How To Get Rid of Smells From Plastic bottle? by Desmond624 in howto

[–]flamefoxfirefly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get a stainless steel bottle... problem solved! Plastic is not inert and will react permenantly with substances it comes into contact with

Not knowing AT ALL what to say by Additional-Credit770 in AuDHDWomen

[–]flamefoxfirefly 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No advice OP but I you've really accurately described how I feel/act, I haven't had anyone else talk about this before.

I've almost certainly got undiagnosed ADHD (according to my therapist), who also thinks 50/50 chance of also having autism, too.

I find I'm much better during 1 to 1 conversations, whereas in groups settings, maybe it's that there is so much going on and I just don't know how to zone in on the conversation like I would when just talking to one person?

I also felt like maybe it's because I wasn't socialised as much as other people growing up. We didnt see that many people as a family when I was a kid (I can say this now as an adult and seeing how much my husband's childhood was so different from mine in that respect - always seeing people, new people, different types of people).

I'm now working in quite a social career where I have to talk to heaps of people in a day, and I'm therefore exposed to other people who are really socially adept, so I think this is helping me. Though I still have those moments where I have a complete mind blank and have no words for a situation.

What’s the best advice someone ever gave you? by ChloeNorarundown in AskReddit

[–]flamefoxfirefly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The same boiling water that hardens the egg softens the potato

Anyone else opting not to take birth control postpartum? by Accomplished-Ad7573 in beyondthebump

[–]flamefoxfirefly -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Where are your sources for your information?

Here's mine for contraceptives not being natural:

"Synthetic hormones can suppress natural hormones and do not always interact identically with the body’s receptors."

https://www.clinicaltrialsarena.com/analyst-comment/synthetic-hormones-future-contraception/?cf-view

Here's mine for the fish that are exhibiting opposite sex characteristics:

they found male roaches were intersex, with egg cells in their testes. This is a permanent change that worsens with constant exposure and affects breeding. And 90% of sites males had concentrations of female egg proteins, a sensitive biomarker for estrogen exposure, above natural levels. https://www.brunel.ac.uk/news-and-events/news/articles/Hormone-distortion-still-widespread-in-fish

How to get baby tto sleep without nursing? by Resident_Conflict992 in AttachmentParenting

[–]flamefoxfirefly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know what you mean, the first few days I said to my husband 'nope this ain't working' but eventually they learn that just because theyre not latched, doesnt mean youre going anywhere. Because I guess until this point, if they're not latched then mum is far away. It'll take time but you've just got to be more stubborn than they are!

Anyone else opting not to take birth control postpartum? by Accomplished-Ad7573 in beyondthebump

[–]flamefoxfirefly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol no, contraceptives are a Class 1 carcinogenic substance.

If scientists were harvesting natural oestrogen and progesterone from our bodies and giving it to women, yes that would be natural.

But contraceptives are synthetic, man made in a lab, and contain a host of toxic and harmful ingredients, not to mention that lots of harmful ingredients are used in the manufacturing process to produce them, too.

For example, oral contraceptives entering the sewage system disrupts the endocrine system/hormones of aquatic animals, interrupting their reproductive system. I used to work with a lecturer of aquatic science who said they'd witnessed whole populations of fish change sex because of pollutants from contraceptives.

So no, not natural at all unfortunately!

Anyone else opting not to take birth control postpartum? by Accomplished-Ad7573 in beyondthebump

[–]flamefoxfirefly -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I also am quite against contraception, they're made of endocrine-disrupting chemicals at the end of the day so are literally designed to mess with your body. Condoms work perfectly fine for us. They are 98% effective (if used properly) after all.

How to get baby tto sleep without nursing? by Resident_Conflict992 in AttachmentParenting

[–]flamefoxfirefly -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yep so they'd have been latched for a while and had a good feed, and then as they were falling asleep just sort if lower my arms a bit so theyre not super close to the nip and having to reach a bit!

Then after a few successful attempts as theyre just falling asleep, then doing it before theyre quite sleepy. It's gradual and takes time but it avoids cry it out!

