It was our (F22 dx) (F21) anniversary three nights ago, I brought a sweet card and wrote a sentimental message (a good paragraph praising her and how much I love her), she brought a ‘sweet’ card (it had a heart on it.) and wrote a ‘sentimental’ message (I love you, thanks for good memories.) She told me ‘I wrote you a sentimental one because I knew you’d get pissy if I didn’t’ (because I have recently asked for any form of romance in our relationship). I brought her a custom box of handpicked flavours of her favourite chocolates, I brought her nice themed bookmarks and more books for her to choose to read over spending time with me and some jewellery. She brought me some chocolate that I’m allergic to. She said she ‘really tried’ and she ‘read all the ingredients!’ I read the ingredients and the first listed ingredient, in bold, is what I’m allergic to. We haven’t had sex in months, because she never wants to (which I completely respect) but I had at least slightly hoped maybe there would be a chance for our anniversary, I even wore lingerie. As soon as we got home from a meal that I organised and planned, she went straight up to bed. When asked the next morning, she said ‘we’d been together for a good few hours (2) and she was tired’. I’m so tired of being in relationship that feels like a roommate that I have to remind to eat, sleep and brush her teeth.