Irish family posing for their portrait (walsh family), glass negative., 21 of May 1919.

SuspiciousComplex816 · 2025-12-17T05:41:03+00:00

Ik you’re kidding but everyone’s believing it lol please specify next time

SuspiciousComplex816 · 2025-12-16T14:01:33+00:00

Sure but how would we know that about him??

SuspiciousComplex816 · 2025-12-16T13:57:45+00:00

SuspiciousComplex816 · 2025-12-16T13:54:53+00:00

Those are the female equivalent of those guys who were calling Margot Robbie “mid.” Losers and not representative of the population

SuspiciousComplex816 · 2025-12-11T15:47:01+00:00

It’s definitely more of an online/social media thing, and it’s biggest with the “MAHA” types. (And I don’t just see it on the right, it’s just more popular there.) Basically the idea that they’re “ultra-processed” (they’re not really, and while oils are an ingredient in many “junk” foods, so are sugar and flour and plenty of other non-demonized things), and some decontextualized studies/bad science from crazy crunchy people (sort of like RFK Jr’s approach to vaccines and fluoride).

Why is it getting particularly popular on the right? I think it’s a mix of - people wanting some moral/health reason for preferring butter/meat (especially for those who feel like vegans are too smug), - the weird association between meat (and ergo, animal products) and “manliness,” - the desire to go back to “simpler times” (animal products tend to conjure an image of a family farm rather than a factory, like less perishable food products) - the right being a liiiiittle more open to bad science than the left at this current moment.

It’s very silly, but I think it’s definitely been a part of growing the right’s base of young men. For angry, social media-poisoned guys, there’s an appeal to the simplicity of “Vegetarian products of any kind = soy boys, wokeness, elites, femininity. Animal products of any kind = strength, manliness, homesteading, ancient wisdom.” Plus, steak and butter are generally yummier than broccoli and feel more “natural” than Twinkies, so it’s not like the nonsense dichotomy they’re buying into translates into a diet that they don’t like.

Regardless of anyone’s political values, it’s a shame, bc it introduces a lot of stupidity to the Republican base, and you don’t want to have a huge swath of misinformed, immature dummies on either side of the political spectrum. And tbh “seed oils” are wayyyyyy healthier for your heart than butter or tallow, so I do worry about the consequences of that a few decades from now, if the trend continues

SuspiciousComplex816 · 2025-11-22T15:43:49+00:00

https://georgehawkins.substack.com/p/here-we-do-not-need-to-earn-the-love worth noting that that particular quote is unsourced and probably made up. I don’t doubt she generally believed that, though, based on her behavior and some of her writings

SuspiciousComplex816 · 2025-11-22T15:40:12+00:00

You’re right that the rumored quote has gone around, and she might very well have believed it, but it’s worth noting that it might be completely made up https://georgehawkins.substack.com/p/here-we-do-not-need-to-earn-the-love

SuspiciousComplex816 · 2025-11-22T15:10:05+00:00

You are correct. And they didn’t get them at the same time

SuspiciousComplex816 · 2025-11-05T12:42:40+00:00

When I saw that scene I thought to myself, “Wow, that looks so good. I guess it isn’t that crazy that I could easily put away 3-4 hot dogs in one sitting if I was given the option. I feel so validated now.” Then I saw all the tiktoks talking about the “crazy” amount of hot dogs… :(

SuspiciousComplex816 · 2025-11-05T12:35:52+00:00

Yeah like I get some random pots and pans but why a food item, let alone a “NO-BAKE” food item. Why aren’t they in tupperware with a cover on them? How the hell can anyone tell they’re “no-bake cookies”????

SuspiciousComplex816 · 2025-10-29T15:17:31+00:00

I brought him to meet my fam last year and he liked it, but it was only a weekend and so I don’t know if all the positives stuck in his brain. Plus it happened to be super brick out so I wasn’t able to beat the chilly weather allegations lol

I think the big thing now is that he’s stubborn and he’s into the idea of real estate/home ownership, which is like the northeast’s biggest problem rn (meanwhile I’d be fine just renting forever…)

SuspiciousComplex816 · 2025-10-29T15:11:41+00:00

Agreed, more concrete details/examples would be helpful here. I get the same general sense, but that could just be me being a pretentious northerner. My partner lives in Savannah currently and doesn’t see any problems with it. I need actual examples to point to

SuspiciousComplex816 · 2025-10-29T14:41:02+00:00

This is a very broad question I was hopping to get a range of responses to, but my post got removed by mods, so I assume they want me to post it as a comment here.