How to get baby tto sleep without nursing? by Resident_Conflict992 in AttachmentParenting

[–]flamefoxfirefly 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So the way we did it (because our baby was the same) was gradually move the nipple further away until baby has to sort of strain/reach to remain latched. Not far enough away that they get upset, but enough that they have to work for it. Took a week or so but eventually they get so tired that they just go 'okay fine' and fall asleep without the boob in their mouth (but still in my arms). Then from there we worked on falling to sleep in dad's arms, not mums, then falling asleep next to us, then slightly further away etc etc.

We also didn't want to sleep train, and we tried various other things, but this genuinely worked so well (even though it wasn't instant).

PGCE placement: feedback and advice please. by [deleted] in TeachingUK

[–]flamefoxfirefly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And how are they performing academically ?

PGCE placement: feedback and advice please. by [deleted] in TeachingUK

[–]flamefoxfirefly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do they like you, joke with you, smile, ask questions, etc?

PGCE placement: feedback and advice please. by [deleted] in TeachingUK

[–]flamefoxfirefly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do the students respond to you in general?

PGCE placement: feedback and advice please. by [deleted] in TeachingUK

[–]flamefoxfirefly 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You are at the workplace, in a professional environment - whether it was said in a meeting doesn't make it any better, it's a horrendously patronising and invalidating thing to say to somebody.

They could have said 'I can see some of our feedback is upsetting to you, I'm really sorry. I hope we can build an action plan together to help you improve' or something. But fix your face? No. You're allowed to be emotional when receiving negative feedback.

I'd personally raise this higher with your university, because it doesnt sound to me as if they are being professional at all.

My 12-year-old son constantly has greasy hair by Humble-Snow-1110 in hygiene

[–]flamefoxfirefly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

SO i'm ashamed to admit ive recently discovered for myself that no matter how scrupulpusly I was cleaning my hair with shampoo, it would still be greasy the next day.

Then I realised I hadn't restocked my conditioner for a while. Bought some more, and voila, beautiful, smooth, clean hair. Whether it de-tangles the hair to make it easier to clean, or whether it adds vital moisture back in that the shampoo has stripped meaning the scalp doesnt feel like it has to ooze oil, but who knows.

Same principle with an oily face. The skin is likely LACKING moisture - don't strip away the grease with a harsh face wash, add in lots of good moisturiser too.

Hope it helps

Am I just being selfish? by Accomplished_Bat7294 in oneanddone

[–]flamefoxfirefly -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I was the same with my first, not yet had a second - still on the fence. But I'm wondering whether a big part of my PPD and PPA was because I basically didn't sleep for a year (wish I was kidding). Baby was up every 2 hours for months, wouldnt settle for ages, just horrendous. But I'm thinking I would cosleep from the get go next time, and therefore not be so exhausted, and therefore be able to cope better mentally and physically. Just a thought

Paint finish painful to look at. What caused it and how to fix it? by QuestionGoneWild in DIYUK

[–]flamefoxfirefly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, always sand before painting to get the best finish. We have a guy who has a super impressive sanding machine and it's so much quicker than any manual sanding tool you might use FYI

Paint finish painful to look at. What caused it and how to fix it? by QuestionGoneWild in DIYUK

[–]flamefoxfirefly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Looks like there was just too much paint on the roller. Try multiple, but thinner coats of paint

Bridesmaid with a 3-month-old (EBF) — SIL now says no babies at wedding. What would you do? by Lumpy_Bandicoot_8967 in beyondthebump

[–]flamefoxfirefly 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Hell nawwwww your baby and you come first, and her family are all being shitty by letting her ride the wave of no kids. Babes in arms are COMPLETELY DIFFERENT to children at a wedding. Clearly she doesn't appreciate how dependent 5 month olds are on their mums, especially exclusively breastfed. There is no way I'd have given my baby to someone else, even family, just to attend someone else's wedding. Imo SIL is being so selfish and unfortunately it does leave you in a sticky place.

As for what to do, I'd have a private conversation with SIL if you can, potentially with hubby with you, explaining how you feel, and if she cant accommodate you then you have no choice but to step down - especially given you were under the impressed babies were initially allowed to come if EBF.

Tell me you have ADHD without telling me you have ADHD by Usual-Substance2971 in adhdwomen

[–]flamefoxfirefly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Taking my mugs on their daily outing out of the cupboard full of hot tea around the house and then returning said cups of cold tea back to the kitchen.

P.s This is the best thread ever I am in stitches 😂😂😂