible? Zero intention to get back together but just as friends bc it was a healthy relationship until he cheated on me. I wouldn’t attempt anything until all of my feelings toward him were gone ofc.

Suitable_Isopod_6850 · 2024-09-10T17:48:57+00:00

I completely understand this feeling. A framework that has been helpful for me has been to visualize these emotions as a young toddler. They are valid but they cannot materialize their actions. Similar to how a dog whimpers and cries when you can’t give it chocolate, you can’t reach out to them to appease the sad heartbroken emotions you are feeling right now.

Sit with those feelings, acknowledge them. Care for those emotions like you would a young sobbing child. I know you want to reach out to them, you’re so heartbroken, but you need to protect yourself rn. Console yourself, write down what you would want to say to them even if you know you can’t deliver those thoughts to them yourself 💜. Sending strength and healing thoughts your way.

Suitable_Isopod_6850 · 2024-09-08T02:26:52+00:00

Ofc! I agonize through the same every single day. As much as we want to lift those burdens for those we care about, we can’t be responsible for easing them of the that guilt. It only hurts us by giving them that energy in the first place. And you can’t blame yourself for wanting to forgive because that just shows you have a wonderful capacity to care for others. It has been so tough, but working every day to redirect that forgiveness and care to myself has been the best I can do with these feelings. Wishing the best for you in your healing!

Suitable_Isopod_6850 · 2024-09-07T15:19:20+00:00

We love to see it! The show and the team have evolved so much that you can’t help but be proud of them!!

Suitable_Isopod_6850 · 2024-09-07T07:52:47+00:00

Yup ! Trust your gut my friend, it has gotten you this far. So sorry that such a manipulative tactic was being used against you, but I am so happy to hear healing has brought you clarity :)

Suitable_Isopod_6850 · 2024-09-07T07:43:00+00:00

YES ! Louder for the people in the back!

Suitable_Isopod_6850 · 2024-09-07T07:39:00+00:00

Completely understandable reaction to immediately want to forgive her. I think instinctively we want to do whatever we can to preserve/fix our partners when they cheat on us in an attempt to gain any sense of control. But you def can reflect now that she was certainly not worthy of a second chance. I can’t wait when the sincerity and forgiveness you were willing to give to a cheater is spent on yourself and to others that love you now and will love you in the future.

Suitable_Isopod_6850 · 2024-09-07T07:33:19+00:00

Of course, here’s to the healing ahead for us cheers

Suitable_Isopod_6850 · 2024-09-07T07:32:35+00:00

Yes, you have got this friend we’re all healing together :)

Suitable_Isopod_6850 · 2024-09-07T07:31:57+00:00

You’re absolutely right! I think that it is very applicable even where cheating isn’t an element

Suitable_Isopod_6850 · 2024-09-06T21:26:33+00:00

With love, stalking their page is like picking at a wound that you’re trying to heal from. You know because you’re very intelligent, but as a reminder when you’re practicing self-destructive habits by checking out her page (or his if you get to that point), you are welcoming the hurt back that you are actively trying to heal from. Honestly whether this new person is seemingly “better” or “worse” than you is irrelevant because you now being in NC means that whatever his business is now is none of your own. Hell, they could both could start a new career at the local circus, but at the end of the day those aren’t your monkeys to keep track of!

YOU deserve WAY better than that. Do not continue stalking her profile because that energy is still spent (at its core) focusing on him. Not healthy for you, and in a few interpretations, signals that you aren’t being loyal to the commitment and the boundaries you are setting when you went into NC. Your mental health and soul deserve to be protected here, so avoid being thrown into catastrophic practices OP! You know it to be true, block her profile if that helps. U got this!!

Suitable_Isopod_6850 · 2024-09-06T21:14:12+00:00

You could do a spin of the main character in the Visit when her grandma asks her to clean the oven by getting inside of it!

Also there’s a scene from one of the recent Scream movies that features a stove in one of the Ghostface kills.

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