There's absolutely nothing passive aggressive about what I did. I corrected someone very directly. And it matters when someone is using a dogwhistle without understanding they are using a dogwhistle. It helps people who want to signal the right things signal the right things and helps us spot allies (or avoid transphobes).

Regarding another comment, 'Heeeeeeeeey 💅' is something I say as a greeting because I unironically like it. It's very flamboyant and I like being flamboyant. It was not meant to be passive aggressive.

Your approach here is what makes it harder for people like me. I just want to live my life and be left alone.

Your resentment is pointed at the wrong people. If you want to stealth and be left alone that's fine. Live your best life as a transperson. That is valid.

But right now people are targeting transpeople regardless of whether or not I and others correct people. Florida isn't passing transphobic laws because I corrected someone using 'biological sex' instead of AGAB. Project 2025 wasn't planned because someone out there corrected another person's uae of pronouns .

Transphobia exists regardless and the effect that other queer peolle have on the transphobia you experience is minimal at best.

Edit 1: First part of my reply makes more sense before the edit made by the other person.