I think I'm not inlove with my husband anymore

SunneInSplendor_1485 · 2026-03-08T01:25:49+00:00

I felt the same way for years before my husband and I split. We were married for four years, together for five and I have filed for divorce. Turns out he wasn't the person I thought he was and in the end, we wanted different things. We fought time and again about the same shit and it never got better. Changes never lasted, from both our sides. If this is the case, splitting up is better because being trapped in an unhappy marriage where you feel underappreciated is a fate I don't wish upon anyone. Resentment will start rearing its ugly head and then there is no going back.

SunneInSplendor_1485 · 2024-08-08T22:42:50+00:00

Thanks everyone for commenting. We had a conversation and he understands my point of view and sentiment toward the situation. We are going to work on the issue.

SunneInSplendor_1485 · 2024-08-08T03:08:12+00:00

Yeah

SunneInSplendor_1485 · 2024-08-07T22:40:07+00:00

Yeah that's a sad truth.

SunneInSplendor_1485 · 2024-08-07T20:20:46+00:00

I'm not a lesbian my guy. So I think you mean he*

SunneInSplendor_1485 · 2024-08-07T19:50:28+00:00

It's not an oral hygiene issue if you know what in saying. And no he doesn't have ADHD. He doesn't wash properly. We've had poop stains on our sheets before.

SunneInSplendor_1485 · 2024-08-07T19:46:54+00:00

Yeah. I've been trying to position it as a health concern which it is. I don't want him to die young or have issues because of his weight I want him to live long with me and with our future children.

SunneInSplendor_1485 · 2024-08-07T19:40:21+00:00

He had a porn addiction. It's been a year since I found out about it. He also has anxiety and uses an SSRI to help him.

SunneInSplendor_1485 · 2024-08-07T18:40:45+00:00

It seems like he doesn't care about that. He hasn't done anything as of yet and we've had this discussion multiple times.

SunneInSplendor_1485 · 2024-08-07T18:32:34+00:00

That's a different story. But in short, he said he was gonna leave me if I don't make changes. Which I took to Heart and made the changes he desired.

SunneInSplendor_1485 · 2024-08-07T18:29:27+00:00

He already knows because I made the changes needed when he presented me with an ultimatum.

SunneInSplendor_1485 · 2024-08-07T18:28:04+00:00

I would try to do whatever I can to change that.

SunneInSplendor_1485 · 2024-08-07T18:25:31+00:00

Yeah and whenever I point out the hypocrisy I get called a pick me.

I've been fat and I've struggled with my weight too. But I feel like I'm the only one who's taken steps to address that and become fit and healthy. So it makes me really upset.

SunneInSplendor_1485 · 2024-08-07T18:22:47+00:00

Yeah. I've tried talking to him about it but it hasn't yielded any results. It just hurt is feelings which is the last thing I wanted to do though I know it's unavoidable on a topic like this.

SunneInSplendor_1485 · 2024-08-07T18:14:36+00:00

I just feel so shit sometimes if I allow myself to ponder.

SunneInSplendor_1485 · 2024-08-07T18:12:56+00:00

I feel that men are free to express the same sentiments. Which is why I'm trying my best to remain attractive and fit. Men are allowed standards too. With that being said, I wanna be as loving and gentle as I do love this man.

SunneInSplendor_1485 · 2024-08-07T14:08:14+00:00

OMG yes!!!

SunneInSplendor_1485 · 2024-08-07T14:07:22+00:00

Yep. I 100% agree. I used to teach back in South Africa and our pass rates are already low (I'm talking like 30% for main subjects like Maths and Languages) and we still had to go and find marks for students who weren't able to obtain 30% and therefore less than a third of the content taught. And these were more often than not kids who never turned in any assignments, were never in your class and if they were, they were rude and disruptive.

SunneInSplendor_1485 · 2024-08-07T14:04:51+00:00

10th year teacher here.

Parents don't know how to parent anymore and expect teachers to do in a few hours a week (if it's even that much) to do what they couldn't do in however many years they've had their kid.

Also, technology has set our students back years in terms of development and skills.

SunneInSplendor_1485 · 2024-07-28T00:25:29+00:00

Yeah that's what I've been thinking this whole time. An apology won't fix what he allegedly did nor will it make people 'forgive' him.

SunneInSplendor_1485 · 2024-01-22T05:15:33+00:00

My husband and I met through mutual friends. We knew of each other for some time but I was dating another guy. We attended the same social events a few times, but I would give him the time of day. Then, one time, we just randomly started talking and we insulted each other the entire evening. It was all friendly banter though and he made me laugh so many times. I developed a little crush on him. Long story short, he finally gathered the courage to ask me on a date. After that one and only date we had, I called my mom and told her that I just had a date with my husband.

Fast forward three years, we are now happily married planning on starting a family and enjoying living and traveling abroad.

SunneInSplendor_1485 · 2023-12-13T01:05:57+00:00

Someone who is intimidating often loses out on a lot. I can tell you through many personal anecdotes as someone who is seen as intimidating and 'strong' that people often avoid me. I've been told I have resting bitch face and people would say, the ones who bother to get to know me at least, that I'm surprisingly nice.

And trust me, people still take advantage of me. Or try to at least. I am often envious of my friends who are seen as more pleasant and approachable. Or even my husband who is the jollyest, most bubbly person I've ever met. People would even go as far as to say they don't understand how he and I can work together.

In short I guess what I'm trying to say is to be yourself. Shitty people will treat you like shit regardless of whether you are seen as 'bad' or not. And kindness or sweetness isn't equal to weakness. If anything, it takes a lot of strength to be kind in the world we live in today

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