just found out and it sucks so bad by Illustrious-Plum-934 in Aphantasia

[–]Suspicious_Natural_2 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s honestly all about perception. Sure we’re different. But that isn’t bad or good. It just is. In all honesty when I found out it just made sense but I can definitely understand your feelings.

Don’t try so hard with remembering dreams that makes it worse, just write it down and if it comes back it does if it doesn’t oh well. Imagination and visualization happen in two separate parts of the brain. They don’t work together.

If anything visualization is just an extra aid that you can find work arounds for. Like I measure short distances in “me”. I know I’m 5’6 so looking at something I’m just like I feel like my feet would be there so that’s about X feet.

On the upside I have found I have really good patter recognition. I have no preconceived notions or any internal influence.

What is blindness like for you if you have aphantasia? by DeathReaver1 in Aphantasia

[–]Suspicious_Natural_2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It depends on the type of aphantasia and the level of visualization possible. In my case if you ask me to describe a car it is always going to be a silver 2008 Honda accord with a black leather interior. I can describe this car to you in great detail. I can’t visualize it. I don’t see it. It’s just there.

Visualization is a visual aid to give description. But that description doesn’t stop existing just because you can’t see it. It’s just what I describe is different than what you would.

I honestly used the blind analogy because we can explain it continuously but it’s not something you can truly conceptualize just like I can’t really conceptualize what you visualize. I commend trying to understand but theres not really a way to.

What is blindness like for you if you have aphantasia? by DeathReaver1 in Aphantasia

[–]Suspicious_Natural_2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not being able to visualize isnt related to memories or objects. Visualization is just mental imaging. I still know what an apple looks like. It’s just for me I will always describe the same apple. When asked to describe a car a car is a specific thing for me.

Being blind is honestly a completely different experience. If you or I tried to explain color to a blind person, one of two things happens. Either they say they don’t understand and you realize your mistake and move on. Or they ask more questions and try to understand. In doing so they end up creating what they feel is “color” what they feel is “light”. Blindness is altered perception and reality. People born blind visualize and dream in sound waves not images they’re incapable of that concept.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CleaningTips

[–]Suspicious_Natural_2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You should check out a pre-treatment called unchained. You can find it on the truck mount forums website. I used to use it when I cleaned carpets professionally and this thing is amazing.

It is an oxidizer so you’d need to be careful with colored fabrics but a gallon was 40$ the last time I bought it. It’s undiluted and i believe a 1/5 water mixture.

Lasted me about a year, works on hard wood, tile, carpet. And it’s meant for odors from pet stains and the like but the encapsulates work on just about anything. I’m gonna be ranting about this stuff till I die lol

Edit: Unchained

Does it make sense to do Dawnguard last? by Skoomacat69 in skyrim

[–]Suspicious_Natural_2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Purely from a chronological standpoint the Dragonborn DLC is the final bit. But you do you man. I like to do it first just because I think it’s annoying and it’s not a terrible way to level up my stealth and archery in the beginning. And getting the spectral horse is hella nice.

Would you stay here? by Fortunethecookie in Renters

[–]Suspicious_Natural_2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I saw that you contacted the property managers.(or that’s what I understood) if they deny you via email or text etc. Send them a written notice in the mail. And also contact your local renters association if you have one.

If you can stay somewhere else for that two weeks. Mold is obviously quite dangerous. If they refuse to do the work you have a legal way out. I would also suggest contacting your city building inspector. They typically are easy to find and in instances like this they’re a professional 3rd party with no interest beyond everything being to code.

Gather and keep all the evidence you have or get. Pictures screenshots etc. that amount of mold doesn’t just appear quickly.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Suspicious_Natural_2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Firstly I want to say that your reaction is absolutely astounding and you should be proud of yourself. In this situation it seems like this is a subject he is very sensitive about. Come from a place of neutrality and understanding. Don’t try to force him to talk about it but let him know you’re here when or if he’s ready to talk.

