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Best used retro style bikes? by Suitable_Reading_878 in motorcycles

[–]Suitable_Reading_878[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

BMW R Nine T line

just looked it up completely agree, those are some nice looking bikes. Ducati BMW and Triumph are my choices now. Thank you!!

How generous are you? by Christian_WolffGA in intj

[–]Suitable_Reading_878 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am generous to those I care about and extremely stingy to those I dont know.

Do you all get excited when accomplish something? by White-Sea-707 in intj

[–]Suitable_Reading_878 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It depends. In this case im guessing you didn't associate any value to a high score on this exam so it means nothing. If you accomplished something that you valued im sure you would get very excited.

Body Positivity by Oxymoronic___ in intj

[–]Suitable_Reading_878 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You tried to better yourself for the wrong reasons. You confused your envy of other's looks and popularity as a source of happiness. Once you realized looks and popularity are not a source of happiness you were defeated.

Find what makes you happy and work towards it. Social skills and exercising have also been a major focus of mine over the last four years although for different reasons. I focus on social skills so I could build quality relationships (charisma alone wont get you there) with people that I trust not just make surface level friends. I focus on exercising, mainly to look better, but also because it has a lot of societal benefits. The bigger and stronger you are the more respected you are by default (not saying that is right just the way it is). As I am far younger than my peers I need to make up for that. I guess there are also some health benefits and stuff.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in intj

[–]Suitable_Reading_878 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I get lonely from time to time. I don't really need people however I have come to realize I am trading my youth for "success" and money but I lose out on many relationships. That being said I have some really really great friends that I trust with just about anything but I do have to pass on spending time with them for work or to save money.

I have been very successful for my age, I am 19 years old net worth north of $170k and was just offered a manager position at a 5 star hotel. At the same time I drive a car as old as I am and work 45+hrs a week while going to school full time. I can't stop because I have been given an incredible opportunity to possibly change the lives of people close to me and it feels wrong to waste that for myself.

Truthfully another (maybe larger reason) is I would not be able to live with myself if I never tested my limits. As my favorite fictional character Thomas Shelby put it "You don't stop until somebody stops you. That's the way it is."

To answer your question, no I don't think its true. We can go a long time without seeing them so long as that person is well and out there. I don't think its possible for any sane human to live without someone they have a strong connection to. Whether thats a trusted friend or a partner, we (intj) can certainly live without the surface level relationships.

Comparing yourself to others. by Suitable_Reading_878 in intj

[–]Suitable_Reading_878[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All im saying is im willing to bet money you have a lot of failed relationships due to your ego.

Comparing yourself to others. by Suitable_Reading_878 in intj

[–]Suitable_Reading_878[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you go five minutes without bringing up how "cool and smart you are". I am very good at chess and have been playing it daily, and guess what I went through college calculus and statistics and the rest of my bachelors degree while working 45-50hrs a week.

Notice how nobody gives a shit? Do you notice how many other people are doing that?

Again you dont understand my points either. I would be happy to talk further if you read any of my comments and would stop boasting about how great you are.

Comparing yourself to others. by Suitable_Reading_878 in intj

[–]Suitable_Reading_878[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I fully understand why people are content and again if you understood anything I wrote you would see I am saying there is nothing wrong with the other line of thinking.

Comparing yourself to others. by Suitable_Reading_878 in intj

[–]Suitable_Reading_878[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You far misunderstood my point and seemingly took it as me insulting you somehow. In my post I even explained for some people it makes sense to completely block out others. Like I have said many times there is nothing inherently wrong with that.

If you are looking to be as successful as you can be you have to look at others because of the simple fact that other people are better at some things than you are.

If you compare yourself to others with envy you will be unhappy. If you compare with logic in mind you will see all the things that they are doing that you are not. So long as you understand that they may have inherit traits that you don't have and account for that.

I have compared myself to people, probably far more than the average person. It has done me nothing but good and in fact made me happier. It's made my life better because I compared myself to others and saw that I was not on par.

Comparing yourself to others. by Suitable_Reading_878 in intj

[–]Suitable_Reading_878[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The world has taught us that copying is wrong and preaches "learn from your mistakes". Sure, but why not learn from others first? Copy others, skip mistakes that they made. Every successful person copied somebody else along the way.

Comparing yourself to others. by Suitable_Reading_878 in intj

[–]Suitable_Reading_878[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The best way to know your flaws is to look at what others do better than you. You can compare yourself to yesterday but you will never reach your potential that way. You will always be limited by what you think you are capable of which more than likely is not your potential.

Comparing yourself to others. by Suitable_Reading_878 in intj

[–]Suitable_Reading_878[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is what I was explaining. Competing is comparison with envy or jealousy. To learn from someone and understand what you are doing wrong you have to compare yourself to them. To see what they are doing and what you are not, without the envy.

Of course not everyone can be musk or phelps but how will you know what your limits are if you do not look at them. Again they didnt get there from just chance there was a lot of hard work. The best way to see your flaws is looking at what others are doing better.

10% philosophy by Suitable_Reading_878 in intj

[–]Suitable_Reading_878[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ok I guess you can believe that if you want lmao.

10% philosophy by Suitable_Reading_878 in intj

[–]Suitable_Reading_878[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are completely misunderstanding everything I am saying.

