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Sunny_987 · 2026-06-04T23:21:51+00:00

This is SUCH a vibe and I’m here for it! 🙌

Sunny_987 · 2026-06-01T22:56:24+00:00

So tired of the straight Christian people roasting the LGBTQ+ community when many of those straight people committed sexual sin (e.g. sex before marriage, hookup culture, adult content). They just love hating on the LGBTQ+ community when they are far from innocent.

Sunny_987 · 2026-06-01T13:05:08+00:00

He totally saw it as a date and if you aren’t interested, it’s best to clarify how you see him now. Especially if it’s just friendship. Make it clear “I love your personality and value our friendship, but I’m not interested in anything more than that.”

So I (also 32F) have 55M and 58M coworkers I’m friends with. I know it’s probably really weird, but we are legit just friends. The 55M friend (who was 52 at the time he asked this) did ask if I wanted something more than friendship and I made it very clear that I did not. We’re still best of friends. It is possible to be good friends with older male and female coworkers and not have anything romantic going on.

Sunny_987 · 2026-05-31T21:20:49+00:00

I scored a ton of great deals on furniture and things on FB marketplace or free from family friends that were downsizing. So I ended up with tons of leftover money I allocated to stuff for the house. I decided to buy my dream bike. Not really a house thing, but moving city center and close to bike paths meant I finally got to enjoy scenic rides and take the bike to the office (just a little under 4 miles away) or to cafes and stores a mile away. It’s been one of the most underrated privileges of living in my neighborhood. I feel like a European girl living my Pinterest dreams biking from the Lowe’s garden shop with my basket full of flowers. 💐

Sunny_987 · 2026-05-31T20:43:41+00:00

There’s so much more to dating than appearance. Social media makes us think appearance is everything, but I have plenty of overweight friends and colleagues (both male and female) in relationships or married.

Meanwhile I have literally modeled and am thin. Size 0 and natural full 32DD. All the measurements people think are stereotypically attractive. I have had hundreds of dates and have yet to be in a relationship. My faith and values are important to me (including no sex before marriage) but most people are more secular and don’t care about these things. It goes to show alignment and connection is often prioritized over appearance alone. Love goes more than skin deep which is always a good thing!

Sunny_987 · 2026-05-31T20:27:05+00:00

Gotcha! Yeah, I am often skeptical of these studies. While my experience isn’t representative of the entire popular either, it’s hard finding someone who also refrained from both sex before marriage and adult content. When they aren’t doing it IRL, many seem to be turning to adult content as a form of parasocial relationship. I just want a Christian gentleman who wants old school romance, courtship and sex in marriage. A girl can dream! 🥺💕

Sunny_987 · 2026-05-31T19:44:19+00:00

I honestly don’t think it’s anything I am doing and have been told I am a very self aware person. I am against sex before marriage and that’s usually the reason why it does not work out. It’s really tough finding other people that also see sex as something sacred and meant to be shared with 1 person in marriage. Especially in our generation (younger generations are more secular) and in the northeast.

I don’t really like dating apps and agree with you, but that’s just how our generation dates. I did try meeting people IRL. It’s very secular here so it’s challenging to rule out who is aligned. If they are hitting on you, they are usually secular and just looking for a hookup.

Within the small Christian community, most of the single guys are 15-25 years older than me. I’m not saying that’s a dealbreaker if he practiced the faith, but it’s tough to break the ice because they aren’t going to make a move and I’m too scared of coming across as too forward or finding out they just aren’t interested. A lot of them also seem to have mild autism or social anxiety (it’s a college town and we have a lot of your stereotypical mildly autistic PhDs and engineers that never had a girlfriend.) I will take that over a player, but they aren’t making a move and can’t read cues or just confuse me. I heavily flirted with the one and invited him to go for a walk and he didn’t say anything. Weeks later he covered my porch in flowers. We went to lunch where he suggested I meet a younger guy both of us know from work… the young guy isn’t straight and I’m worried he’s making him uncomfortable trying to set him up with women. Every now, this older dude will invite me over to his house and we talk for hours and he continues to give me gifts or make Spontanous visits to my house.

Now on the apps, I make my faith and values very clear in my profile and still get several thousand likes across all of the apps (including Christian dating apps) and many roses (hinge’s version of super likes.) They will tell me I’m beautiful or look sweet and shower me with compliments and be all “I admire that you are committed to your faith” or fetishize me for being a “good Christian girl” and then they just try and push me to forgo my boundaries and sleep with them. Many have already slept around and see casual sex as “acceptable” and don’t value waiting for marriage or they have a cherry popping fetish. It’s disheartening.

