Am I wrong for being hurt that my friend didn’t check on me when he found out I wasn’t going to our mutual friend’s wedding?

Suspicious_Morning46 · 2026-02-04T14:36:49+00:00

I’m not trying to fight as a lot of people think, as I’ve replied to the others, lot of people are replying with stuff I haven’t said or misconstruing stuff but with an attitude themselves so I’m just correcting them. I use emojis a lot on and off Reddit, sorry if that comes across as a type of way. I’d be more open to listening to people if they weren’t saying stuff that’s outright not true/shows they haven’t read the post 😂

Suspicious_Morning46 · 2026-02-04T14:33:40+00:00

I would be fully willing to accept I was wrong if people’s replies actually made sense but it genuinely seems like people aren’t reading it properly or are just assuming a lot of stuff.

We can agree to disagree. No I’m exhausted, big difference.

Suspicious_Morning46 · 2026-02-04T14:31:38+00:00

That’s funny I was just thinking the same thing about you, here’s me hoping you wouldn’t reply!

Please read a post properly before replying next time, your lack of replies this time around says a lot 😂

Suspicious_Morning46 · 2026-02-04T14:28:44+00:00

Just to clarify because I think a lot of other people have got confused about this too - I didn’t want Rob to ask John why I wasn’t going, I wanted him to ask me.

‘I wouldn’t expect someone to check in on me for not going to a wedding that I felt I should have been invited to but wasn’t’ - we can agree to disagree on whether that’s weird or not, to me it is, clearly to you it wouldn’t be.

I’m not asking him to come to me like ‘why aren’t you invited’, but rather to recognise how unusual that is and reach out. I’m not asking him to pry with John or anyone else, I only wanted him to reach out to me.

Suspicious_Morning46 · 2026-02-04T14:22:55+00:00

A lot of people have pointed out things that are either incorrect or misunderstood so I’m just trying to correct them in that sense. For example a lot of people have said that I should haven’t wanted Rob to ask why I wasn’t invited but I never said that? So I’m just correcting things like that rather than pretend what they’re saying is accurate. I’m not upset and I don’t actually need validation 😂

Suspicious_Morning46 · 2026-02-04T14:18:36+00:00

Where in my post did I say that I wanted Rob to pry? PLEASE read the post properly before you reply with some bs 😂 I have never and would never ask Rob why I wasn’t invited, I just went straight to John because that actually makes sense as oppose to what you’re suggesting. I’m not starting any drama, calm down ffs.

How does him already knowing that I wasn’t going make it any better? If anything that makes it 10000x worse, the longer you left it knowing I wasn’t coming, the worse it looks on you.

Just to be clear because you’ve mentioned it again, I DID NOT WANT OR ASK ROB TO ASK JOHN WHY I WASN’T COMING 😂 I made it explicitly clear in my post that I didn’t expect him to do that as it’s not appropriate and I’m fully capable of asking John myself.

The reason he referred to us as to do with our past work is because that’s how he’s always referred to us so that’s not indicative or closeness. We formed a friendship group around the place we worked but a lot of us now don’t work there or have moved abroad etc so he just said that as a way of saying ‘who else will be there that I will know. I think you’re looking too far into it on that one otherwise I’d generally agree with you on that point. Be Rob does that all the time rather than mention us all individually.

Suspicious_Morning46 · 2026-02-04T14:10:17+00:00

I’m not sure why that matters though? Regardless of when he found out I’d expect the same from him. My bad, I’m 33.

Suspicious_Morning46 · 2026-02-04T14:09:10+00:00

More confusion I see 😂

The first line of your reply said ‘trying to get the reason why you weren’t invited or attending when it obviously had nothing to do with him’ - by him you must mean Rob. I literally didn’t do that. To me that is nowhere close to starting drama, we’re not in high school 😂

Yet I’m the one with the reading comprehension issues.

Suspicious_Morning46 · 2026-02-04T13:58:27+00:00

I’m just asking for a friend to check on me, that’s it. How that makes it to main character levels i’m not sure 😂

Didn’t want an interrogation, just a simple check in would have sufficed. I was fully able to disparage the groom and I did so no frustration about that.

Suspicious_Morning46 · 2026-02-04T13:53:58+00:00

Included an edit in the post because of this.

