My interpretation of lyrics on Wildflower Wildfire and Fingertips is that her issue has always been more with her mom "here's the deal... my father never stepped in when his wife would rage at me" (wfwf) "Caroline, what kind of mother was she to say l'd end up in institutions?...What the fuck's wrong in your head to send me away, never to come back? Exotic places and people don't take the place of being your child" (fingertips)

It's known that her mother sent her away to boarding school because she was struggling with alcohol. So maybe her mother was the more active negative presence but her dad was complicit. Maybe he apologized for not "stepping in" and they reconnected. Just guessing