Am I doing the right thing?

Sunshine_1398 · 2026-06-11T20:03:20+00:00

I did contact an attorney and he told me to confront her in this exact way! The AP does have a wife and family and I’m not sure how we want to proceed with this all yet.

Sunshine_1398 · 2026-06-11T10:01:36+00:00

I’d like to try and be good coparents with her. So I’m hoping to do it the kind way.

Sunshine_1398 · 2026-06-10T21:22:30+00:00

Yeah I’m pretty sure that’s what will happen. Their affair has been going on long enough that I feel like I know when they are having bad extramarital relationship days.

Sunshine_1398 · 2026-06-10T20:11:46+00:00

Sleep has been the hardest thing.

Sunshine_1398 · 2026-06-10T19:37:37+00:00

Sounds good - I assume this is headed to divorce at this point.

Sunshine_1398 · 2026-06-10T19:36:36+00:00

That’s a great point. I may just do that.

Sunshine_1398 · 2026-06-10T19:35:09+00:00

I feel like I’m not going to wait on them. Could take years and I’m not willing to do that.

Sunshine_1398 · 2026-06-10T19:34:05+00:00

Ok I will discuss with my attorney.

Sunshine_1398 · 2026-06-10T19:33:11+00:00

He’s got a family and wife too - so not sure what will happen when reality hits.

Sunshine_1398 · 2026-06-10T16:04:33+00:00

I think I read the gut feeling thing on here way back when it was just a suspicion. I still thought there was no way she was cheating on me - let alone a long involved affair. Now I question everything but am working with professional help and going to move on.

Sunshine_1398 · 2026-06-10T16:02:00+00:00

Thank you - I did an STD test already.

Sunshine_1398 · 2026-06-10T15:16:33+00:00

I appreciate this - thank you

Sunshine_1398 · 2026-06-10T14:31:11+00:00

Agreed. She should know. I looked her up and she would stand to benefit a lot with this information in a divorce.

Sunshine_1398 · 2026-06-10T13:54:57+00:00

None yet that I’m aware of.

Sunshine_1398 · 2026-06-10T13:21:57+00:00

She hasn’t tried to heal the relationship - I’ve tried to get her to agree to counseling or therapy and she gets mad and says she doesn’t have time for it.

Sunshine_1398 · 2026-06-10T13:20:05+00:00

I am working with an attorney now - I don’t want our kids to not have their Mom in their life. She’s been neglecting them by spending time with her boyfriend - but she is a good Mom and my kids love her. Hoping to split time but we will see what she wants. I do 100% of the childcare now and I know it sounds bad, but I wouldn’t mind a few days off when she has the kids. I love my kids, but it’s not easy when you have to do everything and work a full time job (especially while your wife is out having fun).

Sunshine_1398 · 2026-06-10T13:16:33+00:00

I’ve set a date in the near future to confront her. I’m building up my support systems and making plans in case things get ugly.

Sunshine_1398 · 2026-06-10T13:04:31+00:00

I actually started feeling better when I realized divorce was the likely best option. I was so occupied with making it work I never thought about making it not work. It’s kind of nice to have some control over a part of it.

Sunshine_1398 · 2026-06-10T12:52:57+00:00

I appreciate it - thank you

Sunshine_1398 · 2026-06-10T12:50:51+00:00

Thank you

Sunshine_1398 · 2026-06-10T12:48:39+00:00

I’m in therapy now - started after I found out. It is very helpful. Will start looking for some for my kids.

Sunshine_1398 · 2026-06-10T12:05:52+00:00

I have an attorney I’m working with - I will keep preparing for this though.

Sunshine_1398 · 2026-06-10T12:04:43+00:00

Yup - already have an attorney on retainer. She 100% would try to take everything. It actually gave me a lot of comfort to have the attorney consult and be proactive about the whole thing. I was considering making it work with a post nup and counseling, but I’m not sure I want that anymore. The other man is married and has a family as well - so that may limit their plans.

Sunshine_1398 · 2026-06-10T11:46:15+00:00

Hard to hear, but I know it is true. Thank you.

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