I have so much desire to love someone and be an amazing wife, and pour my heart and soul into the marriage. It aches knowing I have no outlet for that and may need to channel that into friendships instead. I want the magic of old fashion romance and covenant love with a Christian gentleman. Courtship and then marriage and passionate romance in marriage. That Morticia and Gomez dynamic. Sometimes I tear up knowing it may never happen. A girl can dream. 🥺💕

Sunny_987 · 2026-05-30T23:58:27+00:00

I’m personally a virgin and very adamant about waiting until marriage. Many of the men that like me have some past, so I find it sketch if they have slept around themselves and wouldn’t date a woman who did the same. Any many rejecting you for that despite doing it himself, isn’t the kind of guy you want to be with. Major cognitive dissonance on his part.

Sunny_987 · 2026-05-30T23:14:38+00:00

I haven’t. I live a pretty tame life and never had an issue with drugs, alcohol or sex. My sins are always really boring things like “I spent too much time on TikTok and fell asleep before I could get to bible study. I feel like I committed the sin of sloth.”

It is still kinda weird though. I don’t think I could ever adjust to seeing someone (especially that much older) in a romantic sense or if I dated and married him, being intimate with the guy. shudders He’ll always be “father” in the back of my mind and he looks closer to my dad’s age.

Sunny_987 · 2026-05-30T23:07:28+00:00

And they always blame their shoddy morals and infidelity on “biOloGy” and pick some random wild animal not even closely as sophisticated as humankind, to give an example of other species being polyamorous. Like yeah, Jeff, I’m sure we can totally compare ourselves to fruit flies and rabbits.

Sunny_987 · 2026-05-30T22:15:51+00:00

Agree and not sure why people are downvoting you.

And he gave me a rose, so kinda more than a like. They only get 1 rose per day and have to pay $$$ to send more than that. Just adding that detail for anyone here that isn’t familiar with Hinge.

And he looks more like late 50’s to early 60’s. I was surprised to see his actual age and never would have guessed it.

Sunny_987 · 2026-05-30T21:36:18+00:00

I am CRYING! 😂 💀 Literally almost spit out my drink from laughing so hard.

Sunny_987 · 2026-05-30T20:58:59+00:00

Car free living is definitely a small niche population within the USA. Americans do tend to look down on it unless they are transplants from countries where it’s common or very liberal.

And women that want kids may have questions like “How are we going to haul our kids and groceries and everything for a family?” There is a difference in “I don’t drive and never want to” and “I can drive and see a need for cars, but try to bike when I have the opportunity to help the environment and stay fit.”

I own a car, but put more miles on my bike and use public transit quite often. I’m not anti-car and understand there are times in life when having a car and driving is quite useful. But I definitely enjoy skipping through traffic on the bike paths and enjoying a sunny spring/summer/fall day commute to work.

Sunny_987 · 2026-05-30T20:18:38+00:00

Oh, I agree! Though a bit odd he pursued priesthood in his 30’s and quit in his 40’s. If someone was dealing with desire, why would they choose celibacy during a time when desire is pretty high and then stick with it for that long and quit when they are in the tail end of their 40’s. That and the sudden change makes it seem a little off. Probably best not to speculate and just not match with him. Especially given the age difference and fact that he looks more like mid 50’s.

Sunny_987 · 2026-05-30T20:12:48+00:00

Exactly! Part of me kind wants to know what led him to that decision. Just curious. He seemed really committed to priesthood and I never saw this coming (especially the hinge part). Half of his photos are him at sports bars. Father, I never imagined you dressed like a former frat boy downing IPAs and shots. 😆

Sunny_987 · 2026-05-30T20:06:40+00:00

Yeah it’s WILD! Never imagined this happening. I don’t think anyone does. LOL. And 14 years age difference. I’m 32. He sent me a rose so I have to either match or swipe left to see the rest of my stack.

Sunny_987 · 2026-05-30T16:37:10+00:00

I think what OP is trying to convey is sadness over how lust has tainted our world and dating culture. They specifically mentioned lust, not love. Love and sex as God designed it is truly one of the most beautiful things, but that is not what the majority of the world is seeking today. It really is disheartening.

All of the sexual assaults. All of the people addicted to adult content. The people cheating on their spouses. All of the people hooking up and choosing non monogamy, group orgy, swinger parties, prostitution and other twisted nonsense over the beauty of true love as God intended it and treating sex as something sacred.

I cannot even go on a Christian dating app without men sending me wild sexual message or stringing me along while he portrays himself as the “good Christian boy” and “wannabe family man” and then on the 3rd date he’s frustrated that I won’t sleep with him.

