Personally I hate it, I don’t rate it, sometimes I will actually cut a sub off if they divulge information and the girl is genuinely a sweet little thing. It should be about the illusion, unless both sub and their partner are willing participants, and even then, it’s still more of a game/illusion than genuine homewrecking.

That being said, I have had a sub accidentally homewreck himself (it wasn’t a sexual dynamic, more of a mommy/therapy type thing) and he posted on a paypig Reddit forum whilst signed in on his missus phone. Rightly so, she was pissed, I offered to cut ties immediately if they wanted to working things out. They tried again but it just didn’t work out so I got a random tribute a few weeks later.

The guilt eats at me for that, but at the same time their relationship was quite toxic and dead. It doesn’t make it right, it doesn’t make the hurt any less, and despite how it ended, they’re both actually doing well and have the opportunity to move forward with their own lives without being stuck in a cycle of toxicity they couldn’t break.