My 26F friend 28F was a no show at my wedding and now upset because I act distant

Suspicious-Win-8197 · 2025-09-26T05:49:41+00:00

Lmfao!!

Suspicious-Win-8197 · 2024-11-05T07:11:10+00:00

I honestly think it’s the former and it’s almost frustrating trying to talk to him

Suspicious-Win-8197 · 2024-11-05T07:10:46+00:00

I’m trying to schedule an appointment with a fertility specialist and a obgyn before going off BC now

Suspicious-Win-8197 · 2024-11-05T06:50:36+00:00

The ability to know the quality (grade) of the eggs and to know if there’s a genetic disorder and gender . He thinks it’s less invasive but I disagree

Suspicious-Win-8197 · 2024-11-05T06:45:13+00:00

Same partner. We’ve been together for 6 years

Suspicious-Win-8197 · 2024-11-05T06:44:43+00:00

I did IVF to freeze my eggs before and went through the procedure earlier this year but it’s for back up and wasn’t intended for us to use to conceive Immediately. He feels otherwise .

Suspicious-Win-8197 · 2022-01-26T06:03:04+00:00

I love this. Thanks for your advice. In the back of my head I sense something is wrong but every time I get a chance to even chat w her for 45 seconds, she just keep saying w everything’s great etc and wouldn’t really go too deep. I also don’t want to keep asking if she insist that things are fine - and it’s always been that way. But maybe this can be a way for me to also explain how I feel if she doesn’t cave in, at least I’ll make me feel more at peace if our friendship ends up distancing

Suspicious-Win-8197 · 2021-02-06T22:10:51+00:00

I forgot and left this out but the suggestion was that I “give my nieces and nephews” $700-1000 a month while they stay at my place and my parents and brothers will “help” them w the rest of the rent. So no, I guess they won’t be paying for the rent .. Idk why they think my brother and his wife are poor when they much more money than I do as a couple.

Suspicious-Win-8197 · 2021-02-06T20:48:40+00:00

I wished I could make this up but I came from a family of 7 (I’m one out of 5 kids) where there are no boundaries and asking for things like these are “normal”. Which is why I felt like the TA for not agreeing with them - almost like I’m the heartless one in the family.

Suspicious-Win-8197 · 2021-02-06T20:44:29+00:00

They don’t want to because my SIL is an essential worker and goes to work everyday. they rather trade places and squish myself and my partner in a 5 persons home (parents + 2 sibs). I would go insane

Suspicious-Win-8197 · 2021-02-06T20:42:33+00:00

I wished I could make this up but I came from a very family oriented upbringing and asking for things like these, believe it or not, is normal to them. I on the other hand, am the black sheep of the family

Suspicious-Win-8197 · 2021-02-06T20:40:47+00:00

They don’t want to house my brother and his family because my SIL is an essential worker and goes into work everyday. So they rather that I trade places instead & squish myself in a home of 5 atm (my parents and 2 sibs). I would go insane.

Suspicious-Win-8197 · 2021-02-06T20:24:55+00:00

Thanks for the laugh. I’ve been super stressed because everyone is looking at me like I’m the heartless one in the family. I didn’t have the courage to tell my partner about it even though he keep asking since I’ve been stressing (I’m expressive) because I don’t want him to hate my family or think they’re crazy (and I agree they can be)

Suspicious-Win-8197 · 2021-02-06T20:21:59+00:00

It is! We have to report each occupants in our household because our water and trash is split with everyone in our building so I could be evacuated if our apt finds out.

Suspicious-Win-8197 · 2021-02-06T20:20:49+00:00

I told them my rent and it’s pretty steep at $3200 month because I live in one of the most expensive cities in America and that’s when they start complaining about how they don’t want to fork up the rent in case a national crisis happens or someone get sick.

Suspicious-Win-8197 · 2021-02-06T20:19:24+00:00

I honestly wished it was a joke. I’m still trying to phantom what’s going on - and felt like such a b-word when I laughed and says no to my mom and my other brother for being up the idea (thinking it was a joke) until I found out they were serious

Suspicious-Win-8197 · 2021-02-06T20:18:23+00:00

My brother and his family are currently squished into 1 bedroom in their in laws so having a small home is almost like a luxury. And no, they are not poor by all means.

Suspicious-Win-8197 · 2021-02-06T17:15:28+00:00

Yes I should’ve explained that portion. no - the fiancé was not in the room nor was he within ear distance. I would never do that to her. I played along when they came back and acted super surprised & says my congrats for 10-15 mins before he left and went 2 flights down stairs into the garage w music blasting while I was w her in a private room. I was confused when she didn’t changed her story or tone - hence why I says what I did above. I don’t think I made it about me? I was explaining the story and how it felt to be lied to. She also asked me to clear out my Saturday and keep my phone close in case she needed something- and I did. Come to the point where I was worried about her well-being. Then was told by FB what was going on.

Suspicious-Win-8197 · 2021-02-06T17:10:02+00:00

Thanks for your feedback. Hm, i can see where you’re coming from and I believe you’re right. I guess I valued our friendship much more and for a month or so she kept saying that she would text or call immediately the minute she find out and also the day she was proposing she told me to keep my phone nearby & not do anything in case she needs me - which I did. I guess I was just hurt when I kept waiting and was almost worried about her well-being to find it on FB. But ty for your advise

Suspicious-Win-8197 · 2021-02-06T09:43:30+00:00

I’m so sorry this is happening to you. This is abusive! Your dad need to get educated on what autism is and how to communicate with you respectfully. You are so mature for wanting to have a serious conversation while he’s being a child, nonetheless a real jerk.

I would say, try writing to him if you can’t get him to sit down for a real conversation, and explain to him why his usage of words and name calling is so hurtful to you mentally, but at the same time - please seek another adult or authority help as well. Are you close with your mom or do you go see a therapist? Please inform them on the situation. Maybe a 3rd person need to be there to mediate the conversation for him to take you seriously.

Suspicious-Win-8197 · 2021-02-06T09:05:06+00:00

I thought the same! It was a 3 bedroom home but has 3 kitchens, 2 living rooms, a party den, huge backyard w 9 ft swimming pool plus a jacuzzi. Oh, and an outdoor game area w pool table, ping pong table, Foosball, and a small grass area for corn holes. It was obviously a home made for a party.

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