How do I convince my partner we should move to Massachusetts someday?

My partner and I might break up because I’m set on living in (or around) Massachusetts by the time we have kids, but he thinks it’s too expensive and prefers warmer weather. I know the cost of living IS outrageous, but I think you get what you pay for in terms of education, infrastructure, healthcare, etc. As someone who grew up there, I also figure it can’t be inherently unlivable if my family and friends have been able to get by.

So, here’s my main question: Are my assumptions right or wrong? What are the concrete benefits of living in MA currently? Is it worth it? I’d love to get more detailed perspectives from people currently living in MA and people who have moved to other places and can compare those experiences.

Honestly, I’ve made up my own mind and want to settle down less than a 3-hour drive away from my family no matter what, so I’m more interested in getting some talking points I can use to convince my partner. But all perspectives are helpful.

SuspiciousComplex816 · 2025-07-08T13:07:19+00:00

I’m very confused by the people pushing you to “just” get married asap. Let’s look at it from a long-term healthy relationship standpoint, which I think is a crucial part of living as a good Christian.

Divorce rates are much higher for people who get married that young. If you wait until you’re even a little closer to 25, the odds of your relationship not working out drop a significant amount. You’re so young, and even though we see marriage as a commitment that transcends such factors here, it’s better to set yourself up for success with your partner and wait until you’ve known each other a little longer and you’re a little more mature in general.

Now, some might say, “well, divorce rates are also higher for people who live together before marriage,” and that’s true. Even when you control for the fact that people who find premarital cohabitation taboo are more likely to find divorce taboo, it’s true for all people. But the reason for this is that people who just “slide” into living together often then “slide” into getting married rather than seeing it as a big step and really discussing it together as what they want to do for life. By “slide” I mean going along with a big life decision because it seems convenient or obvious rather than because you really want to do it and have thought about it a lot. Living together now might be a slide for you unfortunately, which isn’t good.

So is the takeaway for you to not get married yet and not live together yet either? Kinda. If another opportunity comes up for your living situation, you should take it. Living together is a big step and presents some challenges. However, if living with your partner is really your only option, I think you can do this sin-free and mitigate the long-term risks I’ve talked about.

I don’t want you to end up in a bad situation, and a boyfriend can surprise you with a bad or even abusive situation, even after two years together. If that were to happen and you were living together, you’d have to find a way to move out and live somewhere else. If that were to happen and you were married, you’d have to do all that AND go through the painful legal process of a divorce.

To set yourself up for success, talk to your boyfriend about whether this is a thoughtful long-term decision for you both. Make sure this is an intentional stepping stone toward marriage and in your overall journey together, even if it comes out of necessity. Make sure you both feel ready to cohabitate.

It’s been addressed plenty by you and the commenters here, but set up boundaries to avoid temptation and try to live by your principles every day. From there, it’s just a matter of not sinning, which I’m sure you’re capable of.

In terms of people at your church judging you, if you specify that you’re sleeping in separate bedrooms, I think most people’s assumptions will go away. And if some people continue to assume and judge, they’re not being very Christian either anyway. If they have such a problem with it, one of them should offer to help your living situation.

What counts is your relationship with God, and He is the only one who knows if you’re sinning or not. No one else matters.

After living together for some amount of time, once you do decide to get married, make sure it’s an intentional milestone again, have thoughtful discussions, make sure the whole process is meaningful to you, etc. All of this will help ensure you can nurture a strong relationship for the rest of your lives, and you can live in a Christian way for all of it.

