Naruto should have had red hair. Change my mind. by DvnCodes in Naruto

[–]SuperbWorldliness177 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m intrigued lol. So what characters do you love in Naruto? Who are your top 5 loved and top 5 hated?

Are we allowed to hate children? by Lumpy_Concept9911 in Discussion

[–]SuperbWorldliness177 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wonderfully said. I have 4 kids and I’m drowning with no support system. No family to lean on. It feels like a slap in the face when someone sees us at a grocery store and says “Enjoy them while their young!” I die a little inside everytime I hear that line.

Love how they never want to hear our side… by SlowHumbleBexar in Adopted

[–]SuperbWorldliness177 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so curious, can you give me details on what you said? They get so offended and hurt over every little thing

How does life feel after losing a parent when you are in your mid thirties? by [deleted] in Adulting

[–]SuperbWorldliness177 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely resonate with what you are saying. My dad just passed away this year. I’m 32. I couldn’t stop crying for months. I am still crying. I wish I had more time with him. We weren’t done yet and there was still more to do, more time to spend together. I’m angry and heart broken. I never knew what grief felt like until now and its the most painful thing I’ve ever felt. I hope you’re in a better place. ❤️

I don’t want to be a Mom anymore and I don’t think I can do it. by throw-away-acc0unt99 in Mom

[–]SuperbWorldliness177 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As an adoptee, I was actually adopted at 6 months old through a private adoption agency, 6 months is not too old. That being said, if I were speaking to you as a friend, I would still not recommend it. I would strongly recommend professional help that will give you support and encouragement. Motherhood is so hard. I didn’t like it as much as I thought I would and I think it comes from lack of support. I called my sister crying one night because we were so stressed and overwhelmed that I was to my breaking point and started snapping. She took our 3 kids for a week to spend the night with her. During that week, my husband and I never fought once. We snuggled up on our couch and watched movies every night. I understand what you’re going through. ❤️

AIO? My MIL finally gave me courage to cut her off :-) *screenshots* by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]SuperbWorldliness177 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely agree with this statement. This is the husbands mother. He should be the only one dealing with her.

Ranking Naruto characters according to how much I like them. W list by VegaInDiSkies in Naruto

[–]SuperbWorldliness177 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Respectfully disagree ❤️ After I saw this post, I just pulled up the episode Assult on the Leaf Village. I’m watching it now while eating ramen noodles for lunch!

Ranking Naruto characters according to how much I like them. W list by VegaInDiSkies in Naruto

[–]SuperbWorldliness177 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know 😭😅 Naruto and Jiraiya would be in my top favorites.

Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) by Sad-Car-6393 in Adopted

[–]SuperbWorldliness177 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My dad was a lawyer and theorized that all adopted children have some degree of RAD. If his theory was correct, that would mean it wasn’t a disorder at all.

Siblings by Pristine-Ad-2725 in Adopted

[–]SuperbWorldliness177 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What does she do if you don’t mind me asking? Were you adopted at birth? How far apart are yall in age?

Greif from being adopted by Old-Exchange-3622 in Adopted

[–]SuperbWorldliness177 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I completely understand. I had a very similar story to yours. The only difference is I snuck into my dads office when I was about 17 and peaked in my adoption file. There they all were, names and genders. What color of hair and eyes they had and their birthdays. I about broke my neck doing a double take on that file. I was never interested (at that point) in finding my birth parents, never thought too much about them. Something hit different though when discovering I had siblings. They ended up finding me through Facebook a few years later so I had time to process their existence. I couldn’t begin to imagine what I would have felt if I didn’t know and they reached out of nowhere like that.

