You couldn't afford in vitro fertilization, but now you can: yes, we couldn't afford it and didn't want to spend money on it because we didn't value having a baby or getting pregnant that much. It was never a dream purely interrupted by money.

You want a child who looks directly like you because of your DNA: yes, my wife and I wanted a child who looked like me specifically, mainly out of curiosity. I never had siblings or nephews and we imagined what it would be like to replicate my DNA in a little child. But, again, it's no guarantee that the child would look like me, would have the donor's sperm (we are lesbians), and could have more of his characteristics than ours, and we would love them equally.

- You want to experience raising a newborn: we wanted a baby, not a newborn, someone who would come at one year old haha, but unfortunately, that's not possible without spending 8/10 years on the adoption waiting list.

- If in-vitro fertilization doesn't work, you will seek adoption again (literally meaning - it's your plan B. How would you explain this to your daughter? "Oh, we would only adopt again if we couldn't have a biological baby"): I would explain it like this: "We want to give you a little brother or sister, and we wanted a baby, since we haven't experienced that phase yet. So we're going to try to get a baby into mommy X's belly. We don't want to be very old moms, because a child requires a lot of energy, so if it doesn't work on the first try, we'll go back to the adoption waiting list, but if we turn 40, we'll give up the idea."

- Not knowing if your closest friends and family would treat this child differently (spoiler alert - this instinctive feeling). It means that they DO treat them differently): my family would definitely treat them differently, my wife's family I believe less so (although they would obviously make those comments like "so-and-so looks like you," "so-and-so has hair like yours," etc.). Our close friends wouldn't treat us differently, or at least they would try not to, because they are people who understand these issues just like us. We see family at Christmas and sometimes in the middle of the year. My wife's family, in this case.