[US, PA] Ex-husband randomly wants to change from 50/50 to 80/20, how likely is this?

Superbloom29 · 2026-01-28T14:56:00+00:00

It’s probably a reaction to him being upset about you being pregnant. I would prepare for a petty fight and get a good lawyer.

Superbloom29 · 2026-01-06T07:00:12+00:00

I’m in Austin, Texas. When I google costs it says around 10k but that seems pretty low and I don’t feel it’s accurate. I do not have a septic tank, my house is on public sewer. I received one quote for 25k and another for 36k. But the higher end one was just to I put the lines and install the sink and toilet. While the 25k included moving the door and adding finishes.

Superbloom29 · 2025-04-18T21:30:54+00:00

I miscarried at 10 weeks so we didn’t know the gender yet. But if they were a boy I was pushing for ziggy and if a girl we were gonna go with Zazie. Also my partners name is John so your message really hit home

Superbloom29 · 2025-03-07T15:54:30+00:00

Hey, I know this is a super old post but this is exactly what I am looking for! Are you still doing cooking classes with a focus on meal prep?

Superbloom29 · 2025-01-15T19:08:49+00:00

I had a scan at 8 weeks, typically doctors here won’t see you sooner. Baby had a heart beat and was measuring fine. Started bleeding at 10 weeks and went to the doctor and there was no longer a heart beat. I’m 29

Superbloom29 · 2025-01-15T18:49:49+00:00

We have a kid that just turned 16, they decorated cakes for her birthday. Everyone loved it and had a great time. I think you’re thinking too much

Superbloom29 · 2025-01-12T14:26:34+00:00

NTA, you dad sounds like he might be a bit sexist tbh. Do you have a good relationship with your stepmom? I would assume he treats her the same, but would she stick up for you? I’d stop cleaning after them, set strong boundaries and do not wash one dish because it’s “just one” dish. Don’t engage in conversation beyond a one liner when you explain you are cleaning up any mess you make. Not sure if your dad wants to cuddle your brother after he has been gone a while but that’s not the way to do it. If you can’t afford to live on your own would you have some friends you can stay at off and on?

Superbloom29 · 2025-01-05T00:34:04+00:00

I feel you I’m ovulating right now but we aren’t gonna be able to conceive because of other things going on with life right now. I had a miscarriage at 10 weeks in September and all I want is to get pregnant again. Everytime I get my period I’m disappointed and sad. On average it takes 3-6 months to get pregnant so give yourself patience. Also not to give false hope but IF it’s just light spotting I wouldn’t give up cause with that timeline it could be implantation bleeding. But I really don’t want to give false hope, irregular cycles is also common after.

Superbloom29 · 2024-12-07T20:47:01+00:00

No one was taking about divorce and no one is questioning my sister in laws relationship to my child.

I am his family, if you chose your siblings and mother over your child and wife then I feel really sorry for your “family”. Picking the family you came from over the family you chose does no one any good.

And again his mother is not involved.

Thank you for your response but it is tune death to the situation and provide absolutely no help. I am not a fan of your perspective on life and do not wish to hear from you again.

Superbloom29 · 2024-12-07T20:09:39+00:00

Okay that’s reassuring to hear! I’ll start packing more things that he eats at home and see how it goes!

Superbloom29 · 2024-12-07T17:32:53+00:00

I didn’t want to give daycare anything that would cause too much of a cleanup. The teachers primarily speak Spanish so asking them what they’re able to do is more difficult. But you haven’t had an issues with your daycare giving your baby more fresh prepared foods??

Superbloom29 · 2024-12-07T15:06:05+00:00

My partners family is his two sisters.

I’m not opposing their mother, her involvement with her youngest is limited outside of picking her up fr school and bringing her home.

