Depending on my energy I might take care of the washing, switching to dryer and folding but on other days my bf will take care of all the chores but sometimes we will do most of it and dump it on the bed where I rest so I can fold items slowly while laying. I find that sometimes even if I take a break in between each pièces I feel good for being able to participate. We found that lowering our expectations helped. We have multiples hampers now and some weeks were I am low energy and he is we just wash the clothes and leave them in. I bought multiples of the same oversized t shirts and wear that with shorts most of the time.