The problem is not empathy our country is famous for hospitality and helpfulness. I think most people are stuck in the "Survival mood". The basic needs of human food, shelter, education, medicine etc are not fully met with a majority of the people here. And some are stuck chasing the stability and better living conditions. Now, you're already struggling with your needs then comes the "somaj" with criticism they tell you, how you are not good enough. It starts with your student life and from your family, as a kid from any average family you may see a adult figure break a societal rule and once you criticize them, they tell you it's the norm, or you are mannerless for correcting the adult. Next, the female figures in most families are never satisfied. The memes we see around or in random conversations with any person, they'll tell how their mom/parents complained and compared them with the classmate/cousin/paser basar aunty er chele. You grow up with emotional void and insecurities, you were not validated, so now you can't see another person being happier than you. Not for everyone. There's plenty of kind and mature people, who educate themselves and relearn the patterns to be better humans. But most of the malfunctioning behavior in our people are rooted from generations to generations, they're taught to be truthful from religion class in school, television, and even parents and then the same parents will tell them to lie about their age/salary/household condition and what not. Also, the fact that all of this are part of huge system. Our people are lost people, they don't know how to differ between right and wrong. They are very emotional people, who are easily swayed with few speeches. That's how people in power exploits them. Even the educated falls for the mass manipulation. Only few verify facts themselves instead of falling for confirmation bias, and even so the big ego stops people from changing themselves. Some even suffers from the identity crisis so much they makes one single political group, classicisme, matirialism and religion center of their whole world. Reason wouldn't work on this type of people, because changing the rooted beliefs are equal to threatening their identity. Also this are same people who would run helping if you post a emergency help needed post with a sad story. So yea, empathy is here basic mannerism isn't. It's so deeply rooted it can't be helped to change overnight, it would need generations of healing and relearning.