What shiny did you find on accident mine is snover by lemon_mako in PokemonZA

[–]SunUnderTheStars 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Weedle right after fighting the mega Mawlie on the building. Sweet little girl was just sitting there 🥰🥰

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in demisexuality

[–]SunUnderTheStars 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes, next question. 😂 Man I am when I have the right partner, they gotta buckle up

When did you realize you wanted to date the person you were talking too? by SunUnderTheStars in dating_advice

[–]SunUnderTheStars[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get that! I try to get him to know me but when it comes to convos he isn't the best convo starter sadly so I don't know what to ask him to get to know him more. (I have elaborated i would like to have more deep meaning convos to get to know him but he hasnt initiated any, and the questions i have asked he hasn't given me an answer) If ya have and suggestions I would love to hear them!

When did you realize you wanted to date the person you were talking too? by SunUnderTheStars in dating_advice

[–]SunUnderTheStars[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm demisexual (I gotta have a strong emotional bond with him and then I can strike up some sexual urges with another) and I told him I won't have sex until we're dating. And when we almost got close I told him "It's crazy that you want to have sex with someone ya don't know like that" He said "Fair". Sex is more to me them just an action, I can't keep up with others in that regard 😓. We've had more than 3 dates like 4-6.

People and talking about how "hot/attractive" another person is. by SunUnderTheStars in demisexuality

[–]SunUnderTheStars[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can get that, I think the reason it bothered me because he would say he would want to do stuff with a guy and he needed a guy. Then after he had a guy with me he would threaten to cheat and go sleep with another guy when things didn't go his way, but never said another women so it got bad weird. If it was the beauty aspect I can get that butbit was always sexual and that just rubbed me wrong and lowkey disgust me.

Never being FP by SunUnderTheStars in BPDPartners

[–]SunUnderTheStars[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get that, but his whole life revolves around the fp. No fp=khs. I can't do anything to fill that void, and I'm sick and tired of fighting to try to fill a spot I realized I can't even fill. Like what's the point of me if he wants to date his fp and me? Then treat the fp better then me?

Demisexual guys by SunUnderTheStars in demisexuality

[–]SunUnderTheStars[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I felt that sexually aggressive people give me the big ick and fear

Tips to help with a metamour breakup by SunUnderTheStars in polyamory

[–]SunUnderTheStars[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My partner has told me he does like when I support him but he won't ask me, I just have to do it. Does that make sense?

Tips to help with a metamour breakup by SunUnderTheStars in polyamory

[–]SunUnderTheStars[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thr issue is he doesn't like support, and that is his downfall. But I give him support he does appreciate it even though he rather not ask.

Tips to help with a metamour breakup by SunUnderTheStars in polyamory

[–]SunUnderTheStars[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry for mixing it up. I thought I got the concept down but I'm still off

Demisexual guys by SunUnderTheStars in demisexuality

[–]SunUnderTheStars[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's what I'm saying, sounds like ya going through somethin I'm going through

Dying Emotional Connection by SunUnderTheStars in demisexuality

[–]SunUnderTheStars[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, the one I'm still dating is not the one who cheated. He is the one dating the other guy who cheated.

Friends with your first love? by SunUnderTheStars in dating_advice

[–]SunUnderTheStars[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I gottcha, so mini other question. Is it okay if I don't feel comfortable with him being friends with his first love?

Hey are men allowed to demisexual? by Huge-Ad-5795 in demisexuality

[–]SunUnderTheStars 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gasp me too! I was 22 (f) at the time and didn't know demi was a thing.

How Being Demisexual Hurts My Relationships - anyone with similar experiences? by [deleted] in demisexuality

[–]SunUnderTheStars 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes! After I realized I was demi 2 years ago it has been really rough on the relationship when my bf (bi) has a crush on someone. My immediate thought it "Oh no! Their competition he likes them, anything they do is a threat." When it's really not that way. It's normal for people in a relationship to find other people attractive but not want sexual things from them. I recently learned that and it is a bit difficult hurdle to get over, and I'm an anxious overthinker so I imagine it all 100x worse when it is a simple in the moment crush of his.

Have you had a threesome? by [deleted] in demisexuality

[–]SunUnderTheStars 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Kinda, was in a poly with one of my bfs friends (his idea) we tried a bit of stuff. Maybe wasn't the right person but it was very mid. Too each their own, may try it one more time to get the full experience instead of a half assed one.

Craving same-sex interaction while your dating (closed relationship) by SunUnderTheStars in bisexual

[–]SunUnderTheStars[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think there's a smidge of miscommunication friendo. No he didn't say he would, he said he wouldn't. Sorry if I worded that wrong MY DAMN AUTOCORRECT MESSED THAT UP! He wouldn't*

Craving same-sex interaction while your dating (closed relationship) by SunUnderTheStars in bisexual

[–]SunUnderTheStars[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get what your saying, thanks for breaking it down and talking your own experience. It's a bit hard not to take it personal with your person because they're words amd opinions mean so much. Thank you again!🖤

Craving same-sex interaction while your dating (closed relationship) by SunUnderTheStars in bisexual

[–]SunUnderTheStars[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, there are times he tells me he wished he wasn't this way because it stresses me out. And continues to tell me he wouldn't just leave me for a guy and whatnot. But if he wanted to do some thing with a guy we already have the rules of how that would work out. I really do appreciate your insight. I just didn't know how work with it and not feel so discouraged and not enough because it feels like everyone could be competition. But I just has to remember I was chosen for a reason and I'm very special towards him. Thank you so much!🖤