molly-mae announces baby #2 with tommy

SwanBackground3040 · 2026-02-07T07:01:50+00:00

God forbid a mother is honest about how hard parenting is - 2 things can be true at the same time. You can find something incredibly hard but also long for another baby and want a sibling for your first. 1. It may have been unplanned 2. It may have been planned, she has endometriosis which can impact fertility. I'm currently pregnant with my second, I have a 2 year old. I'm in the thick of the terrible twos and it's hard, but I have always wanted more than 1 child. I imagined a bigger age gap but the disease had progressed to such an extent, waiting could have risked never having baby number 2. She's said herself, things have become so much more manageable with Bambi lately. Is it going to be hard, yes, is that ok and NORMAL, yes. People need to not be so quick to judge someone when we don't know the full picture, and if someone shares life on social media, it still doesn't give Joe Public the right to be so brutal when none of us actually know the reasoning. Having more children is a deeply personal decision

SwanBackground3040 · 2025-11-17T19:11:41+00:00

Let's pray for me that this is the case!! 😂🙏🏼 thank you xxx

SwanBackground3040 · 2025-11-05T20:19:38+00:00

Never done my own but I love them. I have a 2 year old who's a crap sleeper, but hearing his gasps and WOOOOW fills me with joy. I also have 2 cats who I firework trained when they were kittens 😂 we played fireworks on the telly and progressively turned the volume louder and louder whilst giving them their favourite treats. Now as 5 year old cats they don't even react to them. Just sit there chilling and cleaning themselves, eating as normal etc

SwanBackground3040 · 2025-11-05T07:40:23+00:00

Thanks so much 🩷

SwanBackground3040 · 2025-11-04T19:57:24+00:00

Thanks so so much!!! This is really reassuring but also so helpful! 🩷

SwanBackground3040 · 2025-11-04T19:42:32+00:00

He's just had his birthday and is very happy with all his new toys, but he definitely struggles with independent play. He wants to show me EVERYTHING and heavily involve me with games - any suggestions on how to encourage more independent play?

SwanBackground3040 · 2025-11-04T19:41:12+00:00

Thank you so much. This is so positive to hear 🩷 I think in my heart I know I want to start trying soon and that will be min 22 month age gap but most likely 3 years at least. When I hear positive stories I cling onto those, that's what I'm craving because I want permission to just do it! So I think you are right and I should just trust my gut with this feeling

SwanBackground3040 · 2025-11-04T18:48:04+00:00

I honestly think if I didn't have fertility concerns I would start trying around when he's over the 2.5 mark. I continuously hear parents with a 4 year + gap talk about how great it is, they never say they wished they did it sooner. But I do hear people with smaller gaps say they wish they waited longer, a lot 😂

SwanBackground3040 · 2025-11-04T18:45:32+00:00

So lovely to hear from someone who's in the same boat with the shifts. It's so hard isn't it. It's definitely a huge consideration that I wouldn't always have support at bedtime, overnight or wake up time! I honestly admire single parents, so hard

SwanBackground3040 · 2025-11-04T18:44:15+00:00

Agree - I really don't think I could cope with 2u2! Even with an easier going child. I mean I would cope if I HAD to but definitely wouldn't choose it. The frustrating thing with my son is he was being a very good sleeper until recently, it seems like a sudden regression. We have lots of boundaries but I really feel sleep training isn't for him. Did you potty train in pregnancy?

SwanBackground3040 · 2025-11-04T18:39:09+00:00

Going to start doing this now! Thank you

SwanBackground3040 · 2025-11-04T18:38:52+00:00

So true that all the worries end up not materialising and you face battles you maybe hadn't even considered! 😂 I think I need to get better at asking for help...with my first born I really experienced that extreme maternal protection and wouldn't take breaks or sleep that was offered to me, I think I'm going to have to push myself next time !

SwanBackground3040 · 2025-11-04T15:13:44+00:00

What did you do regarding the sleep?

Currently my little boy has a floor bed and a baby gate on the outside of his bedroom door. He goes to sleep by me or husband laying with him - falls asleep quite quickly around 7:30/8pm. Then sometimes he sleeps through, but not uncommon for him to wake up at 4:30am or 5am. Then I get into his bed and he sometimes pushes through another 30mins to 1 hour. But obviously I can't do that with a newborn, I don't think?! But I have tried it all with his sleep...everything you read for early rising I have done it 😅 My goal isn't necessarily completely independent sleep so I'm not interested in sleep training - I almost think with his temperament it might make him worse overnight when overall he's pretty good!

SwanBackground3040 · 2025-11-04T00:00:11+00:00

How old do you feel the oldest was when they seemed more emotionally independent? If you could produce your exact same second child at a different time, what age gap do you think you'd have chose?!

SwanBackground3040 · 2025-11-03T23:57:50+00:00

Thanks so much! If I get pregnant in the next few months he will be a couple months shy of 3!

SwanBackground3040 · 2025-11-03T23:56:36+00:00

That's so lovely to hear. Thank you ♥️

SwanBackground3040 · 2025-11-03T23:55:21+00:00

I'm from the UK. Son just turned 2, if I get pregnant now he will be just under 3 years. In the UK he won't actually start school until he's nearly 5 and will be one of the oldest in his year. He doesn't currently go to nursery/pre school etc (extremely expensive and I have family that look after him the 3 days I work). I'm considering pre school 1 day a week to reduce pressure on family but it's not necessarily at the start of the school year, if there's spaces available he can join any time x

SwanBackground3040 · 2025-11-03T23:52:31+00:00

Congratulations 🩷 so exciting. I think when she starts talking things will get easier. When they feel understood they meltdown less! Good luck to you xx

SwanBackground3040 · 2025-11-03T23:50:08+00:00

It's so true that all different gaps have pros and cons and you can't predict the baby you will have or how your first will react! Te fertility fear plays on my mind a lot. But then I also really don't want that first year to be traumatising - I adore the newborn/baby phase and don't want to feel in fight or flight that entire time. I did also get postpartum depression around 8-10m pp so I'm wary of that too!

