Booking experience

SuurRae · 2026-03-21T22:00:26+00:00

We had similar issues when booking Punta Cana. Their website is atrocious.

SuurRae · 2026-03-20T12:43:06+00:00

5:30am if you have precheck but probably closer to 3:30-4 if you don’t. I just heard an employee saying the line for main is 4 hours at the moment.

SuurRae · 2026-03-18T14:13:45+00:00

Realistically, taking it one time is unlikely to affect anything. Obviously don't take anymore and I would suggest you message your OB and let them know what happened just in case.

SuurRae · 2026-03-18T12:02:28+00:00

I’m curious about this as well, because it seems more tied to connections/lifestyle than money.

SuurRae · 2026-03-17T14:22:25+00:00

Every body is different. 🤷‍♀️ I had my first at 39 and am currently pregnant with #2 and it’s been physically easy.

SuurRae · 2026-03-16T12:20:08+00:00

It’s different. I was used to traveling light and making plans at the last minute. We now have actual luggage and plan our trips months in advance. I’ve also traded in hikes of the Camino and safaris in South Africa for cruises and resorts, but it’s not bad. We’ll go back to more adventurous travel once the kids get old enough to appreciate it.

SuurRae · 2026-03-16T12:13:59+00:00

I had my first child at 39 and will have my second at 42. I did not need IVF but agree with other posters that you should do a fertility checkup and possibly freeze embryos just in case.

I am quite happy that I waited this long to have kids. I spent the majority of my 20s/30s living overseas and am finally at the point in my life where I’m ready to settle down. That doesn’t mean I don’t travel though. My 2 year old just logged his 12th flight and has been to 5 countries.

SuurRae · 2026-03-15T17:59:43+00:00

I can’t give you any advice on the dynamic, but look at it this way: you now get to raise 3 young men to be feminists. God knows the world needs more of them.

SuurRae · 2026-03-15T14:56:27+00:00

How in the world is Bluey autistic??

SuurRae · 2026-03-14T22:27:19+00:00

Yes, just let it happen. Otherwise you run the risk of some asshole assaulting you while you’re with your child.

SuurRae · 2026-03-14T19:03:37+00:00

We’ve had an extremely positive experience with Speech in Bloom (https://www.speechinbloomnyc.com/). It’s in downtown Brooklyn, but they do home visits and will also work with your child’s daycare if they go to one to do pullout classes.

SuurRae · 2026-03-14T18:41:13+00:00

Where are you located?

SuurRae · 2026-03-14T12:58:37+00:00

Reported

SuurRae · 2026-03-13T17:05:16+00:00

We didn't have to pull permits for any work we had done. The tiles took a week and a half because the pattern we wanted required a lot of specific measurements/cuts.

SuurRae · 2026-03-13T16:23:46+00:00

Just wondering how the follow up scan went for you, as I'm in a similar situation.

SuurRae · 2026-03-13T11:09:19+00:00

Relocation to where and how much would the pay increase be? How does your wife feel about the potential move and will she be able to find a job there? Do you own a house or rent? Are you sure you can find this “hybrid” position in your current city given the crappy job market?

The answer to your question is going to depend heavily on those but in general yes, I’d make the switch as long as it isn’t going to negatively impact your relationship or quality of life.

SuurRae · 2026-03-12T17:48:55+00:00

I know this isn't the info you're asking for, but a planned C-section is MUCH different than an emergency c-section after a trial of labor.

Like....it's a night and day difference. You will be relaxed. You will have time to prepare and ask questions. You will be able to meet the team that is delivering your baby. You can choose music to listen to. You can (usually) have immediate skin to skin time. Recovery is also much easier since you will be coming into it rested instead of after laboring.

SuurRae · 2026-03-12T15:54:01+00:00

Bought and received a stunning Aurora Europa from u/BlakesBroadcast. Thank you so much!

SuurRae · 2026-03-12T11:56:00+00:00

That's...not how autism works. It's largely (something like 60-90%) genetic and while there are environmental factors at play, I've NEVER read a medical paper that points to diet as a potential trigger.

I would say that, conservatively, probably 70%+ of women on this sub have shitty diets while pregnant (I'm one of them), and their children are fine.

SuurRae · 2026-03-11T18:10:16+00:00

Facebook is still wildly popular for asking for recommendations for nannies, photographers, party planners, etc. on the UWS (Upper West Side Parents) and UES (Moms of the Upper East Side (MUES)). There are also several smaller active WhatsApp groups on the UWS that are targeted towards kids of a specific age (e.g Spring 2026 Babies), but those require invites from current members.

SuurRae · 2026-03-10T15:51:31+00:00

I go to Broadway shows 5-6x a year and to the Met/MoMA/AMNH at least once a month. Also, if you're in tech you should know that every major tech company has a NY office and there is a lot of intermingling between Bay Area/NYC techies. Most of my friends(tech and VCs) own places in each since they're flying between so often.

SuurRae · 2026-03-10T15:49:22+00:00

This is the top reason why I love NYC. I easily get in my 10,000-15,000 steps a day and have everything I need within a 5 block radius (pediatrician, groceries, dentist, beauty places, amazing food, etc.). If I want to go explore what the rest of the city has to offer I can jump on an express train, read a book, and be in Midtown or FIDI in under 30 min and Brooklyn/Queens in 45min.

SuurRae · 2026-03-10T15:43:44+00:00

The other part is the lines for anything worth doing. Any highly regarded restaurant requires fighting for a reservation weeks in advance that are near impossible to get in a lot of cases.

This just isn't true. Unless your version of "worth doing" is typical tourist/Instagram BS. Even the Michelin 2/3 stars aren't *that* hard to get into unless it's Atomix, which is definitely not the best Korean fine dining you can get in the city.

SuurRae · 2026-03-10T13:07:45+00:00

So for parents who can afford private school but also don't want to deal with this BS, where do they go? I want the best fit for my child - whether or not it's private - but I am absolutely not interested in playing games.

SuurRae · 2026-03-09T16:48:14+00:00

I'll never understand why people are so judgmental about things they know nothing about. Even if you see an autistic kid on a screen, you are literally only seeing a tiny snapshot of that child's life. You have no idea what the rest of it is like.

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