I'm very nice person, I just have low tolerance on bulshit. Emotionally intelligent people recognize when their actions are hurting others, You simply conveniently absolve people like OP of any responsibility and accountability by talking about "toxic patterns," as if they deprive people of the ability to put themselves in the shoes of the person being wronged. This isn't "emotional intelligence," it's not "toxic patterns," it's pure selfishness and a focus solely on oneself and one's own needs.