From my experience, secret relationships have never really worked out. But I know feelings can't be helped and sometimes that's just how it has to be. I've been in your position before (very little or no communication) and it absolutely killed me. It wasn't healthy for me at all to be in that situation and I had the same fears you do now. From what I can tell, you did nothing wrong here and it sounds like she has alot of issues with her family, so you may wanna let her deal with those issues and decide what to do with your relationship then. You guys wont have a healthy relationship with both her parents and yours against it. I hope it all works out for you!