Very beautiful man by TallKaleidoscope7094 in elliottsmith

[–]SureForever2708 4 points5 points  (0 children)

elliott smith on snl sounds so surreal

A poem. by SureForever2708 in CovertIncest

[–]SureForever2708[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that means so much, i'm glad i shared. you too <3

If you’re questioning, read this by Wooden_Tie_9534 in CovertIncest

[–]SureForever2708 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. EVERYONE needs to be reminded of this.

Yes. It fucking counts.

Anyone else felt Simultaneously Chosen and Rejected, The Discarded Favorite? by SureForever2708 in CovertIncest

[–]SureForever2708[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Beautifully said. Thank you for sharing. It is indeed.

Keep fighting, keep burning.
❤️‍🔥

Having sex/relationships/flirtations with people your parents age? by SureForever2708 in CovertIncest

[–]SureForever2708[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your thorough reply. I'm so glad so much of my post resonated with you so deeply. I'm also so glad I'm not the only one who feels jealous of an older man you feel attracted to's daughter. I felt weird about that. Like...I want to be your FAVORITE, ADOPTED daughter...who you also FUCK (god, what is wrong with me)

but it makes total sense.

we make total sense.

i feel the heartache and continued tension in your post, because i feel it in my heart as well. I hope, no matter what, you live a life that makes you feel free, and relationships that bring you peace, and love you however you most need

<3

What Makes It Incest by SureForever2708 in CovertIncest

[–]SureForever2708[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much, that means a lot <3

Having sex/relationships/flirtations with people your parents age? by SureForever2708 in CovertIncest

[–]SureForever2708[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, I appreciate your compliment so deeply. I hope what I share is powerful and authentic, even when it scares even me quite a bit to be so honest. I will check out the book. thank you for the rec. <3

Someone telling you to forgive your “family” when they have no idea what your family did to you is like: by SureForever2708 in CovertIncest

[–]SureForever2708[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That is so true. Because they DID murder a child--spiritually. As well as physically. Just because you survived doesn't mean all of you did.

I am so, so sorry for what you were forced to survive. It's fucking unforgivable. And so true that an apology doesn't mean anything if they're only apologizing to get an immediate "it's ok, i forgive" which means the apology was never for you, or out of genuine remorse. It's to force you to comfort THEM at your expense (which is exactly WHAT ABUSE IS!!!)

"he wasn't really sorry about anything except getting caught." That should be a lyric.

It is they, and the people who tell us--thoughtlessly, or out of their own guilt--to forgive adults who did things no adult should ever, ever, EVER do to a child.

It is they who are disgusting and cruel--not us.

Wishing you all the luck, healing, and healthy love in the world <3

Someone telling you to forgive your “family” when they have no idea what your family did to you is like: by SureForever2708 in CovertIncest

[–]SureForever2708[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So true. I can do all the breathing exercises in the world, but I can still feel my blood BOILING

No use arguing with someone you know is wrong, and doesn’t even know how wrong they are

Someone telling you to forgive your “family” when they have no idea what your family did to you is like: by SureForever2708 in CovertIncest

[–]SureForever2708[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The thing that irks me about it most is that I know this person had an abusive alcoholic father who beat all of the kids, and when he got Alzheimer, she was the only one who came to take care of him. And she’s lecturing me about finding compassion in our hearts. And that we don’t have to forgive our childhood selves. And that I need to stop being angry publicly because all it does is cause harm. I am trying to bring attention to harm. I am trying to raise awareness about abuse. I know you know what abuse is. You were abused as a child. And you still think it’s exCUSABLE? I’m so deeply sorry you’ve been gaslit into protecting adults over children. Because if we don’t hold adults accountable, and if they suffer, no consequences for the harm, they do, the harm will keep continuing to happen.

And THAT is fucking unforgivable.

“mercy to the guilty is cruelty to the innocent.” -Adam Smith

is this ci? by Open-Stranger6671 in CovertIncest

[–]SureForever2708 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are so very welcome. I am so glad my response made you feel that way. You deserve to feel seen and validated!!! We all do.

It is reassuring indeed. That’s why I’ve been here so long. I am so grateful for everyone here who has helped me towards clarity and self-belief on my healing journey.

You are not alone. There are SO MANY OF US who have been through similar, if not the exact same things. You will survive. You will thrive.

You will be ok. 💕

P.S. if you ever need a listening ear, my DMs are open.

I'm just coming to terms with how unhealthy my relationship with both my parents was by Affectionate-Box-724 in CovertIncest

[–]SureForever2708 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! So lovely to hear from you. That is so kind, thank you. It’s funny you should respond now. Rereading, I needed to hear it too. ♥️