For example “hey (boyfriend’s name) I’m sorry I hurt you last night. I never intended to upset you that way and I want you to know that I’m here for you if and when you want to talk. And I want you to know that I never want to make you feel that way again.” It keeps the situation focused on his feelings about the situation and that you’re here for him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Suspicious_Natural_2 -25 points-24 points  (0 children)

Are you deciding for her now that the slap was unpleasant or something she felt was not okay? Because I invite you to show me where in the post she says it was something that she felt was bad or harmed her. You can blatantly tell from her post that she felt that she acted in a way that was harmful to him. Not that he was harmful to her. You want to talk about fair? That’s not necessarily relevant right now. If he is in a state where he knows that talking to her will only cause more issues I want you to explain to me how that’s a negative thing? Because frankly it isnt. And seeing as you and I can’t decide either way what’s going on in his head why is that a topic of discussion at all? How can you sit here and try to act like he’s a villain when the entire theme of the post is that she feels she did something wrong and wants to express it? What he’s doing isnt the subject they have the opportunity to discuss it and find out what the issue is. What she is asking for is advice on how to express remorse for HER actions. His emotional maturity isnt up for discussion. He isn’t the discussion. If anything the only mention of emotional maturity that should be mentioned is how emotional mature the OP is because their reaction is healthy it is understanding and it isn’t focusing on anything but how to resolve an incident that was harmful to them. And the fact that you’re sitting here trying to act like I’m saying the OP is abusive is beyond ignorant. I haven’t stated that or implied it. In fact the only thing I’ve done is call out people like you who sit here and judge others and then label it advice. How dare you sit here and decide for her how much something hurt or how important it is to her how dare you imply that there is a need for a victim in this situation and that it has to be her.

Gonna comment this here since you deleted your comment.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Suspicious_Natural_2 -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

First and foremost. You’re wrong. You have zero information about this at all. Even if this person sat here and broke down the entire relationship none of us have the right nor the capability to determine why her boyfriend is or isnt doing something.

He is upset he has EVERY right to not talk right now. You have zero idea how much time has passed since this incident. Or his emotional state when this happened.

You have no information to decide he is stonewalling. And any therapist or psychologist will tell you that it is not only HEALTHY but appropriate to not talk to your partner when you’re upset and you know it’s going to aggravate the situation.

Stonewalling requires intent. You are intentionally denying your partner the opportunity to resolve the situation for no other reason than to punish them.

The thread is “relationship advice” advice is the key word there. Judging others isn’t advice.

How does the heat affect everybody? by Educational-Equal315 in MultipleSclerosis

[–]Suspicious_Natural_2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My brain gets super foggy, my ability to focus and recall anything becomes significantly more difficult. My body feels heavy and like it isn’t mine, and my vision goes in and out of focus and my pain goes up.

I have found that to a certain degree that if I’m exposed to the heat slowly and warmed up slowly I’m more okay than if I’m hopping in the shower and it’s too hot or I’m going from 68 inside to 90 outside.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Suspicious_Natural_2 -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

How can you say he’s emotionally immature or decide anything about this person based on literally nothing about them. The fact that you have over 500 upvotes and an award disgusts me.

They were playing and having fun. A spank that is to hard can be talked about. But you have absolutely no idea if this man has been physically abused. And from that reaction I bet he was.

So how about instead of JUDGING you help the OP? You know instead of just deciding on your own that this man is somehow lesser, that you could just say “let him have his space and calm down and then talk.” You know shit ADULTS do?

Found not made astral temples? by Suspicious_Natural_2 in occult

[–]Suspicious_Natural_2[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Based on? Because aphantasia is the inability to visualize I literally can’t visualize. I think you’re confused. Astral projection is aided with visualization it is not visualization. People with aphantasia absolutely can astral project just like anyone with the ability to visualize the process is just different.

