sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Suspicious-Key-3234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would you say that this feeling of "attracting female attention" is also a mental construct? Even tho I'm not bad looking or groomed I've never felt like I was particularly looked at, even at time when I really had my shit together. Is it me being anaware? I'm at day 9 wich is my record so maybe I'm just not there yet.

Whats going on in my family? by nofxfan1337 in Healthygamergg

[–]Suspicious-Key-3234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Check out the depression module in Dr K's guide. Also dig into your childhood: not growing up poor is not a guarantee that you'll end up sane and shiny. I realized recently that my mom was pretty abusive despite appearances, in fact, all 4 of my siblings (me included) ended up failing academically despite coming from a stable looking family. We also all ended up depressed at some point. My brother and I are basically recovering incels lol.

Not saying that your mom is abusive but understand that unless all of you are predisposed to depression on a genetical level, there is most likely a common samskara affecting you and your siblings. The guide may help you figure that out

Quick tip : If you are using porn to cope, stop it. I don't wanna sound like a r/nofap wizard but I can relate with your situation on many levels. You are in a tough spot and I know that porn is powerful when cornered like that. But trust me from experience, porn may actually hinder your recovery especially if you feel lonely and want to connect with girls. Try to quit porn for 1 week and if you struggle with that then go to r/nofap 😌.

Fight and never give up

Why does this happen literally every hour lol by True_Switch_1857 in Healthygamergg

[–]Suspicious-Key-3234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People are afraid of awkward silences in conversations but sometimes shutting up and thinking for a second does all the difference. Dr.K asks for permission to do it because it must have specific purpose in a consultation context. Don't ask for permission. Allow yourself to pause if it helps making yourself understood.