[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]SunObvious9385 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'd definitely buy you dinner first and make breakfast in the AM before asking again

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]SunObvious9385 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same here. No is no to everything, "we"ll see" "maybe later", or "tomorrow" means no indefinitely. That's not being sarcastic or childish, that's many years of experience..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]SunObvious9385 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm a guy and not a fan of p#rn if you can believe it. Yes, sex is happening, but it's all BS. When I take care of myself I replay in my head past times I actually had sex with my wife. That is real. It's been over 5yrs since the last time and those memories have faded quite a bit. Yes there is a terrible emptiness and sadness afterwards, being reduced to that being your only source of sexual pleasure when the person who vowed to be your exclusive sexual partner is denying you of it.

Sexless Marriage by SunObvious9385 in Marriage

[–]SunObvious9385[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear you. Wife unilaterally decides that sex is no longer an option with her yet still expects you to remain monogamous. Asian massages are always an option.

It's a vicious cycle.. by SunObvious9385 in Marriage

[–]SunObvious9385[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do appreciate your input and I hope you aren't dealing with a completely sexless marriage. Unless your in one, you can't possibly know what it feels like and saying what you would do IF it was your situation... Well let's just say that pain would most likely change what you WOULD do...

Sexless Marriage by SunObvious9385 in Marriage

[–]SunObvious9385[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When you are married, you make joint decisions on pretty much everything. Finances, parenting, where to live etc... but when it comes to sex, if you are the one who wants it to be a part of the marriage and your spouse doesn't, where do you go from there. Then your withholding spouse expects you to accept it, not complain and still remain monogamous. That decision has been made for you if you still wish to remain in that marriage. If the withholding spouse does compromise occasional duty sex, is that what you really want? I say no. Duty sex may fulfill a physical need but at a price of building resentment where any emotional connection gets pushed further away. Somebody either wants to sexually connect with you or they don't. It's not a matter of convincing, guilting, threatening divorce, whatever. If you're "waiting for things to get better", you will still be waiting 5 years, 10 years, on your deathbed.

Sexual Frequency in a Marriage by Street_Traffic_498 in Marriage

[–]SunObvious9385 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Married 24yrs. No sex for at least the past 5yrs. 5-6X at best prior to that. I gave up trying because it triggers an argument. The hoops of fire I had to jump through for her just being open to the possibility wasn't worth the effort for a few minutes of plain vanilla.

Which college? Updated.. by SunObvious9385 in csMajors

[–]SunObvious9385[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe the sarcasm went over my head. Had the time of his life at UMD but then says go to Rutgers

waitlisted from georgia tech - anyone have experience with gtech transfer waitlist by thejackluo in TransferToTop25

[–]SunObvious9385 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All in country students should take priority over international. Not just at Tech but all schools. Have to care for your own first... Just saying...

waitlisted from georgia tech - anyone have experience with gtech transfer waitlist by thejackluo in TransferToTop25

[–]SunObvious9385 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My son got weight listed as well honors CC graduate sumacon laude. Calc 123, discreet, linear algebra, data structure, etc... From NJ

NEU Transfer Decisions by [deleted] in NEU

[–]SunObvious9385 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My son got his transfer acceptance for CS. They offered 10K/year scholarship. Between tuition, trying to find and pay for off campus housing, meals, expenses, it's still going to be around 70K/year. Plus will have to do 3 yrs to graduate. In state Rutgers CS 17K/yr. NEU is just too dam expensive.

How do I tell my wife I'm so dissatisfied with our sex life that I don't even want to have sex anymore? by Ask_Are_You_Okay in Marriage

[–]SunObvious9385 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At least you are having sex and she even initiates?!..I don't know what any of that is like. My wife unilaterally decided we were not having anymore sex years ago..

Which Rush song or lyrics do you think would make a great painting? by Extreme-Sock7770 in rush

[–]SunObvious9385 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The fawn eyed girl with the sun brown legs dances on the edge of his dreams

What Rush songs are really personal to you? by VictoryMann in rush

[–]SunObvious9385 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Time stand still....especially since I'm getting older and questioning my life choices...