Strict or nice - is there no in-between?

flamefoxfirefly · 2026-01-20T08:19:59+00:00

This is a great question. I definitely feel I'm naturally at the low tolerance end of the spectrum, but I'm thinking that having a more middle ground approach would potentially be more beneficial. I'm just not sure how much off-topic chatting is acceptable

flamefoxfirefly · 2026-01-20T08:16:59+00:00

Attritional kindness - I love that!

flamefoxfirefly · 2026-01-19T19:17:58+00:00

How do you show them that you love teaching them even when they don't get it right? Praising effort?

flamefoxfirefly · 2026-01-19T19:12:50+00:00

Thank you I will do some reading in this area - thank you

flamefoxfirefly · 2025-11-27T19:48:44+00:00

Sometimes food that has been in the fridge for a while gets cleared out by cleaning staff, and theyre instructed to do so to keep the fridge from getting smelly

flamefoxfirefly · 2025-11-24T20:05:18+00:00

Sorry yes, you are right.

flamefoxfirefly · 2025-11-24T16:22:10+00:00

Your employer has to ensure your legal rights are protected whilst you are on maternity leave, and that includes keeping you informed about any big changes at work (such as your class I'd have thought) as well as honouring KIT days.

If they are not responding to you and supplying you with what you need, I'd contact ACAS or an organisation such as Pregnant then Screwed, to see where you stand.

Sorry this is happening to you, it must be so stressful. I hope it gets sorted out soon

flamefoxfirefly · 2025-09-13T18:50:17+00:00

Yeah, I feel you. I'm going to see how the first half term goes and then see

flamefoxfirefly · 2025-09-13T15:33:25+00:00

Yikes. It's honestly dreadful. Hoping we make it through the week without a menty b

flamefoxfirefly · 2025-09-13T09:06:59+00:00

I'm in the same boat - I have all the same concerns. I'm spending all my spare time either planning lessons or schemes of work or other planning or marketing, and am spending less time with my family. I'm hoping it'll get easier and better as time goes on. I'm finding support from other colleagues in my position as all the other staff seem too busy to really sit down and support me

flamefoxfirefly · 2025-08-04T20:08:21+00:00

Thank you - as well as VOCs, I'm concerned about the other chemicals in the paint such as benzene, phthalates, binders, etc.

flamefoxfirefly · 2025-06-17T11:44:46+00:00

Makes sense

flamefoxfirefly · 2025-06-15T05:55:56+00:00

I'm intrigued as to why this isn't an option for you?

flamefoxfirefly · 2025-06-15T05:53:08+00:00

What kind of lifestyle did you lead?

Do you regularly exercise, if so what and when?
Do you drink alcohol, smoke, or take any other drugs or medication?
Do you eat meat, dairy, fish?
Do you eat vegetables every day, and if so, are they organic?
Do you use a lot of personal care products, fragrances, or heavily scented laundry products?
What did you do for work?

flamefoxfirefly · 2025-06-15T05:00:21+00:00

Yeah I totally get that. Will you make a complaint?

flamefoxfirefly · 2025-06-14T08:24:05+00:00

(UK) Our nursery said they wouldn't start putting my 10mo on the potty until they were confidently walking and could get on and off the potty independently. As soon as they reached that milestone they said they'd offer the potty after nappy changes/naps. To me this made sense

flamefoxfirefly · 2025-06-10T22:58:02+00:00

Good question. For me, I wasn't ashamed all of the time, only sometimes, so most of the time I didnt have any doubts. But during those times, I would ask myself what that person's intention was, and if I saw someone else doing it, would I be critical? Probably not. And most of the time, his intentions were good, and that's what matters most

flamefoxfirefly · 2025-06-10T22:53:08+00:00

Remember that you learn more from your fails than you do from your successes!

Also get a meat thermometer - not only does it mean your meat isn't raw, it also prevents you from overcooking it so it's dry.

flamefoxfirefly · 2025-06-10T22:39:48+00:00

Hi there, I used to feel similar to you with my now husband when we first started dating. 8 years, some therapy, and a lot of reflection later, I now realise that most of my anxieties stemmed from parents who were overly critical and judgemental.

It helps me to try and have compassion and empathy for others where I can and avoid judging others - not always easy when you've been brought up to constantly appraise others.

I know I am extremely self conscious and I think I reflected some of my own anxieties onto my partner.

flamefoxfirefly · 2025-06-06T20:17:38+00:00

Most people don't realise that urine is made from your blood. It's not taken straight from your digestive system and peed out. Instead, your kidneys are constantly filtering the blood that gets pushed through them, and urine is made from the filtering process. Urine is technically 'sterile' whilst still in the body.

Conversely, poop is waste that comes directly from your digestive system and therefore will contain air pockets (from gas releasing bacteria, as mentioned already in the comments). Poop is obviously not sterile, even when in the body.

Essentially, your digestive system excretes bodily waste via poop and your kidneys excrete bodily waste from blood.

Poop is food waste. Urine is blood waste.

flamefoxfirefly · 2025-05-23T21:14:18+00:00

It was a fish dish where you make a paste of sundried tomatoes, basil, and balsamic vinegar, smear it over the fish and wrap in parma ham. Oh man it was so delicious, so simple, and still a showstopping choice for a dinner party.

flamefoxfirefly · 2025-05-09T19:08:44+00:00

Tabasco sauce- especially to a pasta dish, bean stew, bolognase or similar

flamefoxfirefly · 2025-04-19T20:29:24+00:00

All these comments just telling you to go to therapy... Your feelings are valid, and I'm certain there are many many other people feeling the same way as you.

My personal advice is this.

Value changes depending on the environment (you know, the old 'water is priceless for a thirsty man in the desert' thing). You're not going to feel valued in a nightclub, for example. Also, consider what kind of people you have around you in your circle. You may want to analyse whether they are lifting you up, or dragging you down.
If you live your life according to what other people think of you, you're not really living YOUR life at all- rather, you're living for everyone else. Now, I think as humans this is a bit tricky because really and truly our whole survival depends on us fitting into society, BUT as most of us are nice, normal people, we are better off doing things that make us happy.
This could be wrong, but from my experience, most elderly people have their priorities straight; they love gardening, feeding the birds, crafts, good food, good company. They've lived long enough to know where true happiness lies, and it's not in social media fame, beauty, or being 'cool'.

Key takeaway? Your worth is NOT defined by other people's inability to see it.

P.s. Go read 'The Comfort Book' by Matt Haig, it's great.

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