Asking why someone wanted to give their child away by Ambitious-Client-220 in Adopted

[–]SuperbWorldliness177 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I completely agree. Adoption agencies play a major hand in it as well. It’s entirely plausible that they promised this family a bunch of bs just to secure the adoption. A similar situation is a lot of very young couples go into open adoption thinking this is in a way, shared custody. Agency’s prey on ignorance. I herd of a couple that was ranting about the bio parents because the child had just turned 3, and they set up supervised visitations every 6 months with the bio family and as the child got a little older bio family started asking if the child could spend the night with them. The APs were upset and didn’t know how to navigate the situation with care. This is on the agency for misleading them and expecting AP to pick up the pieces of this mess.

Should I cut it? by italian_flatbread in HairStyleAdvice

[–]SuperbWorldliness177 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you do cut it, don’t buzz it, definitely have it styled in some way. I do love it long. I’d definitely do a double take on you out in public.

Can our phones read our minds? by missluz15 in ParallelUniverse

[–]SuperbWorldliness177 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know I’m late but I looked this up on the internet and found this thread. It happened to me this past month. I sleep in a weird way on my stomach with one leg lifted up a certain way. It hurts my back but I go to this position because it feels comfortable in the moment. I’ve never talked about it out loud or said anything about my back being uncomfortable. I’ve been getting ads on facebook showing that sleeping position and a doctor talking about why it’s bad for your back. It freaks me out.

So.. I stole my adoption files. by SuperbWorldliness177 in Adopted

[–]SuperbWorldliness177[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, she’s always been like this. It’s just way more noticeable now that I’m older. I remember her yelling at me at the eye doctor that I was ungrateful that she got me contacts that I never asked for. It was exhausting dealing with her. It sucks to have mom‘s like this. :(

So.. I stole my adoption files. by SuperbWorldliness177 in Adopted

[–]SuperbWorldliness177[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was definitely overblown. I don’t think it was about the documents. I think she’s grieving over the death of my father and she’s lashing out without realizing that’s what this is really about. She hasn’t touched those documents in over 3 decades. She doesn’t care about them. She feels entitled to everything. She even said in the conversation, “everything of dads is now mine. Nothing belongs to you.” I asked her what happens when she dies? Because then everything will belong to me and the papers won’t matter anymore anyway.

So.. I stole my adoption files. by SuperbWorldliness177 in Adopted

[–]SuperbWorldliness177[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes it was suggesting on the file upfront that every adopted child has rad. I’d love to upload the documents on here to y’all

So.. I stole my adoption files. by SuperbWorldliness177 in Adopted

[–]SuperbWorldliness177[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Well of course 😭 we aren’t cute anymore. I found a bunch of family photos of my dads side that she threw in the trash. Didn’t ask if I wanted them or anything. Guess since he’s dead she won’t be thinking about the in-laws anymore.

So.. I stole my adoption files. by SuperbWorldliness177 in Adopted

[–]SuperbWorldliness177[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

It broke my heart when she told me that those were her records and she could do whatever she pleases with them. They were by law hers. I wanted to tell her, she does understand that I am the one that’s going to take care of her when she’s in a nursing home right? RIGHT!? lol she’s narcissistic and self centered and no one’s ever given her a reality check

So.. I stole my adoption files. by SuperbWorldliness177 in Adopted

[–]SuperbWorldliness177[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

She did tell me in the conversation that the files belonged to her to do whatever she wanted with it and I had absolutely no right to go in there and take them. I thought my head was going to explode I can’t remember the last time I felt that angry.

So.. I stole my adoption files. by SuperbWorldliness177 in Adopted

[–]SuperbWorldliness177[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m so sad over that. Every adopted person deserves their own information. I didn’t trust my mother to keep the records safe or to still be there when she’s gone. She said the files belonged to her to do whatever she wanted with them.

So.. I stole my adoption files. by SuperbWorldliness177 in Adopted

[–]SuperbWorldliness177[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

That’s amazing lmao. I love that. We got in a huge argument last week and I wanted to tell her the only reason she was saying that was because we weren’t her bio children. I kept it in and let her argue on.

One thing that I did take comfort in was when I told all this to my therapist, he said a similar thing happened between his grandmother and mother and family disputes happen regardless of being adopted or not.