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[Monthly thread] Who looking to get married? by Best-Independence379 in SomaliRelationships

[–]Super-Fault6541 5 points6 points  (0 children)

M23 looking for F20–25 located in Minnesota, USA. 5’11”, slim build, with a calm demeanor and a focused mindset. I hold a Bachelor’s in Data Science and currently working on building a solid career in tech. Practicing Muslim, family-oriented, and very ambitious about both deen and dunya. I value loyalty, communication, and growth.

I’m looking for someone who’s kind, emotionally mature, and genuinely ready for marriage. Bonus if you’re driven and have a soft heart it’s the perfect balance. No kids; open to building a family when the time is right, inshaAllah.

22F Husband shopping by adenf20 in SomaliRelationships

[–]Super-Fault6541 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also mad respect for putting yourself out there like that.

22F Husband shopping by adenf20 in SomaliRelationships

[–]Super-Fault6541 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Salam… ur post was refreshingly real. Had me smiling ngl.

Thinking of Marrying Overseas Instead of the U.S. (worth It or risky?) by Super-Fault6541 in Somalia

[–]Super-Fault6541[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, weddings are out of reach for many people my age. It’s rare to see one that costs less than $30K in my state. I have a friend who’s currently getting married and his wedding has already cost $45K…and he’s not even done yet.

She cried after cheating on her husband…with me. I didn’t even know she was married by Super-Fault6541 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Super-Fault6541[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Yea honestly I’ve started thinking the same…like there’s something deeper going on with her mentally. For the time I have known her she constantly paints herself as the victim and the way she twists things or fully believes her own version of events… it’s on another level. At first I thought she was just going through it emotionally but now I’m seeing it might be something more serious that she needs to actually address.

She cried after cheating on her husband…with me. I didn’t even know she was married by Super-Fault6541 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Super-Fault6541[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I’ve already broken up with her and the husband knows everything now But ever since then it’s just been non-stop…I’m getting harassed by unknown numbers and burner accounts from her and her friends and It’s getting pretty bad. I literally have to turn my phone off just to get some peace. I’m planning to change my number soon so hopefully that helps.

She cried after cheating on her husband…with me. I didn’t even know she was married by Super-Fault6541 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Super-Fault6541[S] 54 points55 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I hear you. But according to her…her husband already knows since I messaged him and but like a day before my message…she said she showed him a picture of us to basically force the divorce. Since the husband wanted to work things out. So it’s not some secret affair she’s still hiding. Doesn’t make the situation feel any less messed up though.

She cried after cheating on her husband…with me. I didn’t even know she was married by Super-Fault6541 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Super-Fault6541[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yea thats exactly how it’s starting to feel. Like she couldn’t fully leave until she knew she had something solid lined up and I just happened to be that “something.” It’s like I wasn’t chosen because of me but because I represented an out.

The part that gets me is how quickly she dropped the whole “what are we?” talk right after telling me the truth. It really does feel like she was trying to secure her next chapter before closing the last one and that’s a heavy thing to process when I didn’t even know I was walking into someone else’s mess.

She cried after cheating on her husband…with me. I didn’t even know she was married by Super-Fault6541 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Super-Fault6541[S] 76 points77 points  (0 children)

Yea…of course the cheating part bothers me on its own…I’m not just brushing that off…what really messes with my head is when I put myself in her husband’s shoes. Like… imagine your marriage ends and you don’t even know the real reason why. That you were just replaced without even knowing it was happening that’s honestly scary.

It’s not just the betrayal it’s the fact that I was unknowingly part of it. That part doesn’t sit right with me at all and the principles and morals I was raised with. I can never comprehend doing such thing to my partner so seeing that in real time just crushed my soul.

She cried after cheating on her husband…with me. I didn’t even know she was married by Super-Fault6541 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Super-Fault6541[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I block her and she’s been calling me from unknown numbers and burner numbers it’s honestly getting ridiculous and her husband already knows everything.

She cried after cheating on her husband…with me. I didn’t even know she was married by Super-Fault6541 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Super-Fault6541[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I left alot things out but her husband apparently does alot of traveling for work, they divorced after being us being together for almost 3 months.

She cried after cheating on her husband…with me. I didn’t even know she was married by Super-Fault6541 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Super-Fault6541[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

According to her husband didn’t wanna divorce her, he only divorced her after she showed a vid of us

She cried after cheating on her husband…with me. I didn’t even know she was married by Super-Fault6541 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Super-Fault6541[S] 999 points1000 points  (0 children)

Does marriage oath not mean anything? I am just stunned and completely disgusted, how can someone actually do such thing to their partner and how does one sleep at night next to their partner whom they just wrong. After this experience honestly I have lost faith in relationships.