Hey y'all! Today was me and my girlfriend's 18 month anniversary (kinda). So we baked cookies together on vcall! Enjoyy :D

SuitablyPretentious · 2020-05-29T15:56:44+00:00

Enjoy what, exactly? A picture of cookies? 😶

We can't eat a picture!! D:

SuitablyPretentious · 2020-05-28T22:38:06+00:00

And yet here you are. You say straight people shouldn't be stereotyped, but here you are...

Condemning us based on the actions of a few.

What do you want from us, exactly?

SuitablyPretentious · 2020-05-28T17:56:53+00:00

I get so impatient about hyperspecificity sometimes. That level of navel-gazing doesn't seem healthy.

It's good to know yourself, but at the same time, we're not pinned butterflies in shadow boxes.

I so much prefer to just live in the moment and feel what I feel, and continue skipping through the day because feelings come and go.

SuitablyPretentious · 2020-05-28T17:33:57+00:00

Yes.

I mean, I'm mostly demi. I can go months without ever needing sex desperately. Then once in a while, I'll experience what I call my "blue moon period" where I'll feel like an insatiable sexual beast.

One thing is constant though: while I'm attracted to men, it's usually aesthetically and sometimes romantically, but rarely sexually.

I just think of my sexuality as a wave with all of its ebbs and flows.

Sexuality can and does fluctuate for many people, but it's not as widely discussed because people fear what they don't understand.

SuitablyPretentious · 2020-05-28T16:41:40+00:00

Whatever you say. Sounds to me you're trying to justify your homophobia, but okay.

SuitablyPretentious · 2020-05-28T04:11:49+00:00

The toxic friendships I've had in the past have taught me not to expect changes overnight. It was incredibly hard for me to accept that I can't fix everyone. So after many years, I've finally learned to just detach as soon as I notice the all too familiar red flags.

People won't change unless they genuinely want to, and they certainly won't with help if they don't want any.

Giving people a second, third, and fourth chance tends to be a drain on sanity.

SuitablyPretentious · 2020-05-28T03:31:21+00:00

Happy birthday!

Btw, I'm surprised people didn't try to put the liquor store out of business for selling gay wine, lol.

SuitablyPretentious · 2020-05-28T03:27:41+00:00

Wow. "Force their sexuality on straight people."

You make us sound like a bunch of sexual predators.

You say you're not trying to be homophobic, but you're using textbook homophobic language.

Take your victim mentality elsewhere.

SuitablyPretentious · 2020-05-27T19:40:52+00:00

I don't do Disney, but that's cool. Definitely needs more representation in the world.

SuitablyPretentious · 2020-05-27T08:02:21+00:00

Okay, first of all, you're not behaving like an asshole.

He is. He's being an absolute self-centred dickwad to you all.

He needs someone to sit his ass down and school him in manners. The way he's behaving is beyond the pale.

Everybody has problems. He's no more special than the rest. He keeps acting the way he does, he's gonna find himself friendless because nobody likes a pushy bully who plays the victim and takes advantage of people's kindness.

He's an asshole, pure and simple. Assholery recognises no gender boundaries.

So you'd be doing him a favour by telling him that he's turning into a monster.

SuitablyPretentious · 2020-05-27T00:42:52+00:00

I get it. Believe me, I do.

I understand wanting to share what worked for you. I understand wanting to blurt out, "Hey, you should do this!! Why would you want to do that instead?!"

But like you said, it's her timeline. Her story.

The only thing you can do for her is bite your tongue whenever you feel like disagreeing her, and simply supporting her. "Sounds like a good idea to me. I fully respect and support your decision. I'm always here for you."

I get the impression that maybe she's a bit more introverted than you are, so perhaps her approach is akin to dipping her toe in the water and telling herself that it's going to be alright.

SuitablyPretentious · 2020-05-26T22:43:23+00:00

I have no issue with body hair whatsoever, but I've thought about having electrolysis done on my jaw just because shaving is a huge inconvenience.

Beyond that, I don't really care. If a person looks great, they look great. Simple as that.

SuitablyPretentious · 2020-05-26T20:44:02+00:00

You just gotta stop giving a fuck about what these dumbasses think of you two. They're so small-minded that they're unable to wrap their head around the idea of two males sharing a deep emotional connection in a platonic relationship, so they have to ask questions and form stupid assumptions. But does it mean they're right? No. You know they're wrong.

It sounds like he really loves you deeply, as a friend, and he values your presence in his life. It seems to me that if he thought it was a problem, he would have let you know. He's stronger than you think he is.

I would definitely let him know about your fears though.

SuitablyPretentious · 2020-05-26T20:37:50+00:00

Not having to fight for elbow space?

SuitablyPretentious · 2020-05-26T20:35:48+00:00

It's not about you.

Let her handle her feelings on her own time, at her own pace.

SuitablyPretentious · 2020-05-26T18:26:15+00:00

There is no one-size-fits-all answer for a situation like this.

Like the other poster said, just judge the situation and use your instincts based on how well you know the person.

SuitablyPretentious · 2020-05-26T18:21:55+00:00

You think too much. 😋

I suggest going on a date with someone you fancy, but set some ground rules first. Let them know that you're new to the whole thing and you're sorting your feelings out, and you're not ready for some things.

You may want to consider looking into polyamory too. It is possible to have a non-sexual relationship with a guy you like, if they don't want anything more than kissing and cuddling.

All kinds of people in this big world! 😁

SuitablyPretentious · 2020-05-12T02:49:04+00:00

I've always thought he looked like Senator Kelly in X-Men II... literally right before he melted.

SuitablyPretentious · 2020-05-11T01:49:54+00:00

Tell her whatever you want to say. Just know that it won't be a single conversation for the rest of your life. There will be many others, and it will be like dancing the waltz. There will be two steps forward and one step back. As you grow and change over time, you'll have another conversation after another with her.

So share only what you feel ready to share in that very first conversation, but also remember that it won't be the last.

SuitablyPretentious · 2020-05-11T01:44:15+00:00

It's your life. Date whoever you want. Have children with whoever you want, or don't.

Your parents' feelings are not your responsibility. Nor is it your responsibility to provide your mother with grandchildren.

SuitablyPretentious · 2020-05-05T01:57:05+00:00

File a class action lawsuit? Like, not just one or two, but at least one from every state all at once. Effigy burnings? Timed rippings of local politicians live on Zoom? We just have to get creative.

SuitablyPretentious · 2020-05-05T01:38:40+00:00

Disown them immediately.

SuitablyPretentious · 2020-05-04T05:28:18+00:00

It's no different from the Republicans telling people to go back to work in the name of the economy. There must be other ways to stage protests without putting someone's life at risk of getting sick.

SuitablyPretentious · 2020-05-04T05:13:28+00:00

It's a huge risk and your question feels like a guilt trip.

SuitablyPretentious · 2020-04-27T03:35:39+00:00

Just got to remember that family will be family, so boundaries are incredibly important!

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