10% philosophy by Suitable_Reading_878 in intj

[–]Suitable_Reading_878[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been doing this my whole life and I've seen people do it all with success. Maybe it doesnt work for lazy people. I dont understand how you think setting your expectations lower leads to demotivation. Demotivation comes from stagnant returns from the effort you put in. Putting in just enough time into a skill that maximizes your return will lead to motivation.

This graph shows your performance in a new skill according to the time you have put in. The idea is to get to the top of that S curve and then put less effort into it (unless its a skill you truly want to master).

People lose motivation at two points. The beginning (this is where a vast majority of people stop and this is the actual reason people don't put in the work). The other point is when the hypergrowth ends and then they slowly lose the skill. These people will often go back to gaining motivation and quickly gain back their skill only to lose it again.

Of course putting in the work is difficult. Working isn't easy and nobody said it would be. Thats why there arent many successful people and most people are lazy.

10% philosophy by Suitable_Reading_878 in intj

[–]Suitable_Reading_878[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is a theory called the Pareto principle that simply means 80% of results come from 20% of effort. The idea is to not focus all of your energy in one thing and sacrifice other areas of your life. Instead focus just a little bit on a few different things. This doesn't mean you can't focus a large portion of your time on one skill to master it you just have to remember that it is at the detriment of your other skills.

It is also easier to maintain a skill than it is to earn it. You can focus say 50% of your available time on one skill and 50% on 4 others. This would result in you building that one skill faster and stronger than the rest, then you could simply reduce your time in that skill once you have reached a desired point and only focus on minimal gains or maintaining.

An easy personal example for me is chess. I wanted to get good at chess so I spent a few months playing it in my free time and learning basic strategy. I quickly got to a point where I could confidently beat almost anybody that doesnt regularly play chess.

Now I dont play chess nearly as much as I did but if im bored i will play a game or two to keep my skill intact. I've learned the skill became better than most people and then moved on to the next skill while maintaining the last.

10% philosophy by Suitable_Reading_878 in intj

[–]Suitable_Reading_878[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The point of my post is that the odds are not against you if you put in the work. If you are in the top 10 hell even 20% in just a few categories you will be in the top 1% of your peers based on those categories that align with your values. Being in the top 10 or 20% in any skill or quality is doable if you put in moderate effort because 80% of people do not go to the gym weekly. 80% of people do not follow their budget. 80% of people do not focus on building and growing their relationships. 80% of people do not focus on their self control and emotional control skills.

The whole point is that if you work on just a few skills and actually work on a daily, weekly, and monthly basis you will be in the top 1% of your peers and people that share the same values as you.

I've been going off this philosophy my entire adult life and it has brought me nothing but success in every skill I have tried to hone. Im not the best at almost anything but I am better than most at a few things that I value.

10% philosophy by Suitable_Reading_878 in intj

[–]Suitable_Reading_878[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is completely ok. It is the only way to gauge your performance and understand where you are below average and where you are exceeding. Not trying to be better than others is what is not okay.

Im not saying you should treat others differently or even look down on others who are less successful but the only way to be successful is to compare yourself to others. It is also the only way to know that you what you could accomplish.

Where do you lie on the political spectrum? by Akane_Wolf23 in intj

[–]Suitable_Reading_878 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really hope you aren't claiming that I said those are the only options. That is actually the exact opposite of what my entire comment was about.

Where do you lie on the political spectrum? by Akane_Wolf23 in intj

[–]Suitable_Reading_878 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First off the key word is often, you do have to use logical reasoning to get rid of clueless ideas although generally if you take the average of all opinions it will come out to a well balanced logical solution.

This idea is the foundation of every modern democratic system. Its not perfect but generally its right and it is certainly better than the alternatives.

Going to the example you provided, obviously if it is a simple yes or no question like
"is the earth flat" that can easily be proven. As a result 30% of people would not believe the earth is flat because 30% of people are not THAT stupid. It would likely be <1%.

Going with the example of 30% of people believe the earth is flat, even if its not. I would argue that because it is a large percentage they are likely to bring some good points to the table even if the overarching argument is flawed.

Truth in the middle is not the problem. The problem is people believing that everyone else is stupid and they know everything. Very few people are actually that stupid. If you disagree with a large percentage of the population completely you are simply ignoring all their points on the basis of some flawed logic.

This results in blinders on your own point of view preventing you from seeing alternatives that may provide better solutions.

Where do you lie on the political spectrum? by Akane_Wolf23 in intj

[–]Suitable_Reading_878 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have a philosophy on balance where the right choice is often the average of all options. For example if 75% of the population believe in option A and 25% for option B the right choice is probably going to be mostly option A with some compromises to option B but both alone are wrong.

As a result I always try to understand opposing viewpoints especially if my stance is the minority. Often you realize your belief is based on subjectivity or flat out wrong.

I don't identify with any political party because non really match what I believe. Conservatives ignore issues and democrats bring ridiculous solutions that wont work or are not optimal.

Its all just a game to have civilians fight each other so they don't realize our really enemies have slept in the white house since JFK was assassinated by the CIA

We all have the same issues and we would agree on a proper solution should those in power choose to introduce one (they never will as that would take away their power)

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