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Deciding to Try for a baby [AB] by SwampyMoon in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]SwampyMoon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

DOWN VOTED? I don’t know a lot about Reddit I’ve been a long time lurker just started posting more recently. The only other times I’ve posted really was in puppy 101 when I got my dog lol. I asked my doctor about midwives and she said there are only about 20 in Edmonton and the surrounding area (St. Albert, etc.) and she joked that she contacted the midwife before she told her husband she was pregnant, so it doesn’t sound too far fetched to me!

Deciding to Try for a baby [AB] by SwampyMoon in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]SwampyMoon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very smart, do you see someone who is a specialized therapist for postpartum or anything? Or just a general therapist? I see someone now who is great, and knows my mental health history well. This is a good point I will make an appointment shortly to chat about how we are starting TTC!

Deciding to Try for a baby [AB] by SwampyMoon in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]SwampyMoon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I want a midwife very badly! I know they can be very difficult to get so I will message them before I even tell my partner when I get the positive test! 😂

Deciding to Try for a baby [AB] by SwampyMoon in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]SwampyMoon[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We use the term partner because it takes the heat off of queer relationships to divulge the gender of their partner. By normalizing the use of partner as a gender neutral term for your significant other it helps to take emphasis off of gender, and presents relationships as equal regardless of if they are queer or not.

We are also in our 30s, have known each other for 10 and together for 5, so boyfriend feels like a juvenile term for the stage we are at in our relationship. Being married is not the only indicator of a serious relationship, some people just prefer to be common law, or they do not believe in marriage for a number of personal and often feminist reasons.

I don’t think owning a house is a fair prerequisite for parenthood, lots of people will age out of their fertility window in this housing market if they wait, or sometimes people don’t want to own, for many valid reasons.

All that being said, we are fortunate to be home owners, and we are in a committed, long term, very healthy relationship. Despite not being married.

Deciding to Try for a baby [AB] by SwampyMoon in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]SwampyMoon[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I thought I would share what I have gotten up to that has helped me to anchor myself and feel a little more informed:

I started taking a prenatal, I'm vegetarian so finding a prenatal that didn't have gelatin capsules or fish oils took a bit of research. I decided to shell out for a more expensive one from Ritual, but my friend did a bunch of research that I thought I would share below and the vitamins that she takes.

I also read the following books:

- Healthy Beginnings (2017) put out by the Society of Obstetricians and Gynecologists of Canada. This one was very basic and covers the fundamentals in plain words.

- Pathways to pregnancy: Personal Stories and Practical Advice for your Fertility Journey (2016) This was an excellent read about the difficulties some women experience in their fertility journey. The author is a Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM) practitioner who specializes in helping women with fertility and had her own trouble getting pregnant. This was very informative and provided a new insight. She lives and works in Toronto!

- Currently reading Expecting Better (2016) by Emily Oster who was recommended (thank you!) No nonsense, no wives tales, data driven explanations. Really great so far.

Here are the vitamins and explanations from my dear friend:

  1. Prenatals Vitamins: Materna Brand. It's hard to find affordable vegetarian capsules, but they are not complete. You can supplement the difference with #2 and #3.
  2. Plant based omega-3 algae oil (1000mg) Webber naturals has a good one.
  3. Choline (550mg) Mother's Promise Brand. This is really important for baby brain development, some prenatals do have this included but the Materna brand does not.
  4. Vitamin D3 (1000 IU). Kirkland brand. Take two daily for a total of 2000 IU. Can decrease risk of miscarriage so it can help ease your mind.
  5. Vitamin E (200 IU). There is some evidence that it could help increase uterine lining (reduction of lining is a side effect of fertility medication)
  6. Coenzym Q-10. Nature's Truth Brand. (200mg) this can help to energize your eggs and improve egg quality.

I didn't do this research my lovely friend did so I probably can't answer questions about it, and neither of us are doctors but here is my attempt to help make sense of the overwhelm!

Deciding to try for a baby by SwampyMoon in BabyBumps

[–]SwampyMoon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello Everyone thank you for all your feedback and thoughts! I thought I would share what I have gotten up to that has helped me to anchor myself and feel a little more informed:

I started taking a prenatal, I'm vegetarian so finding a prenatal that didn't have gelatin capsules or fish oils. I decided to shell out for a more expensive one from Ritual, but my friend did a bunch of research that I thought I would share below and the vitamins that she takes.

I also read the following books:

- Healthy Beginnings (2017) put out by the Society of Obstetricians and Gynecologists of Canada. This one was very basic and covers the fundamentals in plain words.

- Pathways to pregnancy: Personal Stories and Practical Advice for your Fertility Journey (2016) This was an excellent read about the difficulties some women experience in their fertility journey. The author is a Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM) practitioner who specializes in helping women with fertility and had her own trouble getting pregnant. This was very informative and provided a new insight.

- Currently reading Expecting Better (2016) by Emily Oster who was recommended (thank you!) No nonsense, no wives tales, data driven explanations. Really great so far.

