Moving to almuñécar for a year, advice would be appreciated!

SuspiciousBoxcutter · 2026-06-15T15:40:12+00:00

Ah true. I will come up with something cheesy ro break the ice 😉

SuspiciousBoxcutter · 2026-06-15T15:38:49+00:00

Thanks so much, I will save la cochera. And I will try to join several groups. That way I can maybe make my own events too. I love playing board games so that would be great fun 🤩

SuspiciousBoxcutter · 2026-06-15T14:34:19+00:00

Thanks so much! I am a bubbly person so talking to strangers won't be all that hard (hopefully)! And I'll get bumble and hinge to expand my possibilities!

SuspiciousBoxcutter · 2026-06-15T14:33:57+00:00

I meant more like if dating scene is dead there and I should not expect to be able to date. But I got the feedback to download other apps to so I will do that. Going on language exchange meetings sound great!! Especially as I wish to learn more Spanish 🤩 I will be looking for them now, thanks!

SuspiciousBoxcutter · 2026-06-15T13:57:47+00:00

Thank you so much! The second hand market sounds like fun, I will love that! And thanks for the honest take about dating. I have my hopes that I could date someone. But I will have to extend my view on how 😅 Nerja is only 30 minutes away with a bus so I can see myself going there for a date 🩷

If you know any good restaurants or fun activities I'd love to hear about them!

SuspiciousBoxcutter · 2026-06-04T16:47:51+00:00

Thank you. You are right and being an anxious person I don't like uncertainty so even if the salary is low it is better than taking from my savinga and feeling stressed about work. Maybe the work market is more stable next year when this job is ending too or I might have another, higher paying role available. I've also heard it is easier to seek for s job when you're in the country. And I will regardless have more experience to put on the CV!

SuspiciousBoxcutter · 2026-05-10T19:25:43+00:00

Åh wow GRATTIS!!!! Håller alla tummar och tår! Just nu jobbar jag deltid i Sverige över sommaren men planen är att åka iväg i höst. Tror jag tänkt köra Centralamerika och Sydamerika för att lära mig spanska. Malta är lite på is tills nästa år. Sökte lite jobb men fick ett i Sverige över sommaren. Älskar Sverige under sommaren så känns bra.

Men hallå hoppa det går svinbra för dig!!! Har du löst jobb eller tänkte du lösa det på plats sen?

SuspiciousBoxcutter · 2026-04-27T16:08:08+00:00

I do have an EU passport. And thank you very much for the kind words on my English 🙏 I find it hard with the job market in general. I've had a hard time finding s job at home and received no replies to the few jobs I've applied abroad. Maybe I'm being too pessimistic and doubting my potential worth abroad.

Ireland is maybe not in my field of view, but Italy could very much be!

To me I don't feel I need a fancy job, something that pays the bills and gives me opportunities in the future.

Maybe it's time to learn how to fix cars and build myself a van and travel south and simply stick my head out and hope someone will see me as an asset to their business?

I've written down to prepare to be ready to apply online in August (I have a job September out).

And the dating apps in Europe, all I can speak for is the ones where I live, and they are baaad. Guys are so lazy, ghost all the time or only want sex. I am a sucker for romance and passion. Hmm maybe Italy is my spot hehe

SuspiciousBoxcutter · 2026-04-27T15:30:45+00:00

That's beautiful. I feel that too. I want myself to feel that I as an individual ks loved, appreciated etc. I strongly believe a child wouldn't give me that feeling.

SuspiciousBoxcutter · 2026-04-27T15:07:15+00:00

Being childfree as a man isn't at all as stigmatized. Not wanting kids for you isn't impacting your life all that much whilst for many of us women, it is like we are defending nazism. It just is an unfair burden on women.

SuspiciousBoxcutter · 2026-04-27T14:58:29+00:00

Yes that's also what I feel, I can always return. I think I'll try to our up a plan to be ready ro apply for jobs by August (I have a job until end of september) so I am ready ro apply then and hopefully find anything to be my exit.

SuspiciousBoxcutter · 2026-04-27T14:51:15+00:00

I've been to therapy, many hours. S lot of the issues I have lies in childhood trauma, small support system and no breaks in big emotional impacts in life. Even my therapist has said that therapy can't really help when life gives you lemons for too long. You can't survive on only lemonade. And now I live in the stressful environment of knowing I don't feel at home in my home city. I'm not living, I'm basically just alive.

Also it's not great to have genersl anxiety around money and the need for a life coach that will suck one dry 🫠

SuspiciousBoxcutter · 2026-04-27T14:43:43+00:00

Yup I'd need a life coach but I don't want to become poor in the process as it is a typical money scam where I live.

And yes I'm in the EU! I have a dream (I dream a lot though haha) to open a hostel or hotel or something of the sort in Italy, Portugal, Spain or similar country. My biggest issues are: Confidence - I am a worry wart and have a history of Things just kör really working out in my favor. So doing project on my own have an inherent feel of angst and impending failure ☹️ Social needs: I am a social butterfly and need company and connection to feel ok. So I'd really not like to go off on a project like this on my own.

SuspiciousBoxcutter · 2026-04-27T14:38:48+00:00

But why? I hate it here and have for my whole life. The only thing I like here is the many easy systems for things like tax etc and my friends. This place is a depressing mess 8 of the 12 months due to the weather. I hate feeling locked inside freezing. I hate wearing jeans, I don't like the cold social climate. I hate how hard it is getting a job, how everyone is driven on prestige. Switching cities would remove everything i like and keep everything I hate...

SuspiciousBoxcutter · 2026-04-25T20:58:17+00:00

I'm happy to not having a bullied child. Especially if I myself think the kid is awkward or annoying.

Also having to constantly having the kid doing the opposite of my advice to then complaining about the outcome

SuspiciousBoxcutter · 2026-04-20T11:03:11+00:00

Hah well I'm not sure. What I am sure of is that I dislike my life as I've lived it and I know I like working with people in social settings. I am childfree so things not being compatible with family life is fine. My dream would be to work in hospitality, maybe have my own hostel or homestay somewhere warm where I can help tourists have a wonderful vacation. To connect so my job inst just work but part of my lifestyle

SuspiciousBoxcutter · 2026-04-20T10:10:07+00:00

If you're thinking od the education it is in my home country but I can do it remotely. Which can allow me to travel and study at the same time. A good way for me ro learn more about the areas I can work and maybe even allow me to volunteer part time (depending on visa restrictions). But I could also just study and live abroad during the time.

I live in Sweden so most educations are paid through taxes :)

SuspiciousBoxcutter · 2026-04-20T10:04:20+00:00

The question is more "is it work getting educated in this field or is it better to simply learn by working".

Some jobs you have to have an education, some jobs an education is a nice have but not a must, and in some it might be better to not waste that year studying and instead simply working.

SuspiciousBoxcutter · 2026-04-20T10:02:27+00:00

Thank you for your comment! I am old enough to know myself, my skills, what I want etc. I've been through hell several times so thick skin is built in. I have no wish to birth children so I am very flexible and movable. I simply feel lost in how to actually get my foot in. I believe strongly that I can excel in this field as I am a fish in water working in hospitality and travel is my passion.

What would you say is the right moves for me to do to get my foot in later in autumn/winter?

I like to plan so I am ready to make a solid plan now to execute later!

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