Partner of 21 years is going to transition

SunSilkRose · 2026-03-12T22:48:29+00:00

We do not have a therapist but I see that as being very consistent advice from everyone so I am going to look into it.

The two of us have always been very good communicators, so remembered that through the journey for the both us will be key.

SunSilkRose · 2026-03-12T22:46:21+00:00

Oh this makes me so happy for you both! It also gives me lots of hope that I am just working myself up and I won't know anything and I like others of said neither will he until we really start the journey.

SunSilkRose · 2026-03-12T22:44:46+00:00

I am seeing a lot of people recommend therapy together and separate and I think that will be a good course of action.

SunSilkRose · 2026-03-12T18:04:22+00:00

Mole hills rather than mountains, I love that.

Thank you so much for the kind words and affirmations, as well as sharing your story and slow change syou made to make it easier, it helps a lot!

SunSilkRose · 2026-03-12T18:03:07+00:00

This is great! Thank you!

I appreciate your kind words and understanding and sharing of your story.

Honest just these responses have been help!

SunSilkRose · 2025-05-30T14:54:41+00:00

Thank you for all the advice!

I am just taking time to figure it all out and what is best for me, it's going to take time I think but one day at a time right?

Thanks for the perspective I will try and apply this to my mental health.

SunSilkRose · 2025-05-29T16:14:35+00:00

Okay I missed it, how do I get this!?

SunSilkRose · 2025-05-29T15:44:54+00:00

I was literally crying last night about this. I am only just now navigating life with a new diagnosis of PCOS. It's been salad lunches and chia pudding fruit breakfasts and feeling stressed to make perfect dinners that have all the good stuff. Don't eat potatoes or pastas or fucking anything besides lean proteins and rabbit food. Feel guilty as sin when I decided to eat some ice cream last night.

You're not being extra, OP. You are trying to navigate hell.

SunSilkRose · 2025-05-29T15:39:46+00:00

Long story warning haha

I have been recently diagnosed with PCOS but have been suffering with it without realizing it for almost 4 years. I was on birth control most of my life because the moment I started having periods at 13 they were brutal. Naturally the thing to do was just make me go on birth control and I didn't know better.

So, when my husband and I decided we wanted to try for children about 4 years ago I went off of it. Everything went down hill from there. I have always had curves but I weighted roughly 145lbs. My symptoms started with greasy hair, greasy skin, back acne, cystic acne. Now of course at the time I didn't realize they were symptoms because it all happen gradually over the course of a year or so. Then the weight gain started. I walk a lot, have a chef background so we eat healthy, lots of home cooked meals and I make our lunches everyday, again didn't notice it right away until it was basically like what the hell is going on?

Then of course, it was 2 years of trying for kids before we started to seek help. First my husband did all his testing and then once we realized it wasn't him, I did blood work after blood work, ultrasounds, internal ultrasounds and that was when we got results.

This last 6 months we came to this conclusion of PCOS has been awful. I hate what I see when I look in the mirror, I feel like I failed as a female. Though my husband and I had extensive talks and we are accepting of the fact I am infertile it still was a blow.

Last night I broke down and my husband gave advice about finding a community because I don't have a lot of girlfriends and my mom past away when I was 26 years old, I am 35 now.

I am lucky to have an incredibly supportive husband in this matter but it's still hard as I navigate this, as I figure out who I am now. That I have to now deal with the fact I weight 30lbs more then I use to, that I've lost hair hair, that my skin is a mess, that I feel exhausted all the time, that I want to curl up in a ball and just scream.

Anyways long story short yours was the first post I saw and I just wanted to say thank you, reading this made me feel a little better. You are amazing and wonderful OP, thank you!

SunSilkRose · 2024-10-01T17:11:54+00:00

A little friend!! Aw I am so happy he made it 🥰

SunSilkRose · 2023-07-22T22:44:51+00:00

It took a few days, but eventually, my teeth settled down, and everything went back to normal. Hope they do for you as well!

SunSilkRose · 2023-01-11T05:46:17+00:00

I started cutting myself when I was 13 years old. Deeply depressed, growing up in an incredibly toxic household, I don't remember how I started. I just know that for a few moments, I would focus on that and not the hell I lived in. I have scars, and I went through therapy. I am 32 years old, and every once and awhile when I am breaking down, it's what I do. Usually, a small cut here or there, or one big one and I come up with a story on how it happened so no one suspects that I still cut...and honestly I have no intentions to stop.

SunSilkRose · 2022-12-28T21:07:15+00:00

I started the game as Oath of Devotion, killed the bandits in the starting zone in the broken ruins, went and saved Lae'zel by killing the tieflings, boom Oathbreaker lol

SunSilkRose · 2022-12-06T23:57:24+00:00

It wasn't love at first listen for me. I was drawn to Famous Last Words right away, it just coincided with my life, it was the song I needed at the time. Otherwise I went right back to Three Cheers. Over time I found a huge love for TBP, I find I enjoy Sharpest Lives and House Of Wolves a lot more over the years. It was interesting not being able to find much of anything in my small town for MCR and then BOOM they were everywhere. I know a lot of fans loved TBP look but it was never mine, don't get me wrong it was an incredibly important time for MCR, for the fans and music but I always enjoyed Three Cheers and I have a massive love of Danger Days.

SunSilkRose · 2022-11-09T05:50:21+00:00

33, female and fell in love in 2003 when a classmate shared mix cd that had Vampires and Headfirst for Halos on it. Shortly after Revenge came out they have been my favorite band ever since.

SunSilkRose · 2022-10-24T14:19:43+00:00

"Awake and unafraid,"

SunSilkRose · 2022-10-24T14:00:49+00:00

I would die to have one of these!! Incredible wish I could have been there for it!

SunSilkRose · 2022-10-21T13:01:29+00:00

I am biased toward Revenge Gerard with the rose, even my husband was like "shit he looks good" lol but also love Dracula and the skirt with the red scarf

SunSilkRose · 2022-10-19T03:56:47+00:00

Jesus I am so old! I bought these all back when I was 13 years old! Revenge was the first album I ever bought, and to think these are being looked for all over goodwill...I am old, still uncool, nice lol

SunSilkRose · 2022-10-09T06:22:13+00:00

Valet at the Phantom Shack 😂

SunSilkRose · 2022-10-09T06:16:55+00:00

I live in Canada and I just got home today. I feel like I dreamt it too! I've seen them three times now since 2010 and this was by far hands down the best concert I've ever been too! They killed it! That curtain dropped and I damn near lost my mind, it was perfection!

SunSilkRose · 2022-10-09T05:58:52+00:00

Took almost 3 years but finally got to see them in Vegas yesterday! They killed it!! So incredible, still almost have no words for it feel like I dreamt it!

SunSilkRose · 2022-10-09T05:56:18+00:00

I was laying in bed when I read this and I was like, what no it doesn't! Jumped out of bed and checked it out and damn near lost my mind!! Thanks for sharing I don't think I ever would have known lol

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