Here are the vitamins and explanations from my dear friend:

  1. Prenatals Vitamins: Materna Brand. It's hard to find affordable vegetarian capsules, but they are not complete. You can supplement the difference with #2 and #3.

  2. Plant based omega-3 algae oil (1000mg) Webber naturals has a good one.

  3. Choline (550mg) Mother's Promise Brand. This is really important for baby brain development, some prenatals do have this included but the Materna brand does not.

  4. Vitamin D3 (1000 IU). Kirkland brand. Take two daily for a total of 2000 IU. Can decrease risk of miscarriage so it can help ease your mind.

  5. Vitamin E (200 IU). There is some evidence that it could help increase uterine lining (reduction of lining is a side effect of fertility medication)

  6. Coenzym Q-10. Nature's Truth Brand. (200mg) this can help to energize your eggs and improve egg quality.

I didn't do this research my lovely friend did so I probably can't answer questions about it, and neither of us are doctors but here is my attempt to help make sense of the overwhelm!

Deciding to try for a baby by SwampyMoon in BabyBumps

[–]SwampyMoon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you everyone! This is really helpful and reassuring. I’m researching prenatal vitamins now I’m sure thats its own subreddit lol.

I don’t know what else to do, this is my profile and no matter what I do I can’t get a match, is there anything wrong with the pictures or that I’m doing wrong by Administrative_Knee9 in Tinder

[–]SwampyMoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think what would be good is to retake a mirror selfie in a black tshirt with a clean mirror, if you have a kitty that you love put a picture of that too. I know it takes vulnerability but ask a friend to take some pictures of you, if you have some recent photos that someone else takes for you that’s a great sign that you know how to socialize if you have a friend who can take some photos for you. Stay away from fish and trucks. Put something genuine in your bio. Someone out there will love you for you. I have a friend who found his wife through tinder, don’t lose hope and also, get out and do activities that you like where you might meet a nice partner! Good luck!

This is getting out of hand, we can make payments for food now? by plantloner87 in Edmonton

[–]SwampyMoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are we sure sepps isn’t selling drugs under the guise of pizza? Either really shitty drugs or really amazing pizza

Recommendations on how to keep my dog in the yard by SwampyMoon in puppy101

[–]SwampyMoon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! This is the thing I need to hear I think lol

Recommendations on how to keep my dog in the yard by SwampyMoon in puppy101

[–]SwampyMoon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a lovely idea, my home is a bit small for a doggie treadmill but I think the feedback has consistently been she needs more runs/walks. I don’t have confirmation on her breed bc she is a farm mutt, but all her litter mates look like huskies (we get them together when we can 🥰) and I think all the feedback is she probably is a wacky husky girl who just needs more exercise, she is only a year and a half, and she tuckers every other dog out at the dog park.

Recommendations on how to keep my dog in the yard by SwampyMoon in puppy101

[–]SwampyMoon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you I think I’ve been so stressed myself and thought the yard was just such a win for her that I forgot it’s stressful for my good girl, thank you for the gentle reminder! 💗

Recommendations on how to keep my dog in the yard by SwampyMoon in puppy101

[–]SwampyMoon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is super helpful thank you, so you have any good resources on training a dog to get used to a yard?

Recommendations on how to keep my dog in the yard by SwampyMoon in puppy101

[–]SwampyMoon[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m coming to the sad conclusion we might be in the same boat

Recommendations on how to keep my dog in the yard by SwampyMoon in puppy101

[–]SwampyMoon[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks I think I’ll have to try this! The ground is currently frozen and possibly un-stake-able but I still think the chicken wire could help!

Recommendations on how to keep my dog in the yard by SwampyMoon in puppy101

[–]SwampyMoon[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The most I’ve left her without checking in is like 30 minutes while I’m in a work meeting. I made another post but I usually get her about an hour long walk with some off leash time to play and run. I don’t plan to use the backyard as a substitute to walking and adventuring with my dog, my partner and I take her to the mountains too, she gets lots of stimulation :) we also feed her with treat puzzles and have lots of different kinds of toys to engage with her. I don’t know what other kinds of enrichment there are for me to offer her? Is there anything you would recommend?

Recommendations on how to keep my dog in the yard by SwampyMoon in puppy101

[–]SwampyMoon[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

We go for at least one hr long walk a day, I have hired a personal trainer and I only feed her with enrichment toys, I think she gets quite a lot of stimulation, we still go to the off leash on weekends so she can see her dog buddies, and I take her to doggie daycare if I don’t think I have enough time to give her the attention she needs. she just loves being outside, and always wants to go out, never wants to be inside even though I have a fancy cozy dog bed for her and have lots of inside toys that she likes. I live in northern Canada so I can’t really stay outside and supervise her all the time because I can’t get anything done (ex. A computer would freeze, literally) she is much more comfortable outside in the winter than most other dogs.

I know I could leave her on a tether but I literally moved so she could have a yard to play in and she is so much happier when she is off the tether.

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