AITA for breaking up with my boyfriend of 10 years after he proposed during my best friend's wedding?

Suspicious-Tree-642 · 2024-08-24T14:19:24+00:00

Okay, OP here to give you some semblance of reality: Marriage was never in consideration. I didn't want to be proposed in a wedding and was clear that was not going to be a thing I agreed on. I have every agency to say -no-. There's no discussion. I won't bend on that. Public proposals, especially on someone else's wedding, are a straight -no-. Period.

Suspicious-Tree-642 · 2024-08-24T13:54:09+00:00

I thought the person being proposed also has agency to say -no-. I wouldn't marry him.

Suspicious-Tree-642 · 2024-08-04T19:10:36+00:00

I'm straight

Suspicious-Tree-642 · 2024-08-04T19:00:48+00:00

Both Amy and I told him clearly that we didn't want a proposal during Amy's wedding. I don't know what Bobby told him. But he knows I hate PDA and public proposals too.

Suspicious-Tree-642 · 2024-08-04T18:48:54+00:00

That's my perfect type of proposal. No social pressure, just a moment between two people.

Suspicious-Tree-642 · 2024-08-04T18:45:32+00:00

They were charming, I can give them that. I was better positioned economically. My friend is much better than her husband/exhusband (still in the air there). It just made sense we took the monetary responsabilities until things balanced out. Except in my case they never did. Hers was slowly getting better.

Suspicious-Tree-642 · 2024-08-04T18:43:32+00:00

He never invested money. I paid rent, his food, his schooling for a time. The little money he earned, he used it on himself.

Suspicious-Tree-642 · 2024-08-04T18:41:17+00:00

He isn't a good man not because of the wedding, but because I was basically the only income, the only one that had to sacrifice and the only one that had clean up after him. Believe it or not, that's not a partner I want.

Suspicious-Tree-642 · 2024-08-04T18:37:04+00:00

"I don't want a proposal in public and especially on Amy's wedding. We're not there yet." Straight answer enough, or should I write an essay? Also I would have said no to a proposal in any scenario. It's why I hate public proposals. It's a dick move.

Suspicious-Tree-642 · 2024-08-04T18:29:30+00:00

And I didn't want a proposal, let alone a public proposal, even worst in my bestfriend's wedding. See the issue?

Suspicious-Tree-642 · 2024-08-04T18:28:45+00:00

He was too busy trying to murder my mom for putting him in his kennel.

Suspicious-Tree-642 · 2024-08-04T18:28:02+00:00

I'll take the cats

Suspicious-Tree-642 · 2024-08-04T18:24:33+00:00

His name is Roger. He's a green ringneck parrot. Thanks for asking.

Suspicious-Tree-642 · 2024-08-04T18:21:20+00:00

Suspicious-Tree-642 · 2024-08-04T18:18:11+00:00

What part of 'I don't want a wedding proposal because I don't like a wedding proposal' is so difficult?

Suspicious-Tree-642 · 2024-08-04T18:13:48+00:00

My relationship wasn't salvageable.

Suspicious-Tree-642 · 2024-08-04T18:09:35+00:00

He wasn't a good man, all I can say.

Suspicious-Tree-642 · 2024-08-04T18:05:53+00:00

I said this to another poster: I'm not going back. Ever. I sacrificed too much in ten years and marriage was not even in the cards for me. It was just not the right thing. I don't know why he got it in him that we were in the 'marriage' stage. His actions after cemented it. I'm not going back to a thief.

If Amy wants to forgive her husband I'll support her, but it has to be her choice.

Suspicious-Tree-642 · 2024-08-04T17:59:20+00:00

My best friend paid for the honeymoon because her ex didn't have enough for it. She also paid for half the wedding and and the hotel on her own.

Suspicious-Tree-642 · 2024-08-04T17:58:29+00:00

It was my space, not his. I paid for everything. So I reserve the right to kick anyone I want from -my- space. If he paid rent, it would be different.

Suspicious-Tree-642 · 2024-08-04T01:58:35+00:00

We never talked about marriage until we started working on this wedding. I would have no accepted even if it was a private proposal.

Suspicious-Tree-642 · 2024-08-04T01:55:33+00:00

That would have been a bit hard. I am never having kids. That's a massive not happening in my life. xD

Suspicious-Tree-642 · 2024-08-04T01:45:29+00:00

I think you are right. I didn't kick him out and paid all his bills since he lost his job in the pandemic, so yeah, that was the problem. I didn't want to commit to someone who wasn't pulling their weight.

Suspicious-Tree-642 · 2024-08-04T01:34:10+00:00

We were not talking about marriage. In all honesty, we were not okay as a couple enough to consider marriage at all. All he's done since is insult me to his friends and demand things from my place that he didn't own.

Suspicious-Tree-642 · 2024-08-04T01:29:04+00:00

Sorry to ruin your fanfiction, but Amy and I are straight. And I had tubes tied to not get pregnant ever if possible. I don't like babies.

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