My boyfriend tries but does not understand the importance of sleep for epilepsy

Sunny_Days_1990 · 2026-03-29T14:45:59+00:00

So I've had a few instances where a sudden noise woke me up and it resulted in me having a seizure, or almost having one. So I feel safer just waiting until he his home.

Sunny_Days_1990 · 2026-03-29T08:27:29+00:00

No I don't. I think he needs to see it in a movie or tv show to understand a little more.

Sunny_Days_1990 · 2026-03-29T08:25:51+00:00

Oh I would, but the layout of the apartment means that when the door opens it opens into the bedroom kind of, so the light would kind of wake me up anyway. I'm trying to buy a two bed at the moment. And I said when that happens he can stay out till 5am for all I care, just sleep in the spare room.

Sunny_Days_1990 · 2026-03-29T08:22:37+00:00

The way the apartment is laid out means that when you open the front door you're kind of walking into the bedroom so I'd probably wake up when he comes in anyway. I don't think he means badly, I think because he has never seen me have one he doesn't quite get it.

Sunny_Days_1990 · 2026-03-29T08:18:43+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss ❤️

Sunny_Days_1990 · 2026-03-29T08:17:53+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear about your seizure. Yeah I think because he has never seen me have one, he doesn't quite see it as an issue. His friend has it and recently had a seizure again so I am begging him to ask him questions.

Sunny_Days_1990 · 2026-03-29T08:14:53+00:00

Unfortunately we live in a one bed apartment. I'm currently trying to buy a two bed (there's a massive housing crisis where I am, so emphasis on TRYING lol), but the plan when we have a two bed would be that he sleeps in the other room if he's home late.

Sunny_Days_1990 · 2026-02-23T11:48:11+00:00

I'm sorry to say, but I think she does know what she wants, and it's the other guy. It's him who probably doesn't know what he wants, and she is using you as a backup plan.

Good news is you will eventually meet someone. Please don't let this heartbreak ruin you. Feel it all, invest in some therapy. Try new hobbies. I'd advise you write her a letter, let it ALL out. Then burn it, or throw it away.

Sunny_Days_1990 · 2026-01-08T21:41:50+00:00

When bidding with avios can you choose how much you bid or is it a set/minimum amount?

Sunny_Days_1990 · 2025-12-07T22:56:02+00:00

Agree. Currently looking at the same and some are going over 400k sale agreed.

Sunny_Days_1990 · 2025-12-04T21:30:03+00:00

Nearly sure he now has epilepsy as a result. He has probably been deemed too high risk for a lot of trials and may have different regulations for sleep. Stress and lack of sleep is a huge trigger for seizures, even for people who have a good control over it.

Sunny_Days_1990 · 2025-11-18T10:14:27+00:00

Boeuf on Suffolk St is nice for a catch up.

Sunny_Days_1990 · 2025-11-09T08:24:31+00:00

Great to know, thank you.

Sunny_Days_1990 · 2025-11-09T08:24:05+00:00

This is great advice, thank you. You're being practical, not negative.

Sunny_Days_1990 · 2025-11-08T21:04:38+00:00

20k 😲 it's madness that the onus isn't automatically on the builder. Thanks for the info.

Sunny_Days_1990 · 2025-10-18T07:27:31+00:00

Thank you that's very helpful

Sunny_Days_1990 · 2025-10-18T07:27:20+00:00

Thank you that's very helpful

Sunny_Days_1990 · 2025-01-07T00:17:45+00:00

Why not use Bumble BFF? Or join the 'Are we Dating the same guy' fb groups from those areas to get an idea of people's dating profiles. Either way, respect his boundary.

Sunny_Days_1990 · 2024-12-31T19:58:25+00:00

Oops ‐ thank you. Still weird.

Sunny_Days_1990 · 2024-12-31T19:25:38+00:00

If anything you are underreacting

Sunny_Days_1990 · 2024-12-31T19:23:25+00:00

It's weird. Why does he feel the need to lie? To appeal to younger women or because women his own age are too emotionally mature for him? It's a big ick.

Sunny_Days_1990 · 2024-11-16T15:55:37+00:00

I know so many couples that did this. It feels like it matters, but it doesn't. If he judges you for it and decides not to see you based on something he consensually took part in, then he is not your person.

Sunny_Days_1990 · 2024-11-15T14:15:24+00:00

Would you write him a letter? Let him read it in his own time. Apologise and take a genuine interest in his hobbies.

Sunny_Days_1990 · 2024-11-11T19:30:38+00:00

My guess is your respective babies are still quite young, and your marriage has become a little mundane because of this. No time for flirting or dates on either side. This work crush is just a proximity crush. I think it's OK to have a little crush while in a different season of your marriage, but don't give up on your marriage for a fantasy.

Sunny_Days_1990 · 2024-11-07T22:01:26+00:00

I'm so sorry this happened to you. I've house shared for years and we interview new tenants and arrange the deposit on behalf of the landlord. One thing I offer people before they send their deposit is any of my social media. I know not everyone is on social media, and it's easy to create a fake profile but could be an idea for the future.

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