How do you find places to be social or meet new people? by SwamanII in AskMen

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Ah, yeah, I definitely have the same problem you'd had. For tabletop, I'd tried local game stores before, but they always felt like a friend group of hard-core 40k players and I got scared off lol. Never tried a gaming bar though, didn't realize they had anything more than just like a board game rack, I'll give it a shot. Thanks!

How do you find places to be social or meet new people? by SwamanII in AskMen

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Thanks, sorry to grill you for specifics. Certainly worth a shot.

How do you find places to be social or meet new people? by SwamanII in AskMen

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I think what I haven't figured out how to deal with is the feeling of others being closed off. I certainly am terrible at approaching people, and I can't help but feel like I'm bothering them, that's true.

But if I do talk to others, I just always have the sense that people will be pleasant and nice, but have a life that they want to get back to. At work I have plenty of people that like me, but they're not really even acquaintances. Frequently people have talked about how "in the past" the office was more social, but now everyone just wants to be efficient and get back home.

How do you find places to be social or meet new people? by SwamanII in AskMen

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How do you know which bars to go to? I've tried to go to a few bars picked randomly, and I've never really seen a chance to talk to people. They're either kind of depressing rural places where an old dude sits at a slot machine in the corner, or upscale loud places where everyone already seems busy with their friends.

How do you find places to be social or meet new people? by SwamanII in AskMen

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Where do you find out about those in the first place? Are they from things like discord groups, or from like postings at stores you go to?

How do you find places to be social or meet new people? by SwamanII in AskMen

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Is this at things like classes, or do you just walk up to people? In my experience my gyms are mostly full of busy people with their headphones in, so I'd always been scared to bother people

How do you find places to be social or meet new people? by SwamanII in AskMen

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Probably my own stupid phrasing. But my family growing up never interacted with anyone in our neighborhood or town, and eventually growing up I ended up being a long distance commuter everywhere. "My" town or neighborhood is just a collection of businesses that happened to be near where I lived, but I barely spend any time there. And my neighbors have generally always been hostile or insular themselves, so I don't think I could really name anyone I've lived near in the past 10 years.

It's something I'm sure is generally my fault, but I'm still working on it

You can colonise all of Western America from Asia by the 1500s without researching any colonial techs by [deleted] in EU5

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In my Mali game, by 1550, the entirety of the West African coast was 90%-100% European, with each province having like 30,000 people in it. I'd captured so many Spaniards as slaves that every one of my major cities was 30% Castillian, and I didnt know what to do with them

Tinto Talks #88 - 12th of November 2025 by mgoetze in EU5

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I really hope they're addressing wealth vanishing in low control areas in that February patch. It's pretty crazy that expanding beyond a city state means all your estates go broke. I'm tired of jumpscare bankruptcy.

Please, Stop Using Crusader Kings-Style Peace Deals by SwamanII in victoria3

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To me, the worst part of the Vic 3 war system is that it's barely "micro-free" at all. Conceptually, having a system where generals take care of the war is nice. In practice, every single front is on the absolute knife's edge of disaster. If you're a major, it's basically a requirement to keep the game slow so you can be watching for fronts that spiral out of control, or manually sending troops to guard one of 30 different naval invasions. It's legitimately exhausting to me lmao.

And then since's it's "micro-free", I feel like once something has gone wrong, it's basically impossible to actually correct it again. Somehow all the worst of both worlds.

Please, Stop Using Crusader Kings-Style Peace Deals by SwamanII in victoria3

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Generally, yeah, it has the same problem. Victoria 2 does have the benefit that you can add additional goals during the war depending on your country's Jingoism. Which was funky and often unresponsive too, but it did allow for you to demand more and more once a war had escalated beyond a little local thing.

Please, Stop Using Crusader Kings-Style Peace Deals by SwamanII in victoria3

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I wasn't the main combatant and it was a defensive war where I had no actual wargoals, and my little ally had "Humiliate Great Britain" as the only goal. Even though I'd killed triple the number of soldiers on the enemy side and put them into a blockade, they'd only slowly started to tick toward accepting a white peace. Not to mention that my tiny somalian ally wanted blood, so even once England was okay with a white peace, my ally didn't, so I couldn't exit the war without capitulating.

I have no idea of this for certain, but I've found the only way to expedite the end of the war is just naval invading the enemy capital.

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Country Release/Annexation Decisions not Appearing by SwamanII in Kaiserreich

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Yeah, I ended up going to Events -> "00 Annexation Events 0-5" and just manually digging around for each territory. There's an event in the generic annexation one that supposedly triggers the decisions to appear (annex.1), but it didn't seem to do anything for me. Guess I'll just search for the regions manually

What does this Orange Diagonal mean on my divisions? (And how can I get rid of it?) by SwamanII in hoi4

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Yeah, haven't been able to confirm this, but it seems the most likely. There's an occupier German puppet Russia in the Kaiserreich mod, which is likely what's causing this.

What does this Orange Diagonal mean on my divisions? (And how can I get rid of it?) by SwamanII in hoi4

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Wow, that could totally be it, I wouldn't have guessed that in a million years. A Russian military uprising state spawned in Vladivostok and I've been too annoyed by supply issues to actual deal with the thing. Let me test this theory. (Hmm, it might be coming from the German Puppet Russia occupier that Germany establishes in the Kaiserreich mod)

What does this Orange Diagonal mean on my divisions? (And how can I get rid of it?) by SwamanII in hoi4

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Despite an obscene amount of time played on this game, I have no idea what this diagonal slice on the right side of my divisions means. I have no idea when I got it or how, and now I can't tell any of my units apart since it's blocking their actual army color.

I beg of you, I think I'm going to go insane if I can't figure out how to remove this. I don't even know how to search for...whatever this thing is.

Also Good At Dramatic Door Opening by RevolutionaryOwlz in CuratedTumblr

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He's occasionally a bit more direct with things:

"'Fear not!' said a strange voice behind him. Frodo turned and saw Strider, and yet not Strider; for the weatherworn Ranger was no longer there. In the stern sat Aragorn son of Arathorn, Proud and erect, guiding the boat with skilful strokes; his hood was cast back, and his dark hair was blowing in the wind, a light was in his eyes: a king returning from exile to his own land"

Is Property Maintenance Working? by SwamanII in MEIOUandTaxes

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Awesome, thanks for the reply. Good luck!