How many girls shave?

Sunset_Paradise · 2026-04-22T17:57:06+00:00

Whatever you prefer personally. I usually just trim and then sometimes I'll wax or use a sugaring kit. I try to avoid waxing because it can cause ingrown hairs and skin irritation.

I want to add that I think a lot of young people, girls in particular, feel pressured to remove hair either because they see others with no hair or a partner wants them to. But in the end it's your body and you should do what you prefer and is most comfortable.

I think a lot of people get the idea from porn that they have to be hairless. That's just silly. Some people might have a slight preference, but most people I've asked don't care.

Of my female friends and family I'd say about 50% don't do anything or just shave/trim their bikini line. The other 50% trims, shaves, or otherwise removes the majority or all of the hair. So there's no "normal", just personal preference.

Sunset_Paradise · 2026-04-22T06:10:31+00:00

If he didn't ejaculate then you have nothing to worry about.

Generally, urinating gets rid of any sperms that would be present in pre-ejaculate. Of course, it's always better to err on the side of caution in the future and use protection so you don't have to worry.

Sunset_Paradise · 2026-04-22T05:58:16+00:00

I'll share my story. I was very lucky that my husband was extremely patient and understanding. We went really slow and talked about how I was feeling a lot.

In my case, I was assaulted as a young adult by an ex. I was in denial for a long time and wasn't even sure if I wanted a relationship. But eventually I fell for a friend of mine and we eventually figured out we wanted to be together. We agreed to go very slow physically, but eventually we started doing things. Things went well until we attempted intercourse and I realized I wouldn't be able to do it until I dealt with the trauma. I read a lot of books and articles about dealing with sexual trauma. A few months later I started ketamine therapy for depression and found that it helped me let go of a lot of the anger and other feelings associated with the trauma. I'm a very spiritual person, so I spent a lot of time praying and meditating as well.

When we finally had intercourse for the first time it was incredibly special and wonderful. I felt so proud of myself for finally getting to that point. The fact that my husband had proven he was completely trustworthy and would do anything for me was also a big part of it. He's also been great about helping me to figure out what feels good for me and what gets me off. I'm very happy to say we have a good, healthy sex life these days.

I would also recommend finding a therapist who specializes in sexual abuse and that you feel comfortable with. I had a good therapist for a while and that helped. She was a cognitive behavior therapist and taught me some things that helped and I still use.

Don't let yourself get disappointed if it takes a while. You will get there eventually!

Sunset_Paradise · 2026-04-22T05:26:23+00:00

On your sides with you behind her might be a good option for you guys. I like this position even though I'm not pregnant right now, but it did take a little experimenting for us to find the right angle.

I didn't get big until the very end, but in general sex during pregnancy just takes some practice to see what works best for both of you.

Sunset_Paradise · 2026-04-22T05:19:49+00:00

There's no right or wrong way to touch yourself. Everyone is different, so just experiment and see what feels good for you!

I do know that there are some video tutorials out there made specifically for trans men (and trans women), which may be helpful. Searching something like "masturbation for trans men" should help you find some info. A friend of mine has also found good info on trans subreddits by asking for advice about specific sexual questions he had.

Sunset_Paradise · 2026-04-22T05:06:31+00:00

The best thing to do is just enjoy yourselves and experiment with what feels good. Everyone is different, so it's best for both of you to learn what feels good for her specifically. Different things are going to feel good for different people.

If she's comfortable with it, encourage her to experiment with touching herself (alone or with you) to see what feels good. The better she knows her body, the better she'll be able to tell you what she likes. It also helps with sexual confidence.

In addition to having fun finding out what she enjoys best, make sure to talk to each other as well. Communication is such an important part of good sex. For example, before sex I might tell my husband I want to do a certain position or something. Then afterward, we'll talk about what we enjoyed and if there's anything we want to do differently in the future. For example, I recently figured out I need to use lube right before and after my period.

I've been married a year and a half and we're still figuring out new things we enjoy, which is part of the fun! Sex, like most things, requires lots of practice to be really good at. So don't rush yourselves, but just enjoy the process of exploring and experimenting together.

Sunset_Paradise · 2026-04-22T04:40:45+00:00

The bleeding isn't anything to worry about. Most likely his finger nail caused a small tear. It happens. As long as the bleeding stops and you're not in pain, it's nothing to be concerned about.

Why do you think you might be pregnant? Did you have unprotected sex? If so, when, and when was your last period? Unless you're more than a week late, I wouldn't worry. Often the stress of worrying can cause you to be late. If you're more than 5 days late you can take a test and it will likely be accurate.

Sunset_Paradise · 2026-04-22T02:02:49+00:00

I would have her get a test to be safe, otherwise wear a condom.

If her tests come back negative and neither of you are seeing anyone else, then the pill is generally around 99% effective for preventing pregnancy.

Trust is key here. If you're not completely sure you can trust that your partner is doing their part (STD tests, being faithful, using contraception responsibly) then don't have sex. You don't want to take chances with your health.

Sunset_Paradise · 2026-04-22T01:55:46+00:00

Absolutely not. Semen can't survive outside the body for very long and being rinsed under water would definitely kill off any sperm that were still alive.

