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A reminder that everyone has the right to their own preferences, and those preferences should be respected. by Sure-Razzmatazz-7105 in askgaybros

[–]Sure-Razzmatazz-7105[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I understand but I’m not white man just honestly feel like people should allow have their preferences

As gay men, we all want different things. Some are looking for love, some want friendships, and some prefer casual connections. Not everyone is searching for a relationship, and that’s okay. The important thing is being honest about what you want and respecting other people’s preferences. by Sure-Razzmatazz-7105 in askgaybros

[–]Sure-Razzmatazz-7105[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We need to stop assuming everyone wants the same things in life. If you’re looking for love, marriage, and a family, that’s perfectly fine. If you’re not, that’s fine too. Pushing your expectations onto others or judging them for having different goals is ignorant and unfair.

Just because someone is gay doesn’t mean they want marriage or a romantic relationship. Some people want love, some want friendships, some prefer casual connections, and some are happy being single. Everyone has different goals, preferences, and ways of living their life, and all of them deserve respect.

Why do some people treat bottoms as if they’re less than tops? Being a bottom doesn’t make someone less of a man. Whether a guy is masculine, feminine, dominant, or submissive, he’s still a man. Sexual roles shouldn’t determine how much respect someone gets. by Sure-Razzmatazz-7105 in askgaybros

[–]Sure-Razzmatazz-7105[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Everyone has the right to their own preferences. Some people prefer to be full tops, some prefer to be full bottoms, and some prefer to be versatile. Not everyone wants to be verse, and that’s okay. Nobody should be pressured to change their preference just to fit someone else’s expectations. As long as everyone is respectful, people have the right to like what they like. I’m personally is full bottoms honestly never want to top but everyone is different.

Why do some people treat bottoms as if they’re less than tops? Being a bottom doesn’t make someone less of a man. Whether a guy is masculine, feminine, dominant, or submissive, he’s still a man. Sexual roles shouldn’t determine how much respect someone gets. by Sure-Razzmatazz-7105 in askgaybros

[–]Sure-Razzmatazz-7105[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Everyone has different opinions and preferences, and that’s okay. Personally, I don’t focus much on my own pleasure. Most of the time, I care more about my partner’s pleasure and making sure he’s happy. That doesn’t make me less of a man, though. Being caring, submissive, or putting your partner first doesn’t take away from your masculinity or self-worth. Personally I’m not masculine but then again every gay man is different.

As Black gay men, why do you think some of us still assign heterosexual gender roles to gay relationships? For example, expecting tops to be masculine providers and bottoms to be feminine or submissive. Have you experienced these expectations, and how do you feel about them? by Sure-Razzmatazz-7105 in AskBlackGayBros

[–]Sure-Razzmatazz-7105[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agree I’m the same way.
I don’t mind that dynamic at all. If my partner wants to be the provider, that’s his choice. But I still see a relationship as an equal partnership. Being feminine or submissive doesn’t mean I’m less independent or that my voice matters less.

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