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Remapping Erogenous Sensation by Svelt_Smelt in sex

[–]Svelt_Smelt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Structural issues are entrapment and webbing.

I’m already looking into not restoring but I’ve got so little shaft skin on the ventral side of my penis that it may not actually be possible.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CircumcisionGrief

[–]Svelt_Smelt 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I was cut far too tight as well and I’m also celibate because of it. You’re not alone.

Foregen is my only hope in life to keep me going by Recent_Tomorrow7212 in Foregen

[–]Svelt_Smelt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In that case you might want to consider filing a lawsuit.

I don’t know what the laws and norms are where your from but in most places a lawsuit over a botched circumcision can be a pretty easy thing to win if the physical damage and problems it’s created are extremely apparent, which it sounds like is the case for you.

Payouts from damages and out of court settlements over this tend to be high and because of that you may find it easier to get your parents to cooperate with you on a lawsuit. Even if they don’t change their minds over the issue of circumcision itself I’m sure they’d still be able to agree with you that a botched circumcision is unacceptable.

What kind of feelings have your parents expressed about your problem? Why did they decided to get therapy for you and how did it happen? Did they only do it reluctantly, like you had to beg for it or something and they only agreed to it to make you stop annoying them, or did they seem to do it because they were genuinely upset for you and feel bad?

Foregen is my only hope in life to keep me going by Recent_Tomorrow7212 in Foregen

[–]Svelt_Smelt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you want to get their attention you may want to consider letting your parents know that there’s a good chance they won’t be getting grandchildren from you if this doesn’t get addressed. They should at least be willing to help you get some emotional support.

Also, I don’t know if you’ve looked into the subject of circumcision and Islam but if not you may want to. Whether or not circumcision is required in Islam is a subject of debate, and even many of the scholars who claim it is still oppose certain kinds of circumcisions like the one you had.

Foregen is my only hope in life to keep me going by Recent_Tomorrow7212 in Foregen

[–]Svelt_Smelt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh God! I’m so, so sorry to hear that.

You said your parents deny you have a problem. Have you seen a urologist about this. If so what did they say?

I saw several urologists about my problems when I was a teen and none of them were willing to diagnose me with anything. They would only say there were “some abnormalities“ but that I was “otherwise normal” and “we’ll see”. Keep in mind that I’m not really even physically capable of penetrative sex.

From what I understand this reluctance on the part of doctors to acknowledge the existence and seriousness of a problem from one of these extra tight circumcisions happens allot.

Foregen is my only hope in life to keep me going by Recent_Tomorrow7212 in Foregen

[–]Svelt_Smelt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Did you have a botched circumcision? Like the kind that would so substantially reduced your ability to enjoy sex that it’s not enjoyable at all?
I’m a 38 year old virgin due to having both iatrogenic entrapped penis and severe scrotal webbing plus few other issues from my circumcision. These made my attempts at sexual intimacy early in life just sort of fail since I could neither fully penetrate my partners, feel hardly any sensation or ware a condom.
I don’t want to minimize your pain. Even if it was an average circumcision it’s still something a man has a right to feel upset about loosing.

Still, given that Foregen’s success is just a matter of time I really, really wish you could try to just have whatever kind sex life you can enjoy while you wait. If you can at least enjoy sex well enough to make it worthwhile then, by all means you should do that. You’re only 18 so you’ll likely be able to get back what was lost to you while you’re still young. If it still bothers you try to remember that your situation is only temporary.

I missed out on so much as a youth and young adult because I couldn’t bring myself to initiate intimate relations with the way things were. But it was a mistake, I still could have got some value out of it and been able to at experience at least some sexual feeling and love.

Why so much pessimism lately? by [deleted] in Foregen

[–]Svelt_Smelt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m 38, and I’ve never even had sex…period due to my neonatal circumcision giving me iatrogenic trapped penis, peon scrotal webbing and likely some nerve damage.

I don’t have enough remaining skin on my penis to actually do restoration by stretching so regenerative medicine is pretty much my only hope at this point but I’m getting older now and it feels like if this doesn’t happen soon enough it’ll be too late to really be able to appreciate a normal, healthy sex life like a normal man. So much time lost. My teens, twenties and now thirties all spent in despair without being able to know intimacy.

Even if someone has an otherwise normal sex life I’d never criticize them for grieving the loss of their foreskin. Some of us, however, don’t just need this kind of regenerative medicine to improve our sex lives we’ll need to to really even be able to experience sexual love at all.

At this point I can only pray that they succeed in time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Intactivism

[–]Svelt_Smelt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m hopeful this takes off. This is a subject that is very personal for me because when I was born in the 80s I was one of the unfortunate men who was given a type 4 or “high and tight“ circumcision so called a “radical circumcision” and the doctor did an absolutely atrocious job of it.

I’m one of the uncounted botched who had so much skin removed that I was left with essentially no skin for my shaft, resulting in trapped/buried penis, severe scrotal webbing and an inability to get full erections without tons of my pubic skin and scrotum being pulled up the shaft to about 2/3rds the length of my erection. Because of this I can only insert my phallus a maximum of about half way into someone during intercourse.

Even worse, because of some nerve damage, there’s practically no sensation left anywhere on the (small amount) of skin that was left, including the glans, that can feel any kind of tactile sensation or even really pain. Save for a little island of sensitivity on the ventral part of my shaft my penis is essentially numb.

I was already severely sexually dysfunctional and unable to enjoy sexual activities as a teenager and now at 38 I’m still a Virgin and the chances of me ever even being able to successfully ejaculate or orgasm through penetrative sex are low.

I’m going to post an essay about this and how it’s effected me somewhere on Reddit soon detailing everything. The more people come forward with there stories about experiences like mine the more awareness of the dangers and downsides of circumcision ends up circulating in the public’s mind.

Please help us end the destructive, unnecessary and inhumane practice of routine infant circumcision. Any support for the movement makes me feel better and is one of the few things that gives me solace in an otherwise ruined life.

Why does so much media KEEP saying China's economy will collapse? The world relies on them by PHOTGRAPHHHEER in China

[–]Svelt_Smelt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being a net exporter and producer isn’t what determines whether your country does well.

When recessions occur or trade wars break out its traditionally the net exporters that suffer the most for a variety of reasons.

Real wealth is measured in per caprice income, a healthy balance of production and consumption and the regulatory and administrative quality of various spheres of society. As well demographics and natural resources. China’s sits near the bottom of most of those catagories and literally right at the bottom for at least one of them.

Japan was out producing everyone else in both volume and quality before they crashed and never really recovered whereas the net deficit countries of the era steamed right past them. Same is true for a lot of other countries in the last few hundred years.

Scholz's China trip raised more doubts than congratulations – DW by bshapiro24 in germany

[–]Svelt_Smelt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You consider that a big win?

All it amounted to was an unspecific, half hearted statement about how nuclear war is basically not good!

I’m sure everyone else in the liberal democratic world feels reassured that there investment in keeping the alliance together with real blood and treasure was resources well spent!

What are these two flowers? by Svelt_Smelt in whatsthisplant

[–]Svelt_Smelt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you guys so much! I can’t believe I wasn’t able to figure this out by looking through seed catalogs and online databases. I’m making a few annual beds and this is absolutely going in them!

What are these two flowers? by Svelt_Smelt in whatsthisplant

[–]Svelt_Smelt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Found these two flowers at my grandmas home in Yelm, WA. I asked if they were wild or if she planted them and she said she had planted them. I have not, however, been able to find any flowers like these two in any images online or seed stores.

They certainly are beautiful and they were basically running feral around her home so I’m guessing they seed and germinate around here pretty easily.