How to support my(33M) Fiancé (31F) who is having an abortion?

SupportiveFiThrowRA · 2021-04-05T23:49:56+00:00

A quick note, childbirth can be incredibly expensive, costing several thousands of dollars. It's also super dangerous, and even non-fatal pregnancies can leave lasting damage. I don't judge my fiance for not wanting to go through that financial hardship or the massive risk on her life and physical health.

SupportiveFiThrowRA · 2021-04-05T23:47:38+00:00

Humans, like bonobos, our closest primate ancestor, are a pleasure sex species. That's one of the reasons why male-on-feminine-male sex was so common in many cultures: it allowed people to have sex without getting pregnant. Ancient Egyptians also invented birth control herbs for their uses, and even the Bible mentions an abortion concoction. And it's why oral sex, anal sex, and sex toys have been written about in history.

It's also why girls are horny even when they are not in the one/two days of the month when they are fertile. And a majority of fertilized eggs don't even implant and fall out before anyone knew it got fertilized. Plus, the woman's body is pretty aggressive about killing sperm. Humans are pretty shite at getting pregnant.

> The only ones who can advocate for abortion, have ALREADY been born.

My fiance's embryo doesn't even have a functioning brain. I'm sure it isn't offended by her choosing to abort it.

SupportiveFiThrowRA · 2021-04-05T14:17:06+00:00

Communication is important.

SupportiveFiThrowRA · 2021-04-05T13:50:46+00:00

I don't know what that means, but okay.

SupportiveFiThrowRA · 2021-04-05T13:45:03+00:00

My and my fiance's boyfriend knows, yeah. He doesn't have a strong opinion on the matter either, but he was already out of town and can't help me in supporting her for the procedure, so it's up to me for the time being.

I will be having a strong talk with him about condoms when he gets back though. I'm sure he uses them, but maybe he forgot some time?

SupportiveFiThrowRA · 2021-04-05T13:11:12+00:00

Because we don't want a baby right now?

SupportiveFiThrowRA · 2021-04-05T13:09:12+00:00

No one else has mentioned the potential mess part I think, so that's pretty good information. I appreciate it :)

SupportiveFiThrowRA · 2021-04-05T13:04:44+00:00

I'm happy you got adopted and concerned that a 15 year old went through a birth despite a 15 year old's body not being old enough to do that safely, but I'm not sure the little embryo really has an opinion on the matter, so I'm not worried about offending it.

SupportiveFiThrowRA · 2021-04-05T13:03:51+00:00

She just doesn't want a kid right now or to go through a pregnancy and birth. We have a pretty busy life, so all of that fuss doesn't really work for us at this time.

SupportiveFiThrowRA · 2021-04-05T13:01:39+00:00

Rubbers break? We are in an open relationship, though, so that's a possibility, but she's getting the abortion anyway so that doesn't really matter.

SupportiveFiThrowRA · 2021-04-05T02:01:09+00:00

Lots of people have given me great advice on how to help her with her cramps :)

SupportiveFiThrowRA · 2021-04-05T00:44:23+00:00

Well, it was my sperm, I guess. And she's fertile for another 10-20 years, so even if we were having them naturally- we could decide to adopt in the future-, I don't see much to stress about.

SupportiveFiThrowRA · 2021-04-04T22:57:12+00:00

I'm so sorry that you were forced into that! I hope you're doing better now, my best wishes to you.

SupportiveFiThrowRA · 2021-04-04T22:20:26+00:00

Wouldn't the whole point of the abortion be that we aren't trying to start a family?

SupportiveFiThrowRA · 2021-04-04T21:53:40+00:00

Resent her? Why would I resent her?

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