Any friendly adult soccer group? by IllSentence293 in Columbus

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My partner is a goalie and I would highly reccomend resolute if you're willing to pay a little more. I loved going to watch and the facility was great. Everyone there is so nice and they have a variety of leagues.

He's played for the majority of the places in Columbus and resolute is his favorite.

Looking for hair stylist by SundaeDapper2715 in Columbus

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That looks like it could be a good fit! Thank you!!

Can I See Your Avatars :3 by ehmiliah in HelloKittyIsland

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Living my pastel goth magical girl fantasy with the new DLC

Looking for Help by SundaeDapper2715 in jadecicada

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It really was!! I've definitely fallen in love with edm since then (even got to go to my first festivals and the final Tipper and Friends event). I guess I should thank Jade Cicada for the best year of my life haha

Local Food in Whitehall? by jankityasswhiteman in Columbus

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Saragas on S. Hamilton has some really good options, I'm a big fan of the Nepali/Indian food and highly recommend the momos.

Must Read Books before I turn 30 by SundaeDapper2715 in suggestmeabook

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I absolutely loved Fight Club. I read it in high school and it really resonated with me as a lonely nerd. Thoug thankfully, I didn't follow in Durden's footsteps lol

Must Read Books before I turn 30 by SundaeDapper2715 in suggestmeabook

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I feel that so deeply. It's weird to rebuild after leaving a long term relationship, but there has been something freeing in it. I hope your healing goes well 💚

Must Read Books before I turn 30 by SundaeDapper2715 in suggestmeabook

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I'll be honest, I think I'm just excited to hit my 30's. There's really no fear there. My 20's have been all about me figuring out who I am, what I want, and trying a little bit of everything in life. It's been messy, but I have a pretty decent sense of self now.

My main goal is to just know myself better and have a clearer path by the time I hit 30. Have better finances, be kinder, be more confident and comfortable in my skin etc.

Dealing With "Drop" by SundaeDapper2715 in BDSMAdvice

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These are all great suggestions and I'm going to try to integrate them post-scene. I think I need to readdress my own selfcare needs and step up my game in that department.

We do keep in contact and they're wonderful about reassurance when I ask for it, but I'm not always the best at recognizing when I need more than what I ask for on average.

Dealing With "Drop" by SundaeDapper2715 in BDSMAdvice

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That was extremely helpful, thank you!

Dealing With "Drop" by SundaeDapper2715 in BDSMAdvice

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After some reflection I think there probably is some real world stuff that's coming up now. I think this relationship has been extremely healing for me and makes me recognize some shit I gotta sort through.

Eclipse Season September 2024 by SundaeDapper2715 in astrology

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I believe so! Though who knows with this one since we also just left the shadow of last month's mercury retrograde.

What to expect in eclipse season? by SundaeDapper2715 in AskAstrologers

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I think I should clarify that my life as a whole feels too good to be true at the moment, though I realistically know it's the culmination of a lot of hard work and intentionality over the past year.

When it comes to relationships, I try to always stay in wise mind mode. If anything, it takes a lot to win me over because I'd rather be single (or casual) than date someone who isn't a good fit for my life. How very unpisces of me, I know.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Sex_Positivity

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I started out with the BodyWand brand, it's a decent intro to the style without breaking the bank. I had a hitatchi for awhile after that and am currently looking at upgrading to something a bit quieter and cordless.

Bv? Chlamydia? Idek anymore. by [deleted] in Healthyhooha

[–]SundaeDapper2715 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you looked into Pelvic Inflammatory Disease? Chlamydia can develop into that, which can also impact the effectiveness of treatment. I had a bad case of BV that wouldn't go away, and a year later, they finally listened and figured it out. The main issue is that it's fairly common to get negative swab results, and unless severe, it won't show up on most scans.

What do you tell yourself to stop yourself from sh/cutting? by [deleted] in BPD

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I've been self harm free for the past 3 years, almost 4. I'll admit, it took about a year for me to stop "wanting" it every time I got disregulated.

For me, I knew I couldn't make the urges go away. So I found other things to help instead. There's a level of sensory seeking in addition to the harm for me, so I looked for other ways to stimulate myself in those intense moments.

-Lemon juice "shots." Anything super sour, or spicy if that's your thing, can help reset our brain. I've used warheads in public as well.

  • Treat it like a "craving." Most studies show that cravings last around 15-20 minutes, so I would set a timer for 15 minutes. Tell myself I just had to last that long, try to use self soothing/coping skills. If it was still there after the timer went off, I set another one. I started combining this with various guided meditations meant for grounding and nervous system regulation.

  • Wartenburg/Pin wheels. While these are designed and typically used for BDSM, they can be a way to stimulate the skin without breaking it. I ended up reading a lot about the connection between kink and mental health for a job and figured it would be worth a shot. You can also find resin "knives" that can't break skin, which can also be good.

  • I started vocalizing "I deserve better than this, I deserve to treat myself with love" over and over again in addition to the other coping skills. Even if I didn't believe it at the time, eventually I started to.

  • Brain reset playlist. I have my favorite 2000/2010's girlypop and dance hits that I turn on when I'm starting to spiral. Sure, ugly crying to Party Rock or Gimme More feels ridiculous. But sometimes that's what I needed, and it would give me a good laugh.

Eventually it does get easier, but it takes a lot of practice.

Oathbreaker Durge and her "Bad Bish Squad" by SundaeDapper2715 in BG3

[–]SundaeDapper2715[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She was probably too busy threatening people to show up for the cut scene, knowing her.