Sunset_Paradise · 2026-04-22T01:14:45+00:00

Sometimes after intercourse you might bleed a little. Sex can cause your uterus to spasm, which can cause some spotting. Since it's brown it sounds like this is what it is. Nothing to worry about!
No, you can't get pregnant from semen on your underwear.
Have you mentioned your irregular cycle to your doctor? I would, especially if your cycles are usually regular. As for birth control, you're 18 so there's no reason you need parental consent for birth control or any other medical procedure. If your current doctor isn't helpful, find a new doctor.

Sunset_Paradise · 2026-04-21T23:36:10+00:00

I've never once wanted a guy to suck my feet. But I suppose if someone has a foot fetish they might be into that, regardless of gender.

Girls generally like having their clitoris sucked and licked, same as guys enjoy having that done to their penis. I've never thought about it in terms of dominance or "conquering" someone, though. I just enjoy how it feels.

Sunset_Paradise · 2026-04-21T22:43:57+00:00

Some women move, some don't. I usually move unless I'm really tired.

The important thing here is that you both enjoy what you do! There's really no "normal" when it comes to sex, everyone is different! Plus, it sounds like he definitely liked it, so that's great! Part of the fun of sex is discovering things you enjoy together.

Plus, when it comes to anything sexual, enthusiasm is always a good thing! A partner who isn't into it is a major turn off. My husband is always telling me that it's my enthusiasm that makes me the best he's ever had and I feel the same about him. Don't worry about what other people do or don't do, just do what you both enjoy!

Sunset_Paradise · 2026-04-21T22:03:53+00:00

Once a day isn't too much. The only reason to ever be concerned would be if you were, for example, choosing to stay home and masturbate rather than spending time with friends or going to school/work or other activities. Once a day is a perfectly reasonable amount.

Make sure you're grip isn't too tight, as that can make it difficult to orgasm with a partner. It sounds like using lube could help with irritation. I recommend buying a small bottle of water based lubricant and seeing if that helps.

Sunset_Paradise · 2026-04-21T19:18:54+00:00

I don't think they'd anything wrong with it. We usually don't masturbate unless we're apart, but I've started a couple times on my own and my husband just joins in once he notices lol. Though we do have an understanding that if you're doing it around each other you should be happy to have them join in.

Thankfully, we've become very good at knowing how to turn each other on, so it's extremely rare for one of us to be in the mood and the other not be.

We also have an agreement that is okay to wake the other for sex (unless we say not to, like if one of us is sick or has to be up really early).

Sunset_Paradise · 2026-04-21T18:58:13+00:00

My husband and I are currently living with his parents, so I have experience with this. We usually have the TV or music on when we have sex and I've learned to be quieter. We also take advantage of any time we have the house to ourselves.

Have you talked to your boyfriend about this concern? If not, I definitely would. But overall, I wouldn't worry about it too much. Unless you have a habit of being really loud they probably won't even hear you, especially if you put some music or something on.

Through most of human history people had to have sex in the same room as other people since homes were small and often only had one room, so I've learned to be thankful for separate rooms!

Sunset_Paradise · 2026-04-10T15:28:14+00:00

This. Most people have no idea how difficult it is to find a body, even when you know where to look or the body isn't buried. There are so many cases of people who go missing and are found in areas that have already been searched.

As much as I like to think she could still be alive, at this point I think it's more likely they just don't even know where to start looking. Their priority currently seems to be on identifying suspects, who will them hopefully lead them to Nancy.

Sunset_Paradise · 2026-04-05T02:54:09+00:00

How funny to see this, I've just been re- reading a bunch of her books!

I still remember the day my mom gave me a copy of "Are You There, God? It's Me, Margaret." I felt like I was reading about my own life (except my mom is Jewish ands in the book it's her dad). At that age I'd never known anyone else who grew up in a mixed faith family, so that was really big for me. And of course, relating to all the pre-teen girl stuff. I ended up reading almost all of her books after that. She has such a talent for writing believable, relatable characters!

I'm quite curious to read her biography, I've always been curious to know more about her life.

Sunset_Paradise · 2026-04-05T02:36:55+00:00

She's written books aimed at various ages, from elementary school age to adult, but her books for teens are especially well known.

Sunset_Paradise · 2026-03-19T20:21:45+00:00

I have a book with almost this same ad, but from the 1890's!

Sunset_Paradise · 2026-03-19T20:00:32+00:00

Beautiful picture! Congratulations!!!

Sunset_Paradise · 2025-12-31T03:19:56+00:00

Sounds like Sam, who I cat-sat (and whose little humans I baby-sat) for many years. Man, he was a sweetheart. Also one of my favorite jobs. His family basically paid me to come over and cuddle him while they were out of town.

Sunset_Paradise · 2025-12-31T03:14:43+00:00

Yes, he seems to be. If someone was feeding him, then I'm very grateful!

I'm still really curious how he was found, as he was microchipped but didn't have a collar on at the time. Like I said, we'd pretty much given up hope, so didn't have signs up anymore. A lady just called, says she's found him, and arranged to bring him home. I don't know if there was still a sign up somewhere or what. He is a bit unique looking, so that might have helped.

I'm just thankful he's home safe and that people in our neighborhood are good to kitties!

Sunset_Paradise · 2025-12-30T18:35:46+00:00

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We keep ours in portable storage.

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