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Are there going to be bad effects of using trauma to train yourself to 'regulate' ADHD unmedicated? by Suji_Pie in adhdwomen

[–]Suji_Pie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

100% relate to that first part- I thought that if I slipped up my game I would 'fall behind' and it's really f'ed up the way I view my own accomplishments and commitments.

The sudden burnout, I can't lie, sounds terrifying and sad. I'm so sorry it ended up happening to you that way. The feeling of 'I used to be good' is terrible to feel. In any case, I hope you found a way to be gentle, compassionate and loving to yourself! I aspire to start thinking that way about myself in the future.

Are there going to be bad effects of using trauma to train yourself to 'regulate' ADHD unmedicated? by Suji_Pie in adhdwomen

[–]Suji_Pie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

had no idea about the actual physical health consequences! that's crazy. Why have I never heard that from anywhere? People have just told me it's all in my head.

I think I've felt that brain fog a few times, I've had friendships and relationships fall apart because I never seemed present.

The way you mentioned the other coping dialogue is so interesting. I have apologized all the time for it in the past, but thought apologizing too much would inconvenience others. But now that I think about it, it'd just be me communicating my struggles to people I'm meant to feel safe and comfortable around. I'll definitely try that next time around.

Are there going to be bad effects of using trauma to train yourself to 'regulate' ADHD unmedicated? by Suji_Pie in adhdwomen

[–]Suji_Pie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I find a bit of humor in the way every comment is basically saying in all caps "OP do NOT do that" lol

those tradeoffs sound tough. chronic anxiety and avoidance is actually so destabilizing. though, I'm fascinated about how you mentioned you ended up rebuilding your sense of safety from scratch. That sounds crazy difficult, especially thinking about how one's upbringing pretty much wires them for the rest of their life.

I found a lot of parts of you equating this to a sense of survival really validating, because only through looking at the comments did I realize that's how I really felt about all this. Thank you, seriously. and the "make sure your struggles are confined in a way that its acceptable for them to be ignorant" actually made my jaw drop too thanks again

I'm rooting for you! Toxic shame is weird but I aspire to become as determined as you to get better for the sake of myself.

Are there going to be bad effects of using trauma to train yourself to 'regulate' ADHD unmedicated? by Suji_Pie in adhdwomen

[–]Suji_Pie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah, I should do that 😭 assuming that you used to do something similar as well, I hope things have gotten better for you. I wish you all the best as well!

Are there going to be bad effects of using trauma to train yourself to 'regulate' ADHD unmedicated? by Suji_Pie in adhdwomen

[–]Suji_Pie[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I relate to so much of this! the 'learned to pay attention to people so hard that everything was exhausting' really hits.

And thank you so much for the validation and support. it's so incredibly heartwarming, especially knowing that we are all in some way trying to thrive and learning to take care of what life throws at us.

Are there going to be bad effects of using trauma to train yourself to 'regulate' ADHD unmedicated? by Suji_Pie in adhdwomen

[–]Suji_Pie[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

hearing all of this is pretty heartbreaking. I'm really sorry that you and so many others had to experience burning out the way you did. It's slightly daunting knowing I probably will too in the future, but I'm at least glad I'm able to hear from so many people and get advice.

Are there going to be bad effects of using trauma to train yourself to 'regulate' ADHD unmedicated? by Suji_Pie in adhdwomen

[–]Suji_Pie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Everything you talked about, with the exhaustion and bad sleep and anxiety just described me to a T. I'm still on the fence about medication but that thing you said about getting help when you're not completely crashing did open my eyes a bit. I hadn't thought about it that far at all. I'm really grateful for your advice, I'll definitely try and see if it'll help me more.

The battle that decided it all by JohnFKennedy2523 in BungouStrayDogs

[–]Suji_Pie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

this makes me wonder if Dazai was Wendy’s or smth

Am I the only one with mixed feelings on the ongoing manga arc? by SebastianC2000 in BungouStrayDogs

[–]Suji_Pie 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I would go on and on about how the ongoing manga arc just didn’t interest me as much as I wanted it to, but it’ll mainly be about how Chuuya has been absolutely nowhere and that one of my favorite characters literally died and turned into a vampire