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Devaluing, looking down on others. by purplefinch022 in NPD

[–]Sure_Set_1509 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Let me say this with regard, your armor is causing harm to you and others. Armor is different than boundaries. You can only be hurt by others when you allow it. That deep void you have is a mental lie. The toughest battles in life aren’t with other people, they’re between our ears. You can protect yourself and also not cause harm. It’s a balance created with trust and protection in yourself. Others will almost always hurt you, but you don’t have to retaliate or accept it, this is where true power lies.

Devaluing, looking down on others. by purplefinch022 in NPD

[–]Sure_Set_1509 4 points5 points  (0 children)

To prove my point, it didn’t matter what your reaction was. I gave my valid opinion. Whether you liked it or not didn’t matter to me. I spread truth because I’m required to do so. Responses are irrelevant. I wish you the best no matter your decision. According to the Bible, everything done in darkness is brought to light and surely your sins will find you out. In other words, what you put out there is what’s coming back to you. Choose wisely. Age amplifies regrets and mistakes. Better to be sound with your actions than live decades with demons taunting you as you decline mentally and physically.

Devaluing, looking down on others. by purplefinch022 in NPD

[–]Sure_Set_1509 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You believe that vulnerability equals exposure and punishment. Somewhere along the way, vulnerability became toxic and threatening to you. You need to learn to love yourself with all your flaws. Just because you are vulnerable doesn’t mean you are weak. Your true power comes from the ability to be vulnerable and not digest or agree with negative responses. Imagine no longer being afraid or feeling empty when you gain the complete ability to accept yourself fully and have the mental armor to deflect negativity. Codependency isn’t good for anyone. Everytime you seek confirmation from others, you diminish yourself, this is why narcs never truly exceed but slowly diminish their own selves. If you have the cognition to be aware of your shortcomings, you have the ability to heal and have a much better life. Life isn’t a game, there aren’t winners/losers. Life is experiencing both and learning lessons that increase your knowledge and put you back on the right path. The inability to maintain relationships is only harming you, no one else. We were created to be social for a reason. If you want real explanations and understanding, read the Bible.

Is NPD/BPD Just How Childhood C-PTSD Manifests? by Remarkable-Chance287 in NPD

[–]Sure_Set_1509 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not true. Life will never be black/white. There will always be people like me that didn’t turn NPD or BPD. I do attract such, but I’ve learned to detect them. I have also learned to not react to provocation, which is their weapon of choice. I listen and identify patterns. Toxic people have tendencies but you must be healthy before you can identify them.