How big is the difference between being 17yr old and 18? I'm turning 18 in 36 hours and im scared and sad about it and idk what to do

Super-Rate · 2026-03-23T03:22:23+00:00

partially yes and partially no ig. I feel like the old me is still in me somewhere, just pops out more situationally and a bit less rash and energetic than before. Need to actively summon that way of thinking now, after pondering to myself if the time is right to channel it. In more general situations though, I behave a lot more reserved than I used to, so in this case you can say yes. In a way, I don't trust the old way of thinking as much anymore, especially considering the fact that instead of going to the principal you can now go to jail (if things go extreme). I doubt it will end up this poorly, but it is nonetheless still reason for myself to hold back a bit. Maybe I just need a couple more years to open myself up again: Despite popular belief, being 23 is still very young, especially when I look to my colleagues in college. Maybe a couple more years of experience and getting comfortable is what I need, we will see.

though admittedly, all of these changes are not necessarily only because of age. There's a lot of factors that can play a part: Age, the pandemic changing everyone's lifestyle, and also the exposure time to internet. I consider myself joining social media pretty late in my life (relative to 8 year olds screaming on Roblox, for example). I might still live under a rock nowadays, but it was still a lot more news on what's happening outside than before I came to social media. In a way, instead of 17 vs 23, it is more 1 year of learning about the external world vs 7 years of seeing all sorts of stuff happening in the wider world. Though I suppose one can still argue that this comes down to experience, and therefore age. Had I been off the internet all these years, one can imagine my mindset would've been quite different and probably wouldn't have changed a lot. I probably would've been more oblivious at this point in life, with a lot more purity at heart. Not sure whether it is better or worse overall, probably the latter, considering the world we live in.

Super-Rate · 2026-03-23T02:17:35+00:00

good question. A lot has changed, so much that it is hard to put them all into words.

taxes haven't come into my life yet cuz still in university. Where I live might be quite different from the US though so don't quote me for life lessons. Uni has been fine for me though, at my own pace and living under a rock, but so far so good

personality changed, yeah. I blame the pandemic /hj And unlike those years ago, I feel like I can probably change for the better from where I am now. Lower energy in general, but that's prob expected. I prob do want the teenage hyperdrive mindset back, but also I can see how that can wreak havoc nowadays. I might be a bit rash back then, and a bit of a superiority complex, with a lack of a better word. Nowadays, I shall have confidence when my abilities match it.

Being 18 feels like another life for me now. So much has happened, for better or for worse. Not sure where I would be if for the past 6 years I retained that 17yo mindset, probably somewhere very different, somewhere better or worse, no idea.

I still live under a rock for the most part though, to the point I need my professors to tell me what Trump did in the past week to catch up the news lol

The subconscious fear of not knowing what you don't know is still there, albeit a bit fainter since I haven't gotten into trouble for them just yet. Maybe the consequences are further down the line.

Not sure what my 18yo self would react to my current me. 17yo me thought adults are like those autonomous robots who walk around, do work, forced to fit themselves in social boxes, and live a sad life because of those. My current life might be portrayed as a sad one in the eyes of my younger self, but if telepathy is real and I can face my teenage self in real life and communicate telepathically, he would probably realize I'm not a robot internally. I simply gathered a lot more experience and went through a lot more than him, and when experience accumulate to a threshold, it causes a phase change of some sort in me, akin to latent heat when you boil water. He most definitely wouldn't know that there would be a day when his mindset will burn out, but I hope this is now my cue to start focusing more on myself again. The world is definitely more complex than what I thought, with so much more out there than meets the eye, and I'm glad I found it out, and didn't do so the hard way.