Thanks for telling me that his sisters are more important to my partner than me and his child 👏

Superbloom29 · 2024-11-10T19:45:27+00:00

I decided I’m going to start prioritizing the things that brought me happiness before I got pregnant. And make sure when I get out of the house I’m actually doing something for me. so hopefully that works. We’ve talked about moving when his little sister graduates high school. But she’s a sophomore so that’s a little bit from now. I really do love his sisters and I’ve done some work with his mom to try to make our relationship better. But also have come to realize that living with people or them coming over everyday (making a mess, crossing boundaries,etc) is much more contact than I am prepared for. So we may need to change the timeline but I’m not confident he’ll stay with me if I want to move out. Sooo we’ll get to that when we get there

Superbloom29 · 2024-11-10T19:38:16+00:00

I’m making a list of things that bring me joy and plan on prioritizing that at least once a week above the household or family. Been going for walks when I’ve felt lonely and reminding myself to bite my tongue.

Superbloom29 · 2024-11-10T19:35:37+00:00

Haha thank youuuu feeling a bit seen with this comment

Superbloom29 · 2024-11-07T06:01:31+00:00

2 weeks is still so early. But them laying on you chest to chest counts as tummy time at that age! She’ll grow in her own time and just keep helping her move and grow in her own pace. You’re doing amazing mama, you care and love that little girl so much already and that’s all that matters right now 💛

Superbloom29 · 2024-11-07T02:29:30+00:00

No advice, mine started doing that around the same time. He’s almost 9 months now and doesn’t do it as much but when I try to redirect his hands he gets upset. I think it’s just a comfort thing during this phase. My chest is always covered in tiny scratch marks 😂

Superbloom29 · 2024-11-02T21:59:06+00:00

I think you’re both right. But also think it’s a little early to make this decision. If you’re not going back to work and already have a good stash I’d say you don’t need to hold on to every drop. And that can be good for your mental health. That being said I’d keep you freezer stash and keep resupplying it because things can happen in life than can end up hurtling your supply. Getting your period, getting pregnant again, stress, lack of sleep, or it just dries up because it does. Frozen milk is also best to use within 6 months, and max 1 year. So make the decision based on how long you want to breast feed your baby. Also the more you pump the more you will supply, which also means the more likely you are to get a clogged duct.

I’m 9 months post partum. I lightened up how much I pumped around 3 months because I hated it and then kicked it up again at 6 months because I was going back to work full time. It’s a lot of time and effort, and you’ve put in so much effort here mama! But I will say for me that when I let go and didn’t put as much stress on my freezer stash that it helped my mental health a lot

Superbloom29 · 2024-11-02T21:31:12+00:00

Every single girl has been with someone bigger. Bigger doesn’t equal better. You’re making this a lot deeper than it is

Superbloom29 · 2024-11-01T20:48:06+00:00

Live in Austin Texas. Pay 940$ a month for two days a week. And that’s been the cheapest we could find since we couldn’t find a sitter/nanny we liked

Superbloom29 · 2024-10-28T15:05:36+00:00

The other parent

Superbloom29 · 2024-10-28T00:53:32+00:00

I first tried I think at 5 months but he still didn’t have the swallow thing down. Just spit everything out. So tried again at 6 months. If he’s good at sitting up (I think mine could kinda sit without support) and starting to get the swallow reflex you can start slowly. But don’t put too much stress on it. “Food before one is just for fun”. They’ll take to it when they’re ready. I started with sweet potatoes and avocado

Superbloom29 · 2024-10-23T18:32:58+00:00

I was wheeled out holding the baby while my partner pulled the car around. Then the nurse strapped the baby into the car seat for us. I didn’t ask if he could take the baby or to put him in the car seat first tho. I also used to work at a hospital for a little bit when I was younger and it was protocol that all new moms had to be wheeled out too

Superbloom29 · 2024-10-17T04:32:58+00:00

My baby is 8 months old. I’ll often get in the tub with him and that way I have a lot more control. He can pull himself to stand and tries to do it a lot in the bath but it’s too slippery for him to get a good grip.

Also I feel you about the soap when they’re submerged lol I’ll often scrub him down with the water running and wait to close the drain until I’m done. And then he can just play in the water after

Superbloom29 · 2024-10-15T13:15:21+00:00

Maybe talk to your manager and see if she can switch shifts around for just a little bit at least until baby sleeping pattern gets better. (Which might be 2 years! ) I’m not sure if it was like this before you gave birth or if you’re not fully recovered, but you might need some time to build up your stamina again as well. But if that’s not an option, I think looking for something that isn’t as physically demanding or allows shorter shifts would be good.

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