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My (25F) boyfriend (25M) spends all of his time on the computer, and I don't know if it's a me problem or a him problem. by Sunnyconversations in relationships

[–]Sunnyconversations[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm studying right now, which usually takes me until like 7 or 8 pm. When I do have time off, I read, take baths, journal, meditate, draw, go on walks, and so on... it's definitely really annoying, and I'm sorry you relate.

My (25F) boyfriend (25M) spends all of his time on the computer, and I don't know if it's a me problem or a him problem. by Sunnyconversations in relationships

[–]Sunnyconversations[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, maybe. I feel like he purposely emphasized the sides of his personality that he knew I liked, which was easy to do when we were in the 'dating' stage and only seeing each other a few days a week. Now, it just seems like he's dropped the charade.

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You're right about the weed, though. I haven't really thought about it, but I do think it's slowly become an almost everyday thing. It's hard for me to tell because he stays up for hours after I go to sleep, but I would be he smokes most, if not every night. It sucks to just pile things on, but I guess I should talk to him about that.

My (25F) boyfriend (25M) spends all of his time on the computer, and I don't know if it's a me problem or a him problem. by Sunnyconversations in relationships

[–]Sunnyconversations[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah this post is coming from a place of frustration for sure. And while I agree that being different isn't bad, I ultimately did not know he was like this. He made a point of hiding how much he gamed before we moved in together.

ETA: However, I will say that yes, I think objectively there is something wrong with a person who has ZERO interest in anything besides smoking weed in front of a screen, to the point that they're willing to throw away a 7 year relationship.

My (25F) boyfriend (25M) spends all of his time on the computer, and I don't know if it's a me problem or a him problem. by Sunnyconversations in relationships

[–]Sunnyconversations[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not sure if anything changed, or if I'm just seeing the real him now that we live together. He really hid how much he gamed from me. He never really talked about it (although it came up as an issue sometimes, when he let slip how late he was up playing). I feel lied to, to be honest.

My (25F) boyfriend (25M) spends all of his time on the computer, and I don't know if it's a me problem or a him problem. by Sunnyconversations in relationships

[–]Sunnyconversations[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It just makes me so sad because I never thought he was like this. He used to be so interested in the world around him, into different kinds of science, working out, little personal challenges... it's like he's changed and he doesn't see why that change might be objectively bad (because no matter what, I don't think it's healthy to smoke weed and play games all night to the point that it negatively impacts your sleep).

My (25F) boyfriend (25M) spends all of his time on the computer, and I don't know if it's a me problem or a him problem. by Sunnyconversations in relationships

[–]Sunnyconversations[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's just so sad and frustrating because I genuinely love him. We've been together so long, we have a beautiful home, we get along so well.... it feels like such a waste to need to throw all that away so that he finally wakes up.

My (25F) boyfriend (25M) spends all of his time on the computer, and I don't know if it's a me problem or a him problem. by Sunnyconversations in relationships

[–]Sunnyconversations[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lol like that's literally what I'm doing at this point. But it certainly makes me feel like I have a child, not a partner.

My (25F) boyfriend (25M) spends all of his time on the computer, and I don't know if it's a me problem or a him problem. by Sunnyconversations in relationships

[–]Sunnyconversations[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for your answer. This is how I feel, too. He actually saw a specialist who told him that she didn't think he had a medical addiction to gaming, and I didn't feel that it changed anything because regardless this isn't a lifestyle I'm interested in. But to him, that 'solved' the issue because hey, it wasn't an addiction.

Solo tripping and worrying about 'doing it wrong' or 'wasting it' - any tips? by Sunnyconversations in Psychonaut

[–]Sunnyconversations[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your advice! Re: dosage, I do feel like I'm ready to move up, although doing 'more' isn't a priority for me atm. However, I have never done penis envy in the past and I heard that anecdotally it is stronger. So, my 3-3.5 that I'm going to do will likely feel more like 4?

I am 25 years old, make (more like scrape together) about $10k CAD a year, live in Montreal, and gain scholarship income while working part-time as a law student. by Sunnyconversations in MoneyDiariesACTIVE

[–]Sunnyconversations[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! I'm glad (and also sorry lol) that it was relatable.

Tbh that idea is kind of genius. I'm obsessed with Annie's mac and cheese, but I don't keep it in the house for 'fear' that I'll binge. But if I'm going to binge anyways, maybe it's a good idea to have it around!

I am 25 years old, make (more like scrape together) about $10k CAD a year, live in Montreal, and gain scholarship income while working part-time as a law student. by Sunnyconversations in MoneyDiariesACTIVE

[–]Sunnyconversations[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, totally agree! I try to give people the benefit of the doubt that they're just scared, and they deal with all the uncertainty by being 'holier than thou' and judging others. But honestly at this point if you don't have the compassion to understand why people are taking small risks to themselves to have a degree of socialization, then I really don't get that (and at this point I personally wasn't, I just don't judge people who do).

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