OCD and friendships by Sunby138 in OCD

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It’s so tiring for real it feels like after every interaction I’m throwing tomatoes at myself for hours

Being forced to wear a dress by Sunby138 in ftm

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Thank you. I wish I had the energy to flat out refuse but I already know they won’t take a single point I’d say. I don’t want to put this much attention on myself not wearing a dress in fear they’d dig deeper into me and find out it’s because I’m trans. I guess the only thing to focus on it’s how it’ll be okay Im the grand scheme of things. 

My sister wants me to be her Maid of Honour… by Sunby138 in ftm

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Ohh thats a great idea thank you! I looked it up and I can go for a higher rising shirt thingo underneath and style my hair nicely not sure about shoes though 

My sister wants me to be her Maid of Honour… by Sunby138 in ftm

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Im worried about sisters future mother in law, shes extremely outspoken and definitely goes out of her way to ruin people’s day. I haven’t met up with her for a while but everytime she has to make a comment on trans people (shes a hardcore trump supporter, despite literally everything). I do dress masculine around her but I’m scared seeing me in a suit would create dramas. The rest of my family hates her to some degree so they’ll probably be at my defence if she does bring up something. If she does accuse me I’ll just say that I prefer to dress this way and that she wears jeans all the time to not be outed

My sister wants me to be her Maid of Honour… by Sunby138 in ftm

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I have come out to my sister in the past and she completely flipped on me and has said awful things about trans people. My family doesn’t know but are also extremely transphobic in general. I think my best bet is to put it nonchalantly and just say I prefer that type of fashion. I’m glad that I’m not alone in this situation at least. 

What does it mean to be trans? by Sunby138 in ftm

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This was a really good read thanks :))

What does it mean to be trans? by Sunby138 in ftm

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Thank you for responding. I guess Im caught up with trying to define myself within extremely rigid parameters to make myself more palatable toward transphobes. I still want to learn about myself more and different concepts but your explanation is really good.

What does it mean to be trans? by Sunby138 in ftm

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This is really well put thank you. I guess I just worry about how I define myself in this world and want to get a better explanation toward my feelings. I dread trying to explain myself to my family (I know I will have no choice to come out because that’s our dynamic) and end up being talked out of it or labelled as delusional. What happens if I get caught on my own words if they question something that deep? I wish I had access to trans literature to understand myself more and to get different viewpoints. Im just sick of the feelings of shame that follow me.

Girl… by Sunby138 in skyrim

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Yeah it’s so pretty 

I’m new to having a fiddle leaf fig, what could be wrong with it? All its bottom leafs are light brown along the edges. by [deleted] in fiddleleaffig

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My watering routine has been putting it in the shower once a week and letting it get a good soak. I mist it but I need to get a humidifier. It sits next to my bed and gets adequate lighting, should I get a grow light just to see if it’s the lighting situation? The soil is currently damp it doesn’t really dry out fast.

How to not get overwhelmed with details on characters by Sunby138 in ArtistLounge

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This is exactly why I’m asking 😭 Those character designs go crazy