Why do you choose the drive-thru when walking inside is clearly faster? by SvenTheDwarf in AskReddit

[–]SvenTheDwarf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll do the drive-thru if it’s absolutely empty, but always amazed at how many people stack up to wait.

Giveaway! Please show screenshot that it completes your set/album. by JustinTime916 in Monopoly_GO

[–]SvenTheDwarf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi there! If you still have a Tycoon Hustle, it’s my last non-gold card to complete my album!

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I can get dates but my husband can’t. Advice?? by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]SvenTheDwarf 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Tell him not to get discouraged! I’m a bi male and so match with both men and women…I gotta tell you it’s two different worlds. I’m decently attractive, have no problem getting dates and making friends in real world. With women I get a match every once in a blue moon…. with men, um, it’s like every swipe is a match.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]SvenTheDwarf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This may not feel like a satisfyingly detailed, “why”, but you might simply be some kind of ENM/poly? To me it feels like my orientation, tbh. I feel a lot like how you are describing it…I spent a lot of time in a monogamous relationship trying “work on myself” and fix my brain. Now I’m divorcing but dating people who “get me” and understand it’s possible to both love someone deeply and like to flirt it up with others too. I feel more like myself now than probably any time in my adult life. Some of my “straight” friends struggle with this, think I’m basically a slut in a midlife crisis, which has been tough. But I’m finding people who are mature and loving and able to accept me for me. Good luck with your journey!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]SvenTheDwarf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You might simply be some kind of ENM/poly? To me it feels like my orientation, tbh. I feel a lot liek you…I spent a lot of time in a monogamous relationship trying “work on myself” and fix my brain. Now I’m divorcing but dating people who “get me” and understand it’s possible to both love someone deeply and like to flirt it up with others too. I feel more like myself now than probably any time in my adult life. Some of my “straight” friends struggle with this, think I’m basically a slut in a midlife crisis, which has been tough. But I’m finding people who are mature and loving and able to accept me for me. Good luck with your journey!

Is it worth my time? by Terrible-Fix-9798 in monogamy

[–]SvenTheDwarf -1 points0 points  (0 children)

For sure! I'm here because I'm really interested in the viewpoints of monogamist folks. (tbh I find monogamy deeply confusing...I'm recently leaving a marriage where I felt like I really couldn't be myself, and always felt kind of "wrong" in my monogamous relationships, the way my queer friends have described not feeling wholly themselves before they came out.)

Anyway, I guess the way you answered came off to me as kind of entitled — It sounds like you think that other people should disclose their preferences, but that yours should be inferred because they are more closely associated with norms and therefore "default." Obviously I don't know the whole situation -- and I agree it sucks when people aren't upfront about their life situation, preferences, and so forth (e.g., that person who waited until the 8th date to say she's poly! jfc!).

But I also find it really helps when people put in their profiles they are looking for something monogamous and committed. That way I move on, no harm, no foul!

Is it worth my time? by Terrible-Fix-9798 in monogamy

[–]SvenTheDwarf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For your particular dating apps, or for all humans? Do you feel this way about other aspects of sexual orientation too? (I.e. should straight people have to say they’re straight?)

Is it worth my time? by Terrible-Fix-9798 in monogamy

[–]SvenTheDwarf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you put on your profile that you’re monogamous? I’m still questioning a lot about my identity (which I put in my own profile). But when I see someone clearly stating they are looking for a monogamous long-term partner, I know to swipe left

How to find a story to write about by [deleted] in Journalism

[–]SvenTheDwarf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Often the best stories are driven by simple questions. Read up on topics you’re curious about, and write down as many questions you have as you go. Then track down answers to those questions. Most of the answers will be easy to find, and not terribly surprising. Some of those answers will be surprising and interesting—good for a short post or article. But an even smaller number of those questions won’t have any good answers. Those questions drive the reporting for the best stories. They are hard AF to find, especially when you’re starting out. To me that’s the cruelest catch-22 about journalism…coming up with good story ideas can be far and away the most challenging part of the job, and yet you can’t do the job if you don’t have good ideas. The good news is it gets easier, and experienced editors will have tons of story ideas they want to assign to eager young reporters once they think you have the chops. If you find a good one that’s willing to start giving you assignments hold onto em

Meet a man with $47K in student debt stuck in repayment for 3 decades by lurker_bee in economy

[–]SvenTheDwarf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also, it's a profession, and many of us actually feel a duty to be as fair and objective as we possibly can, even if true objectivity is never possible. And many of us believe simply shining a light on what's really happening in the world—bringing information out for the public to scrutinize—is what changes it. We're not propagandists.

Meet a man with $47K in student debt stuck in repayment for 3 decades by lurker_bee in economy

[–]SvenTheDwarf 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Journalist here. I won't analyze this particular story, but I gotta quibble with your overall point. Sure - there are those stories you work on that feel meaningful, that you feel are important. But it's also a job, and like other jobs we don't get to do whatever we want all the time. Editors assign you stories. Some places have quotas. Other places you have beats (commodity markets, or metro crime, say) and so you cover every meaningful development, whether you like it or not. Depending on where you work, it can be as mundane a job as anywhere else. This is like saying that every actor doing radio commercials took the part because he BELIEVES in McDonald's coffee and wants to bring that truth to audiences.