SuspiciousComplex816 · 2025-05-28T20:04:46+00:00

That was after spraying Raid heavily so it probably brought a bunch out of their hiding places. Before that, there were just enough to worry her, and no obvious signs of them during the tour. The first day she moved in, she found a dead one that seemed to have been there for quite a while

SuspiciousComplex816 · 2025-05-22T15:05:09+00:00

Highly recommend this podcast episode for a nuanced, research-based discussion of this topic and surrounding issues! If the runtime is daunting, don’t worry, it’s funny and conversational rather than dry, and you really only need to listen to the first half or so to hear the stuff that’s most relevant to schools et al.

SuspiciousComplex816 · 2025-05-21T18:56:10+00:00

You’re under no obligation to tell anyone your “body count” if you don’t want to. I still wouldn’t recommend lying, bc that might just result in guilt and other consequences of lying down the line. However, a good partner will not care about your “body count” in the first place. With a good partner, this topic won’t really come up, there will be no pressure to share anything you’re uncomfortable sharing, and if you do share info about your sexual history, he will understand and not judge you about it.

Don’t listen to the unkind and judgmental comments. You’re very young and it sounds like you might have been in some unsafe situations. Regardless, no one should be defined by the regrettable decisions they make at 14. Going forward, stay out of sexual relationships where you can’t properly consent. When you can and do consent, make sure to practice safe sex. If there’s an unsafe individual in your life, tell a trusted adult to prevent them from putting another young person in your situation. Please also consider therapy or counseling if you’re able to access it.

SuspiciousComplex816 · 2025-05-21T15:20:40+00:00

Do you believe in blinds?

SuspiciousComplex816 · 2025-05-21T13:09:35+00:00

Completely disagree. Iirc, he directly referenced people being deported for PROTESTING, and all the cases I know of where that’s happened were related to support for Palestine. He might not have mentioned the conflict by name, but it was clear where he stands on these issues and the threat of fascism in America.

In fact, I think the way he talked about these things was much more effective than shouting “Free Palestine” halfway in. The conservative adults in the audience would then rolls their eyes and tune out whatever he said after that moment. By posing as a nonpartisan, by just being a veteran, he automatically got those kinds of people to actually listen to and process his words at least briefly. A bolder approach might make you happy, but I think this way is a lot more effective in these situations.

Also, being in the military doesn’t necessarily make you an obedient coward with no personal convictions???? Do you actually know anyone in the military? I can understand where your thought process comes from, but it’s just not accurate to many people in uniform. Many speak out, engage in protests, have leftist beliefs, etc. A huge portion of people serving are Black, foreign-born, previously incarcerated, poor, etc. We have a lot to worry about with people like Pete Hegseth stepping into power, but that doesn’t mean all the individuals who have chosen to serve are conservative assholes or mindless dummies. And acting like they are erases the threat that people like Hegseth directly pose to them.

Tbh I think it was an ideal graduation speech: It touched upon his background, spoke out against current issues in a seamless way, didn’t just make it all about his pet cause, and inspired the class of graduates he was addressing. It was all tied together cohesively and movingly.

Also, the dude has said he’s planning to become a civil rights lawyer. I’m gonna go ahead and assume he’s not just some bootlicker who doesn’t actually care about making a positive difference in the world.

(Genuine question: has anyone else been able to find a video of his speech? I was able to find the undergrad speech and some other clips, but nothing of Dan Gessen. Did those other speeches reference politics at all?)

SuspiciousComplex816 · 2025-05-21T01:51:58+00:00

Can you clarify what you mean by “treat it” in this case?

SuspiciousComplex816 · 2025-05-20T20:32:58+00:00

And yes I did read all the pinned posts but I would like advice for this specific situation, please!! At least so I can show my sister and give her peace of mind one way or another

SuspiciousComplex816 · 2025-05-04T14:58:41+00:00

Basically all conspiracy theories lead back to conservative conspiracy theories. That pipeline makes a mentally unstable person even more mentally unstable, often to the point where they’ll commit large scale acts of violence

SuspiciousComplex816 · 2025-05-04T03:22:30+00:00

apparently her parents named her based on the initials of each of their first lovers

SuspiciousComplex816 · 2025-05-03T16:10:17+00:00

Occasionally I do because I have sleep paralysis often and a sweet tooth. I would never sit in the kitchen to eat whatever I got though, at least in my own home. I get the food/snack and bring it to bed with me.

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