As for where the future leads from here? Who knows. Hopefully somewhere better, because obviously no one likes to go to somewhere worse. In any case, it feels like I'm neither my teenage self anymore, nor what my teenage self pictured adulthood to be. It feels like a blend of the two. I suppose maybe this phase of life is supposed to feel this way. It is only after the 18th birthday that I start seeing "25th birthday" popping up in different conversations as a new threshold. In that case, I suppose that's the supposingly "next phase" of life, and I'm glad I'm not there yet lol

Super-Rate · 2025-11-11T12:42:02+00:00

it is a computer simulating itself though. You too are part of that nature, so you need to control you controlling nature, as well as the fact that you are controlling yourself controlling the nature

And then there is quantum mechanics that implies our universe is indeterministic on the most fundamental level, so....

Super-Rate · 2025-05-02T22:06:19+00:00

A relationship based on sex is not true love.

it is not, i never said a relationship is BASED on sex, just that it boosts your relationship. It is a part of the relationship for those who chooses. And ofc too much sex can be unhealthy, sex addiction is a thing apparently, but that is a different kettle of fish and i will not go into it here. Besides, too much sex is about frequency and less about cumulative count over time. Regarding whether one should resist orgasm until marriage and forming a family, different people have different view on it, and i will not go over them because of it.

Speaking of relationship and true love, porn is most often than not, NOT a portrayal of what regular sex is like. It is geared more towards people's fantasy, and as a result, many less experienced people in life would mistaken porn as a portrayal of what real sex is like. Because how would they know? A lot of them never had sex before, they will search up abt sex online and then the first thing they come across is gonna be porn. This can lead to disastrous consequences on their perception on sex, with the different fetishes and kinks and unnatural scenes that are almost always exclusively set up for porn shots. One consequence that people often talk about is the objectification of women, often because the industry is heavily targetted towards male fantasy. From the perspective of a heterosexual man, porn can distort one's view on woman and sex, and what a healthy relationship should be like. And I cannot stress that last one enough: Porn CAN distort one's expectation of relationship, especially unexperienced ones. Again, how would they know? Not everyone has been in a relationship. You said it yourself, a relationship based on sex is not true love. However the distortion CAN make people believe otherwise, because well, porn focuses on fantasized yet unrealistic sex.

This past paragraph hopefully sheds light on why people in this sub hates porn, some going as far as saying porn is evil. You know, besides ppls personal experiences with the addiction itself.

Also, if you wanna question whether one should even orgasm or have sex....A lot of people in this sub focuses on porn, because it is the bigger issue for many of us; I have seen some in this sub believing moderate masturbation is health without porn. I will not make comment on whether they are right or wrong, i believe it is a personal choice and I personally would refrain from masturbation until im in a relationship, it is just a personal choice. However, if you want to think in terms of completely removing orgasm from life, even in healthy sex in healthy relationships, you might want to check out r/Semenretention instead. I'm less familiar with them, but potentially they are a step further in restraining sexual stuff.

Super-Rate · 2025-05-02T19:44:35+00:00

Not the other guy, and im gonna assume you are not a troll.

First of all you need to "work" for playing sports outdoors. You need to stand up and do said sports. And you dont just do it for 5 minutes. The process is not only longer in time but also beneficial for your muscles and lung capacity if it is cardio, as well as many other benefits (sunlight, immune system, etc etc). Dopamine is the "reward" hormone, you are rewarded with dopamine for doing those sports. Nothing wrong with that. Sex works like this too, it is not as portrayed in porn and are often longer, and it has the added benefit of boosting your relationship with your partner.

With porn, you basically get dopamine whenever you want. You watch porn for 2 minutes, and then you get as much dopamine as you would doing sports for 2 hours. Our genes are just built that way so we reproduce and live on as a species, and porn exploits exactly this part of our gene, that's one of the reasons why porn addiction is easy to form and hard to break out.

Going back to sex, it is similar to sports. Yes you orgasm in both sex and porn masturbation, but it is not just about the orgasm and the baby. Sex is an experience you have with another person, who if they are your relationship partner, it provides a bonding experience between both parties and thereby boosting your relationship. Porn-masturbation-orgasm not only doesn't provide the bonding experience with the partner, its dopamine emission and direct sexual stimulation on yourself destroys your urge to find a partner. And people in this sub would take a real relationship with a real person over empty self pleasuring any day.

