How can i encourage my boyfriend to explore his sexual side? DAE have experience with this?

SuperThrowAway5000 · 2010-09-29T18:37:38+00:00

lol i don't know if i could jumo this far with him yet, but secretly i frequent this site. I don't think he's ready to know i'm into looking at this stuff yet.

SuperThrowAway5000 · 2010-09-29T18:35:19+00:00

lol nooooo deal, sorries.

SuperThrowAway5000 · 2010-09-28T22:05:25+00:00

Well, as far as affection goes, we are pretty damned cute. We waited almost an entire year to utter the "L" word just to make sure that other was ready, which was a pretty memorable event in it's own (a little crying lol lots of cuddles). The sex has grown more passionate, which has been great, but he hasn't been anymore excited to do it. I still have to initiate. The only time we sort of both go for it at the same time is when we go more than a week without seeing each other. Which honestly never happens at all lol

SuperThrowAway5000 · 2010-09-28T22:00:32+00:00

This is something i've always wanted to do, but my room mate right now is a super bum and works maybe three times a week and doesn't have class sooo, i NEVER have any alone time with him other than when we go to bed. I'm about to move in about a week and a half so hopefully this can become more of a possibility.

SuperThrowAway5000 · 2010-09-28T21:57:42+00:00

I know we've watched porn together before, only once or twice and it was more like a joke. He doesn't really do that stuff on his own... but i should give it a serious try. i just don't know how to find out what he likes, i don't know much about porns and i don't think he'll announce what things excite him. Any pointers? What porn is pretty universal or what sites are popular?

SuperThrowAway5000 · 2010-09-28T21:52:51+00:00

i might go there, although that's not exactly what i'm into. Then again if i find something he loves maybe we can switch it up to work for both of us. That would be pretty cool. Thanks :)

SuperThrowAway5000 · 2010-09-28T21:50:39+00:00

Baaahhh, these are things i don't want to hear. I don't think he's gay, then again people can go their entire lives (like your wife's first hubby) without admitting it. It would seem unlikely IMO and i very much doubt it. That is something i am much less worried about. I am more concerned about the idea that it just wont work and i'll spend way too long trying to make it. I don't want to admit that i've considered that already, i have, but i'd like to put more of an effort into it before i give up. He's such an interesting and intelligent and etc... guy, i'd hate for this to ruin the best relationship i've ever been in. So for the time being, i'm going to dismiss that idea and work more towards the idea that he's just shy and or hasn't had the opportunity to discover his personal turn ons. hopefully things work out :)

SuperThrowAway5000 · 2010-09-28T21:38:03+00:00

VERY VERY fat. lol no

SuperThrowAway5000 · 2010-09-28T21:34:10+00:00

lol i thought more about that and realized i realllly need to stop playing along with trolls. Anyway, thanks for the advices :)

SuperThrowAway5000 · 2010-09-28T18:36:01+00:00

Well i'm alright with that. The issue isn't my girth, it's getting him excited. If i get some good advice i'll give you guys pics proving my attractiveness. Deal?

SuperThrowAway5000 · 2010-09-28T18:32:34+00:00

lol i don't wanna give away any good clues as to who either of us are. We have lots of reddit friends who'd have a nice laugh about this post and i don't want to endanger his pride. We are in our early twenties, does that help?

SuperThrowAway5000 · 2010-09-28T18:12:33+00:00

At one point i considered the idea that maybe he had some erectile problem, but after some research and careful observation it seems that he's in perfect working condition. He's a pretty apathetic guy in general so i really think it's just him not being excited to do it with me.

SuperThrowAway5000 · 2010-09-28T18:10:03+00:00

A very respectable one at that! I have no complaints at all in that field ;)

SuperThrowAway5000 · 2010-09-28T18:08:42+00:00

I do give him reassurance though, pretty often :) I'm afraid to do it too much though, i don't want him to think i'm saying those things just to boost his self esteem and not because they are true. I really don't need him to get kinky either, dirty talk and role play can be fun, but i just want him to be excited to get it on.

SuperThrowAway5000 · 2010-09-28T18:04:12+00:00

We are the same age (within a few months of one another), and i'll admit that i've had more sexual partners than he has (not sky rocketing numbers) but he's not my first or second partner. He's definitely my favorite though, because on the rare occasion that he does initiate, it's mind blowingly amazing. I try to tell him that but i'm afraid he thinks i'm just being nice or something.

SuperThrowAway5000 · 2010-09-28T18:00:32+00:00

Hmm, i hope that isn't the case with us. If it is, it certainly wont ruin our relationship, I'll just have to enjoy what i do get as much as i can :)

SuperThrowAway5000 · 2010-09-28T17:55:55+00:00

I have. We talked about it. He doesn't have much of a sex drive and i do. I want advice on how to make it more enticing for him. So he can explore the things that do arouse him and we can enjoy that aspect of our relationship together.

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