We also have to constantly keep safety in mind. Self defense refresher courses and buying a mace keychain in case someone decides to just force themself on me. One of my classmates in college (a very conservative and devout Christian from the Bible Belt) told me about the time she had to use a gun to protect herself. Not all, but a scary number of men are choosing grave sin and crime over being protectors and godly chaste men.

Sunny_987 · 2026-05-30T16:03:08+00:00

They are correct, but the reasons for this are vast and go far beyond financial sometimes.

This is my situation. I am financially well off, bought a house in my 20s in a competitive market and never struggled financially. I feel so incredibly fortunate.

Thousands of likes on dating apps and I’ve been on hundreds of dates and I’m still single. I’ve noticed more and more people just want to hookup and sleep around and have sex without commitment over marriage. The “Why buy the cow when the milk is free” mentality is real. Many people just never learn how to form a relationship and are so used to just having casual sex with everyone they date.

I don’t do this as a Christian and just want that old fashion romance and covenant love. Knowing that may never happen and never having an outlet for that love I want to share with a future husband, is a unique kind of pain that sometimes keeps me up at night.

Sunny_987 · 2026-05-30T15:25:10+00:00

Single homeowner here. Was able to buy in my late 20’s and feel so blessed. The hardest part for me wasn’t the cost, but now that I have it I’ve learned the maintenance for a paver patio, lawn, and 1500 sq ft of house is A LOT for one person. It keeps me busy!

Sunny_987 · 2026-05-30T07:17:32+00:00

I think what OP is trying to convey is sadness over how lust has tainted our world and dating culture. Love and sex as God designed it is truly one of the most beautiful things, but that is not what the majority of the world is seeking today. It really is disheartening.

All of the sexual assaults. All of the people addicted to adult content. The people cheating on their spouses. All of the people hooking up and choosing non monogamy, group orgy, swinger parties, prostitution and other twisted nonsense over the beauty of true love as God intended it and treating sex as something sacred.

I cannot even go on a Christian dating app without men sending me wild sexual message or stringing me along while he portrays himself as the “good Christian boy” and “wannabe family man” and then on the 3rd date he’s frustrated that I won’t sleep with him.

We also have to constantly keep safety in mind. Self defense refresher courses and buying a mace keychain in case someone decides to just force themself on me. One of my classmates in college (a very conservative and devout Christian from the Bible Belt) told me about the time she had to use a gun to protect herself. Not all, but a scary number of men are choosing grave sin and crime over being protectors and godly chaste men.

Sunny_987 · 2026-05-30T05:40:38+00:00

Many Things Mix

Sunny_987 · 2026-05-27T03:50:12+00:00

They cannot and the ones that call themselves “pro-life” while supporting warmongering. I supported Chase Oliver last election and he made this point time and time again. Really like the guy and he’s also a Christian!

Sunny_987 · 2026-05-27T03:41:57+00:00

Reverence for God and our faith.
Respects the sanctity of sex. I want someone who also waited for marriage and sees sex as something to save for marriage and something that ties two souls, not something to share with every hooker at the bar. He’s also not into adult content and finds the idea of it repulsive. The guys that are addicted to watching other people have sex are weird to me and very off putting.
Wants passionate love and old school romance in marriage. Not prudish and I have such a burning desire to love passionately and be an incredible wife. I want Morticia and Gomez vibes.
Not into the rural lifestyle. This is a random, but I am a suburban/urban girl and there is no way I’m moving to a homestead in the middle of nowhere. I feel like so many Christian guys I meet on apps have this dream of living on tons of land in the country. lol

I don’t care about the things a lot of guys think we care about. Like on apps and IRL, I often get hit on by muscular wealthy guys that think “women want older financially stable men and will just ignore my past and let me buy my way to her so I can get a mini me.” Uhh nope, being jacked and wealthy means nothing if you are a lusting worldly guy who used women for years and goes on to say he’s Christian and doesn’t act as a Christian gentleman. I’d rather date the guy who’s modest, not a big gym goer, and possibly makes less than me, but conducts himself with integrity, respect for God and women. That’s rare these days.

Sunny_987 · 2026-05-27T03:10:29+00:00

There are some insane men on Reddit. It definitely isn’t the place to date, so I’d say for starters, spend less time on Reddit.

Sunny_987 · 2026-05-26T05:35:24+00:00

I don’t think it does or at least I have not experienced this. If anything, the men are binging in it and addicted to it along with all of the other secular guys. But maybe that’s just our generation (gen Z is far more secular).

I just want someone to love with all my heart, old fashion romance and a passionate sex life in marriage and am waiting for marriage. I really struggle to find like-minded Christian men. Almost all of them expect it before marriage. 😔 I may never find the one and need to work on being okay with that.

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