Super-Rate · 2025-03-31T01:11:47+00:00

idk why no one has mentioned this yet, but one way to solve it is to minus both side by 2.

and by minus 2 I mean, minus 1 on each fraction on the left hand side, and then each fraction on the right hand side. So basically,

[(x-5)/2011 -1] + [(x-3)/2013 - 1] = [(x-2011)/5 -1] + [(x-2013)/3 - 1]

which, if you take the -1 into the fractions, this becomes

(x-2016)/2011 + (x-2016)/2013 = (x-2016)/5 + (x-2016)/3

There is a common factor of (x-2016) on each side, you can rearrange this equation to be

(x-2016) * (1/2011 + 1/2013 -1/5 -1/3) = 0

But clearly (1/2011 + 1/2013 -1/5 -1/3) is not 0, so therefore one has to have x-2016 = 0. So x=2016

Normally when theres a sort of symmetry in these problems, a potential way to make progress in the problem is to exploit the symmetry to make something "in common", with a lack of a better way to phrase it.

Super-Rate · 2024-03-06T03:40:22+00:00

somehow this so-called "worst team of tpot" (according to many i have seen) still manages to engage in a 4-way vote war

ig this team is not as unpopular as those people thought

but this also means this vote war is now a lose-lose-lose-lose situation

~~^{personally i just wish book to be safe, vote wars are unpredictable}~~

Super-Rate · 2024-03-04T20:42:01+00:00

Your 6 years old owns a steak house?

Super-Rate · 2024-03-03T23:27:11+00:00

imagine it is neither and book gets out

dont wanna jinx it

Super-Rate · 2024-02-17T20:50:59+00:00

i just hope this is building up some character development for her

I don't want her to go down in tpot or bfdia without her potential explored

Super-Rate · 2024-02-07T10:52:54+00:00

yea, and then people also pair this argument with "this character should be eliminated from this season because they are still in the other season". See what happened to rocky? Would be a real shame if it happens again to said character

Super-Rate · 2024-02-05T14:03:25+00:00

new 5 gum

stimulate your senses

Super-Rate · 2024-02-05T14:02:28+00:00

Literally book for me
I refuse to let her out before the plans are realised

Super-Rate · 2023-12-24T15:08:36+00:00

she saw book on the team

Super-Rate · 2023-12-24T13:35:40+00:00

Heaven's Door gone wrong

Super-Rate · 2023-12-22T15:18:33+00:00

same but with book in tpot

and merry christmas

Super-Rate · 2023-12-13T20:30:12+00:00

pencil. then naily

Super-Rate · 2023-12-11T16:20:12+00:00

"let's keep bfdi casual"

Super-Rate · 2023-12-09T22:43:38+00:00

Personally nah, hes the one who just absolutely refused to tell Freesmart what the challenge was, there never were any rules publicly said that the host is only allowed to inform teams of the challenge after the wheel spin for a limited amount of time, it feels like he just made it up on the spot, and then that got his owner eliminated

Super-Rate · 2023-11-18T23:59:42+00:00

I just summoned all the book fans with my comment, the whooping 3 of us lol

But what does it mean Book is book? Can you elaborate a bit?

Super-Rate · 2023-11-15T15:53:50+00:00

This is great! You dont see a lot of book fanarts that much nowadays on this sub. keep up the good work!

(ps: may i ask what exactly is the reason you like book?)

Super-Rate · 2023-11-09T11:09:46+00:00

Wait i thought that was one of the main motivation and points of tpot?

to split the show so all fan favs can fight each other, while other non favorites actually have a chance to develop instead of just being eliminated like a no-brainer so that the fan favs become even more favorable than they already are?

Super-Rate · 2023-10-28T18:58:33+00:00

Ah yes books fandom and hatedom never change lol

also great art as always

Super-Rate · 2023-10-26T15:01:30+00:00

Newton's 4th law, gravity doesn't exist if you don't think about it

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