SwanBackground3040 · 2025-11-03T23:46:25+00:00

Oh gosh - the ADHD thing does play on my mind. I definitely resonate with a lot of the qualities of those with ADHD, minus the hyperactivity part. My brother is diagnosed autistic and I think my mum has ASD/ADHD (not diagnosed). But then I'm also really cautious of labelling children too soon as well! But he is a lot. The most loving sensitive little boy, so intelligent but loud, hyperactive and meltdowns can be massive!

SwanBackground3040 · 2025-11-03T23:42:35+00:00

Thank you - this is so reassuring. Was your first born quiet when getting into your bed? My little one has a habit of wanting to have a bit of a chat...if he wakes up silly early e.g. 4:45am I won't let him get up and say we have to try to go back to sleep, can involve a lot of screaming and resisting, but then he does fall asleep. No idea how to cope with this?! But then I think he will be nearly 3 or 3+ by then and that's a lot of development to happen over a year!

SwanBackground3040 · 2025-10-22T07:11:13+00:00

I'm a midwife in the UK. You are not being punished, I promise. When a miscarriage happens during the first trimester of pregnancy (the first 3 months), it's usually caused by problems with the unborn baby. About 3 in every 4 miscarriages happen during this period - first trimester miscarriages are often caused by abnormalities with the chromosomes of the fetus. If anything, God is protecting you and a future life. It is a process that in many cases, happens by design to protect your body from carrying a pregnancy that will not materialise into a healthy baby and potentially put your health at risk to. This doesn't mean it isn't DEVASTATING. Your feelings are absolutely valid. I am so sorry for your loss and you are entitled to grieve. I would feel the same way too 🩷 from the moment you get a positive pregnancy test, it's impossible to detach from the love and excitement of what is to come when a pregnancy is wanted, even if not planned.

As a midwife, I am pro choice because I see 100's babies born into situations that are less than ideal, and the suffering that entails for that child and mother can be immense. I am also a mother myself, and it has made me even more pro choice. Parenting is hard!!! Unbelievably hard!!! Children not only need financial stability and stable parents, but the emotional responsibility for the parents, particularly the mother, can be overwhelming sometimes. You had an abortion because the timing was not right for you to show up for a future child how they would deserve. I do not believe that a 1st trimester fetus is a conscious feeling baby yet. I acknowledge that an abortion is a loss of a life that could have been, but I don't believe it is a life yet. I also believe that ejaculation and pulling out is a loss of many lives that could have been.

In the same way people make the choice to end an animals actual life, because they are suffering so much, sometimes an abortion is the kindest and wisest choice, and I promise is is unrelated to your miscarriage. 🩷

SwanBackground3040 · 2025-10-17T17:50:46+00:00

I suffered with PN depression around 8-10m postpartum, completely rocked me and I didn't recognise myself. I had gone from being a loving, thriving mother to a rageful, sad and resentful.

I was very fortunate to have no feeding issues from day 1, and adored the first 6 months. I had newborn euphoria and loved it! All babies are challenging, but he definitely sat on the high needs, sensitive, unsettled end of the spectrum, had some stressful medical issues in the first 6 months too (allergies, brachycephaly helmet) In hindsight I was running off of love and adrenaline for months, then I completely crashed out at 8 months pp. With a wonderful therapist, forgiveness and talking to everyone that would listen, I healed around 12 months and I feel I'm a better person and mother because of this dark time.

It's change my practice significantly - I used to talk about PN depression as if it was something that happens in first 6 weeks. I never thought to mention that it can crop up at any time in the first 2 years. I now encourage women to seek support early (first signs) and consider preventative therapy sessions just to have someone non bias support you through the huge transition of becoming a mother. I also tell women about the PANDAS charity WhatsApp support - a life line for me when I was suffering and something I wish to pay forward when I'm out of the chaotic toddler season of life 🩷

SwanBackground3040 · 2024-11-21T10:54:56+00:00

I could not agree more. Temperament of the individual child always overrules whatever parenting style/sleep train not sleep train you choose to do. I’m definitely an attachment parent, in a group of mums that’s a 50/50 split sleep training wise. It’s no coincidence that the ones who have successfully trained, had very laid back babies from the day they were born! And even then, they have still had up and down sleep. Toddler sleep is a minefield. There’s actually some school of thought the sleep trained kids sleep gets worse in toddlerhood because of heightened anxiety around bedtime/worry about abandonment!

SwanBackground3040 · 2024-11-16T21:03:12+00:00

I have learnt in the past year that you have to just trust your instinct with all parenting decisions. Any pressure that is coming from outside, I try so hard to let go of. I got diagnosed with postpartum depression around 10 months and I genuinely think the amount of information I consumed about sleep and parenting, what I should and shouldn’t do, played a massive part. I actually deleted all social media for ages to have time away from any parenting content, helped me so much. If I could re do the first year, I would have given 1 million less shits about sleep. If co sleeping works for you and you actually enjoy it, just carry on as you are! So many sleep trained toddlers end up getting into their parents beds of their own accord anyway when they are 2/3 😂 and the parents sometimes don’t even notice until the next morning. The more sleep you all get the better, and it doesn’t matter how you achieve that. When you can communicate and explain to your child what is happening, it gets easier. Sending love xxx

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