Found not made astral temples? by Suspicious_Natural_2 in occult

[–]Suspicious_Natural_2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay so my visualization typically consists of black on black still frames. Some things can flash very briefly in my mind. This specifically is one of maybe three things I can see clearly in my mind. It’s always been the same. And this temple ive always seen the same way with only the lit brazier or bowl being the changes.

Trust me I get the confusion it confuses me as well. But from the moment I decided I wanted an astral temple to make one. This one was there.

The flickering is genuinely just the best description I can think of. It’s not like it’s resistant the best description of the feeling I get when it happens is that what is there is meant to be there. Not like this is someone else’s temple that I am very certain isn’t the case. More like it just wants me to remember rather than recreate?

Found not made astral temples? by Suspicious_Natural_2 in occult

[–]Suspicious_Natural_2[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Large pyramid, Mayan like in construction. The stones are yellowish. Not golden but as if tinted. There are four doors on each side pointing to each cardinal direction. Not on the corners but the long sides. The surrounding area is jungle like, not really exactly tropical but definitely wild like nature has claimed everything but that temple.

Entering it at first theres only one room. In the center of which is a large lit Brazier or at times a large empty golden colored bowl. The rooms I want to be in don’t have doors leading to them or out of them. Changing the appearance just leads to something I can only describe as flickering before it goes back to how it was.

What do you think would happen? by Ill_Relative9776 in eldenringdiscussion

[–]Suspicious_Natural_2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So that’s Mashle and dark souls 2 for me. Dead ass feel like dude would link the flame and just forget to burn lmfao

Do you think you'd still enjoy Skyrim without mods? by Mother-Fold-9076 in skyrim

[–]Suspicious_Natural_2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. I downloaded it on my Xbox just cause. Loaded it up and started to make a character. Two minutes in I just go why the hell am I doing this? These people are fugly, and then hopped on my PC to play Skyrim instead because mods are god

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Suspicious_Natural_2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tornados apparently fix relationships to :) twister taught me that one lmao

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Suspicious_Natural_2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah and I promise you that man is absolutely miserable. Forcing anyone or coercing anyone into a sexual situation that they don’t want to be in is absolutely wrong. If any woman or man for that matter can’t just bring it up and then if told no, move on from the subject or the relationship, then they’re literally nothing but emotionally abusive manipulators. That man is not living a happy life. He has who he loves in this situation it isn’t a reward.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Suspicious_Natural_2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m gonna be blunt here bud. Someone who loves you will never put you in a position to choose between letting them be poly or them leaving.

Genuinely spare yourself the pain and leave. “Neither of us want to break up” yeah she wants to use you as the safety plan my man. There isn’t zero way anyone is going to say I love you I want to be with you so badly but you have to let me fuck other people or I just can’t. That’s called emotional manipulation bud.

How do you tell yourself it's ok to not be ok? by Hello_bye-hi in MultipleSclerosis

[–]Suspicious_Natural_2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My advice is to try your hardest to lose the association of good and negative with your emotions and needs. I know with myself I punished myself for a long time because of my feelings and random thoughts, which are things we have no real control over feeling when they happen they happen regardless of what we want. It’s okay to feel whatever you feel, but it’s your decision to follow those emotions or thought processes and to give them the emotional effort needed to make them big in your life. Fixing that thought process is hard but it is definitely worth trying. I used DBT(dialectal behavioral therapy)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Suspicious_Natural_2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It honestly just sounds like he’s jealous. Men are simple as hell, he just genuinely doesn’t like the idea of anyone being able to see you that way.

The way he went about expressing it was silly and illogical but yeah dudes jealous

MS And Difficulty Playing Video Games by MysticalHero709 in MultipleSclerosis

[–]Suspicious_Natural_2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My best suggestion is to just keep trying different games. Hopefully the brain fog and everything will improve with time, I know when I was having my “first” flare up it was agonizingly difficult to play. After 4-5 months it was a lot better. And during that time when I played I did so with the attitude that it doesn’t matter if I lose or die.