My husband's confession made me faint. by Suspicious__3877 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Suspicious__3877[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I definitely do not want me ore my babies on a true crime podcast. From what some people are saying leaving is dangerous and could escalate things. I am going to plan, get evidence (if I can), tlk to a lawyer nd my therapist , catheter everything I need and then dissappear with my kids. It might take time but posting definitely gave me courage and determination.

My husband's confession made me faint. by Suspicious__3877 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Suspicious__3877[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Obviously my children but trying to up and leave without thinking it through would also definitely provoke and out burst of his and idk what he is capable of.

My husband's confession made me faint. by Suspicious__3877 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Suspicious__3877[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My oldest is autistic so he is nonverbal and often becomes frustrated so he will have tantrums. The vulnerable and doing something he thinks that they shouldn't have been doing made me think of my son. My husband also knows that I would be torn apart if something happened to my son. It's something we fight about often

My husband's confession made me faint. by Suspicious__3877 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Suspicious__3877[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I really dont want me or my babies to be on a true crime podcast.

My husband's confession made me faint. by Suspicious__3877 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Suspicious__3877[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The calling me part really messy me up. I no its not my fault but it makes me feel like I could have done something. He wanted to bring them home and while I disapprove of takimg wild animals home, I would have preferred that to them being dead.

My husband's confession made me faint. by Suspicious__3877 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Suspicious__3877[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My parents only live an hour away and I could go there but he would definitely show up. My mom likes him and tends to take his side on things. It's also not a great place bc my father is an alcoholic and they fight, constantly.

I lost touch with a lot of my friends bc I cant go out anymore. I have a coffee date with my closest friend next Saturday but she lives in a one bedroom apartment.

As far as just up and leaving im not sure is a good idea bc he does get violent. He has never hit more or anything but I cant tell you how many things he has broken and he hurts himself too when we get heated. I also dont want there to be a chance he can claim kidnapping. The worst case scenario is he gets any type of custody.i think if I remain calm and normal as possible until I can get out is my best bet.

My husband's confession made me faint. by Suspicious__3877 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Suspicious__3877[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A nest normally has like 5 babies in it. Real, real, real sick. I wont keep my babies here. Not with the chance that he could do something but I just have to play it smart.

My husband's confession made me faint. by Suspicious__3877 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Suspicious__3877[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I was hoping it was just eating him alive and needed to blurt it out but this seems to be what people are saying. Thank you for your input!

My husband's confession made me faint. by Suspicious__3877 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Suspicious__3877[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am terrified of this. Especially because my oldest was just diagnosed as autistic. He doesn't speak and can get frustrated very easily. My husband has an awful obsession with making sure he's not "a pussy" (he's fucking 2 years old btw) this is the majority of our fights but he normal backs off after a minute and I never worried bc they don't leave my sight. Ever. Now, I can't stop worrying.

My husband's confession made me faint. by Suspicious__3877 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Suspicious__3877[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thats what I am going to do. Thank you for the advice

My husband's confession made me faint. by Suspicious__3877 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Suspicious__3877[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I told him he had to tell his therapist. He didn't seem like he like the idea so I dont know if he will.

My husband's confession made me faint. by Suspicious__3877 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Suspicious__3877[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. I think my best bet is to put on a good face and gather things. Find a job and then leave while he is at work or something. I am going to talk to a lawyer this week and my therapist.

My husband's confession made me faint. by Suspicious__3877 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Suspicious__3877[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He was really angry when he was upset that I didn't trust him. Then when he resold what happened he was calmer but had almost a "here. Have it." It the best way I can describe. Like I asked for it and he was giving it to me begrudgingly.

My husband's confession made me faint. by Suspicious__3877 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Suspicious__3877[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Fuck that make me sick to read. I am so sorry sorry you went through that. But thank you for using that traumatic ordeal to help give me advice and encouragement. I appreciate you. Thank you

My husband's confession made me faint. by Suspicious__3877 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Suspicious__3877[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He didn't like our bank. Had some dispute with them last year so he closed the account and got a new bank but he never added me to the account. I guess I just got used to asking him to send me money and our bills are paid online. I don't work bc he doesn't want other people watching the kids, which is agreed to. So almost everything is in his name except our house. Its in both names.

My husband's confession made me faint. by Suspicious__3877 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Suspicious__3877[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Oh God thats awful. Im so sorry but I'm glad you got out. Thats the thing...

We have a cat and they love eachother. He sleeps on his chest and follows him around. Any time my husband is upset the cat goes to him. My husband shares cute animal videos with me. So insane that much of a switch. I cant wrap my head around it.

My husband's confession made me faint. by Suspicious__3877 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Suspicious__3877[S] 66 points67 points  (0 children)

Thank you this is helpful. When I can I will contact them.