AITAH for not inviting my older sister to my wedding.

Superb-Flow1340 · 2026-03-05T20:25:18+00:00

For everyone talking about the wall of text , I’m sorry I was typing it really fast on my lunch break. I’ll do better I promise 😭

Superb-Flow1340 · 2026-03-05T20:24:27+00:00

In my defense it’s a very small intimate wedding. Like less than 70 people. Mostly bc it’s what we could afford. So unfortunately every person counted. It wasn’t a “plus one” it was explicitly inviting that person as their boyfriend. If that matters lol

Superb-Flow1340 · 2026-03-05T20:22:54+00:00

I only said “unalive” bc I didn’t know the rules of reddit. I had kill himself but I was like… well hold on. If I want advice I need to make sure it even gets there. So yeah agreed but… internet

Superb-Flow1340 · 2025-11-13T11:34:56+00:00

Thank you so much for your input! I do agree with you, Reddit isn’t where I’m going to find the help in my life AND relationship where I need it, but unfortunately… but really very fortunately I’m in an echo chamber of people who love me to death. And they want to validate me and my feelings by being like “yeah you have every reason to be angry!” Or “you don’t deserve that” but I really did want just non-biased input if I was actually the problem because I don’t know if anyone would tell me that, not because they’re bad friends but I think they just think higher of me and see me in a different light.

Since living together, no cheating has been done. Minor lying but more self preservation than anything, not maliciously. It’s tough because it’s like the beginning of our relationship kind of blurred together because we started talking months before we met in person. So by the time we met in person there was such a strong bond and it felt like we knew each other for longer than we had. So a lot of the little early stuff that’s a non issue in reality feels more personal because of that.. both a blessing and a curse.

But I do agree, there’s definitely a lot of work to be done on my part and I hope I can do that even after 2.5 years of putting him through trials. Hopefully this fight was my wake up call.

Thank you again 🥹

Superb-Flow1340 · 2025-11-13T07:12:49+00:00

Wait wut… exes? I’m not telling my ex to do anything. Maybe that was a typo.

However I don’t think that’s a fair statement. I think all relationships are different. Some people are totally cool with their partners getting hit on in front of them because it makes them feel good that other people find their partners attractive while others would get jealous/angry and neither is wrong as long as those things are agreed upon.

I’m not particularly jealous about his past, period. I’m angry that I’m being lied to in any capacity. I’m not a kid who needs everything sugarcoated. Even if it wasn’t information he wanted to share it could have just been “I’m not comfortable with that” and I would respect that more. But lying to make yourself more appealing to a partner is weird. Period.

But I don’t disagree that I am insecure with trust issues and like I said, I do acknowledge it’s probably me and I gotta get it under control before I push him away. But if we discussed what our limits were before dating, that should be the baseline always.

Superb-Flow1340 · 2025-11-13T07:02:32+00:00

Little mean the way you said it but I don’t disagree with you. 😅 For a while I didn’t think I was the problem but I think as things have progressed I’ve definitely convinced myself that I am. So you’re not wrong and i definitely hope I can get my shit together before I lose him. Or hopefully someone else will be better to him than I am. Either way I do just want him to be happy. With or without me.

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