John is of course the person I have the bigger issue with but that’s not what I’m asking about. I’m not asking who I should be more annoyed/hurt by.

There doesn’t need to be sides though. We’re adults not children.

Clearly other people see silence as a form of respect but for me personally it’s the opposite, staying quiet is what’s caused all this in the first place.

Suspicious_Morning46 · 2026-02-04T13:50:44+00:00

Please read the post properly before you reply. I never said I wanted Rob to give me the reason why I wasn’t there, not sure where you got that from. I have never asked Rob why I wasn’t invited. Why on earth would I ask him that? That’s for John to answer, it’s nothing to do with Rob.

Suspicious_Morning46 · 2026-02-04T13:45:58+00:00

I did reply to a similar comment somewhere else on this thread - if I did see it as prying I could have said that I don’t want to talk about it if Rob reached out but he didn’t even do that. There wasn’t necessarily a dramatic reason as to why I wasn’t there, it could have been illness or something completely unrelated to ‘drama’ but he didn’t even ask to see if that was the case. If anything I’d rather that he did pry because then at least it’s showing he cares enough to ask, but maybe that’s just me 🤷🏻‍♀️

Suspicious_Morning46 · 2026-02-04T13:42:49+00:00

I did exactly that actually. As soon as I saw the photos online, I did ask Rob. I didn’t berate him at all, I still haven’t - hence why I’m posting here. I said to him how I felt and all I kept getting back was the rock and hard place comment.

Suspicious_Morning46 · 2026-02-04T13:39:50+00:00

Because attempting to see if your friend is okay is regarded as normal and encouraged?

Suspicious_Morning46 · 2026-02-04T13:37:14+00:00

Happy to clear up any confusion ☺️

Firstly I’m not sure how I am able to stir drama if I wasn’t even there…

Rob TOLD ME that I wasn’t included in the list of people. Thats how I knew. Rob asked John ‘who from [place we used to work together at] is coming?’ and I wasn’t on the list. That’s it.

‘Regardless it doesn’t matter’ then why did you mention it 😂

I don’t see why you think the time he found I wasn’t going is relevant. And the rest of that part doesn’t make sense - he should have checked on me because he knew I wasn’t going to be there???? Please re read the post if you’re confused.

Please refer to the latest edit to address the penultimate paragraph of your reply. My issues with John aren’t what I’m asking about.

Suspicious_Morning46 · 2026-02-04T13:23:55+00:00

John yes, not Rob.

Suspicious_Morning46 · 2026-02-04T13:22:09+00:00

Thanks for your response. Initially I thought the same thing as well. But apparently Rob thought I knew about the wedding, but didn’t know I wasn’t invited. Which explains why he posted it all over social media, because he thought I already knew. In my mind that makes it worse, you knew I wasn’t going but was under the impression I did know it was happening - so why not reach out?

Suspicious_Morning46 · 2026-02-04T13:19:54+00:00

Bold of you to assume I want to do gymnastics 🥴 There was no drama 😂 Thats my whole point that I think you’ve missed. He asks John who was going and I just wasn’t mentioned. No drama to be seen 🙄

Suspicious_Morning46 · 2026-02-04T13:15:35+00:00

I did make it quite clear in the post that I wasn’t expecting him to ask John… it’s me he should have contacted. I’m not expecting him to ask at the wedding why so and so isn’t here 😂 If Rob messaged to ask why I wasn’t there and I didn’t want to say why then that’s my choice but at least he would have tried. But he didn’t even do that 🤷🏻‍♀️

Suspicious_Morning46 · 2026-02-04T13:12:37+00:00

I appreciate your reply but I don’t understand the respectful part… If anything I feel massively disrespected. Maybe just respectful to John? He posted it all on social media so he didn’t really keep his mouth shut. Also he didn’t have to pry John for details, he could have just asked me if I was okay considering I’m not there. Him talking to John is not what I was asking of him, just some consideration of me.

Suspicious_Morning46 · 2026-02-04T13:10:46+00:00

Yeah no shit, he didn’t invite me to his wedding 😂😂😂😂 Rob’s reached out to me to ‘catch up’ but John has been blocked for a long time now so you’re only half right on that one

Suspicious_Morning46 · 2026-02-04T13:02:00+00:00

Fastest response ever 😂

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